r/pottytraining

My 5 year old will poop on the toilet just fine but will always wet himself if he needs to pee I started potty training before his 2nd birthday and I’m still stuck

Hi!

I've been starting to do a real push for potty training over the past week. My son is a few months past three. I haven't done no pants or anything, just keeping him in diapers for now and doing a lot of hype around earning candies and prizes for stickers on his chart etc.

My first goal was just to get him more comfortable with sitting on the potty and trying to pee, and he's been getting the hang of that pretty well. Now trying to work on the staying dry piece and it is going...feels like nowhere lol.

The past couple of days (home with me for the weekend), he will do like a tablespoon of pee when I sit him on his potty, then say there is no more left (and I do have him sit a bit longer to make sure). Then 10 minutes later he does a big pee in his diaper. I'm trying to tell him that I'm not angry, just confused why it keeps happening!

He is semi bought into potty training (loves earning the prizes but the novelty is definitely wearing off).

Anyone dealt with this? I would love any ideas!

I have a newly turned 3 year old who has been pee potty trained for 6 months. Poop, on the other hand, has been a struggle (which I know is very common). I tried not to push it. We encourage her to poop on the potty. She's done it a couple times but hasn't been consistent. She was the same with peeing on the potty. We tried to push it and it went nowhere. One day she woke up, said she was "done with diapers" and has been peeing on the potty since then.

When she turned 3, she had a change in her mentality about pooping on the potty. She was honestly really excited, saying that she was a "big girl now" and that she was going to poop on the potty. And she did! I honestly thought we were on the other side. She was wearing her underwear, excited about going to the bathroom, etc. but then 3 days later, she had a poop accident in her underwear at preschool and completely regressed back. She's refusing to wear underwear, says that she can't poop on the potty and that it "hurts to poop" on the potty or that she has to stand to poop.

Whenever she's had an accident, we brush it off and tell her it's fine, accidents happen, etc. But she just totally shuts down when it happens. She gets so upset and it completely shakes her confidence. Does anyone have any recommendations on how to help your toddler regain their confidence after having an accident?

Our son has been “potty trained” since April of this year. He is now 34 months old (will be 3 in December) and we are still having issues with him self initiating, but for pee only! Strangely enough he never has poop accidents and will tell us he has to go.

He will pee on the toilet or potty if we tell him to but will not self initiate. He will tell us he has peed his pants or if he has let a little bit out and his underwear is a bit wet and then we take him to the potty to finish up. I cannot figure out how to get him to self initiate.

I’ve tried prompting less and that hasn’t worked. We have tried rewards, we have bought cool underwear that he picked out, make him put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket and change into new clothes etc.

I’m at my breaking point. Please if anyone has any ideas or has experienced this please let me know.

Fyi - he still wears a diaper at bed time. He doesn’t nap anymore. We did the Oh crap model back in April.

My daughter has been potty trained for over 6 months now and night potty trained for about 3. We keep a potty and toilet paper in her bedroom and she wakes up herself and goes to the potty. She used to call for us to come wipe her, but recently she has been wiping herself. I would love this except we potty trained pretty young and she is not quite 2 and a half. She is very independent which I love to encourage but I’m not very confident that this is sanitary. I can normally catch her in time and then help her and help her to wash her hands but yesterday she pooped in the potty during her nap, wiped herself, and put her pants back on. She seemed to actually do a decent job but I feel a little unsure.

Any tips on how to teach a young 2 year old how to wipe?

Our toddler will be 3 the coming Jan.
First off, I wanted to potty train her as soon as she turned 2, but I got pregnant and had HG hence it never happened. But she started pretend playing by herself since she turned 2, she would stop whatever she is doing, go to a corner, pretend to pee-wipe-flush-hand wash and get back to her “work”.

After having the baby in July, there were 2 attempts to train her but she resisted, I had repeat mastitis and was too tired to even try more so I let it be.

Fast forward to now, a week ago one day when she woke up, I removed her diaper and put her on the toilet to pee, she did the whole routine. I prepped her the night before and said we would start training from tomorrow and she would get one chocolate chip every time she went. The day went as planned without any accidents. Of course I started putting her on the toilet every 40 mins so maybe that helped. She did not poop that day. Put on training pants only at night.

The next day she wanted to poop as soon as she woke up but resisted, I carried her there and showed her a 2 min potty training rhyme as she pooped. Went well. She started telling me when she needs to pee throughout the day. Third day, she did have one poop accident but she continued telling us when she needed to pee.
It has been a week now and she is fully trained since day 4, resists sometimes but does not throw a fit, when she resists I do not give in, carry her to the toilet as she screams and she knows she no longer has the choice of using a diaper. She calms down once she is on the toilet and actually enjoys that time, gives me all her park gossip and asks me about all the soaps and shampoos she sees in the bathroom.

Last night although she had her training pants on, she woke me in the middle of the having to pee and I was pleasantly surprised. She is completely trained now.

Few tips which I think worked for us -

1. Do not give in if they resist unless it is a really bad meltdown, put them on the toilet and start talking to them, whatever story/song/question distracts them.
2. Keep reminding them through out the day that they need to pee, do not use training pants during the day.
3. Dont make accidents a big deal, dont tell anyone they had an accident.
4. Give them a kiss every-time they go and tell them how brave they are, how smart they are to have learnt so fast.
5. Spend a lot of time with them throughout the day during the first few days. I had my mom help with the baby and spent all my time with the toddler.
6. Be very patient, never loose your cool, be firm but never angry or frustrated.
7. You know your kid best, ignore any advice that does not fit your situation and remember every kid is different, they take their own time, some might just need more help. Do not stress yourself out if things do not go as planned.

Also, I am a SAHM so did this by myself, I heard that teachers train them at daycares and Montessoris and that works well too. Hope this post helps some of you all.

Hi! I am hoping for some input about our little boy 3.5 year old whose potty progress has seemingly plateaud for the last 4 or so months. Me and my husband are frustrated and sort of… confused about how things could be so stubbornly the same over this stretch!

He was probably 90% potty trained in May-June before his third birthday, then had a pretty good regression (is this even the right term? Again…. Confused, lol) when he moved daycare classes. Back to having 2-3 accidents per day. We went back to basics which seemed to do nothing, and even went back to 2 weeks of pull ups at the daycare teachers suggestion when we felt like the emotional temperature had been turned up too high re: accidents. We’ve done rewards etc.

It just seems for the last 3 months he does not even make any attempt to avoid an accident, doesn’t make any reference to a physical sensation of starting to pee/poop, freaks out when we just put him on the potty because it’s been a few hours.

I am super duper frustrated, running out of laundry detergent, and feel partly like I’m being manipulated by a tiny psychological terrorist. Would take any tips!
Thanks!

My little boy is 2,5 and we started officially potty training last Thursday although we have had him use the potty since 1,5. Today is Sunday and he only had 1 (half) accident were he only started running to his potty when he already started peeing a little. This was the very first use of the potty of the day so I guess he just needed a little reminder. We do a diaper for his nap and sleep and have stayed home for all 4 days.

Now what do we do? We cannot go anywhere without having his potty within running distance but we are getting stir crazy. Do I put him in a diaper for an outing? He is completely uninterested in using the toilet at this point, although he does happily empty his potty and flush.

Also, on Tuesday he will be going to daycare (only day of daycare this week) so I guess he will be trying out being potty trained outside the house there for the first time. I am unsure whether to just send him in a diaper for the day or expect him to use the toilet there.

I know I am rambling but please let me know how you transitioned through this early phase of potty training. We seem to have had a good start but I dont know where to go from here!