u/slippery_when_wet

Started potty training our now 2yr 9month son in March before he started daycare. In the last 5 months he has been pretty consistently having no accidents 4-5 days a week and about 2 days a week he will have 3+ accidents per day. They do tend to be days when he is at daycare. But even after coming home he will continue having more accidents the rest of the day.

We use diapers at night, but otherwise its been cold turkey underwear only. Only exception was when he was staying the night at grandma and grandpa's 4th of July weekend and they put him in diapers leaving the house.

Just curious how to help him on these days he struggles or if its normal and expected?

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Im 11 weeks pregnant and really in the thick of being nauseous at all times. We have a family vacation scheduled to the San Juans and I'm dreading the ferry ride. Im sure someone with seasickness has found that magical spot on the ferry that isnt as bad. Or do I just resign myself to spending the whole ferry ride in the bathroom?

I need to try things on in person, especially pants. Is there anywhere that still had in person maternity section? Second hand is good, the cheaper the better.

Found out im pregnant with my second. Panicking

Just took the home pregnancy test after realizing my period was late. Im freaking out. My husband always wanted a lot of kids. I wanted 2 or 3, but have been overwhelmed with just 1 (currently 2.5) that I had gone back and forth on wanting another. I really want two kids when they are older, but do not want two little kids! Im not great with either the infant or toddler stage, just constantly overwhelmed.

My husband is a pilot so often gone for days at a time and Im not sure how itll be with me on my own for a lot of it. I also work 32 hours a week (8-5 Monday-Thursday) as a nurse, so no work from home option. My employer doesn't have any maternity leave that I Know of, but I am in Washington which has paid leave.

With my first my husband was in the military stationed oversees so everything was easy-ish. One hospital option, I didn't have a work visa so wasnt able to work anyway, so I was SAHM for the first year until we moved back to the states. No one had family around so the spouse/new mom/squadron was do so so supportive and had TONS of resources and activities.

Now my family is all around a 3-4 hour drive away. I make $7600 a month (pre tax and deductions) but daycare for our one toddler is $2500 so once we're paying for a second I dont know if that'd be worth working anymore. Ive been SAHM twice now. One year in Germany and 4 months when my husband left the military and we moved to our current spot. Those 4 months almost broke me. I was constantly overwhelmed/overtouched/over stimulated. I think this would be even worse now that my husband is often gone 4 or 5 days at a time. Without daycare costs my husbands salary could support us, so i dont HAVE to work, but I want to. We also want to buy a house and with me working too we can do that sooner (hoprfully). But also I have no idea how much Id be able to function with the lack of sleep an infant brings.

Im just not excited for the stress of the next 5ish years and still am not sure if id be super sad if it ended up being a false positive (altho the lines were pretty clear and I am a week late). Also selfishly I just FINALLY got my workout mojo and have been steadily losing the baby weight from the first go around. Im almost to my prebaby weight and now ill have to start all over. Its been a struggle. :'(

It started with a message around 2 weeks ago asking if he has started crying I fear using the potty at home. We haven't had any changes in using the toilet at home in fact we are to where we rarely have accidents (poop maybe once a week or peeing when he's distracted playing. But it has continued at daycare. They said there hasn't been a single time in the last 2 weeks he hasn't cried when they prompt hin to potty or he starts to pee. They read him stories or sing songs on the toilet which distracts him and stops the crying until the song/story ends and hes right back to freaking out.

The only thing we can think of is that hebstarted to only use the little floor potty at home and has gone away from the big potty. Daycare has a big potty. Im not sure if its become associated with public bathrooms? Thats the only place we have ever had him freak out and cry trying to get him to use the potty with us. He used to use the big and little equally at home but now its almost 100% floor potty.

How do you transition to the big potty? Or is there some other trigger you've dealt with that im not thinking of?

I dont know I just need to vent to someone that understands maybe. My husband was a military pilot and in January became a first officer at a major airlines. We moved back to our hometown which is a domicile for his airline and thought life was going to be better. But he is based out of another airport and has only been reserve and gets converted to short call every time. He has to fly down the night before, is usually gone 4-5 days between short call and whatever trip he ends up on and then flys home the next day after hes done. Ive seen him 3 days in the last month. Its not like im not used to it, he was a military pilot 13 years and i was with him that whole time, we have made it through 5 deployments. I can be independent but i dont want to anymore. We have a 2 year old and I work full time and im just so overwhelmed and want him to be home and I wish he hadn't become a pilot even tho he absolutely loves loves loves it. I feel selfish for wishing he had a normal 9-5 and wishing I could predict his schedule a little bit. Im paying for babysitters on top of daycare since I have no childcare whenever I need appointments for myself. I had to drive myself to a biopsy for a cancer scare. My car was hit a month ago and there hasnt been a single day ive been able to drop it off at the mechanic and get a ride to the car rental because he has not been home a single day theyve been open. He put in the bid to switch his base to our city but he didn't get it. And now I just feel hopeless and like the timeline for this all to pay off is pushed out to infinity.

People who've made it thru: how long does it take to get better? Is there a big difference once they are no longer commuting? I've got my fingers crossed that happens soon and I get to see him again.

My car was parked in a parking lot when another car backed into my rear passenger door, it is pretty dented but damage is right in the middle so it opens and closes just fine. I got the other drivers insurance and based on the fact my car was parked without me in it, it seems pretty clear-cut that the other driver is at fault. Ive never been in any sort of accident before so this is all new.

Im confused on if I should file with my insurance (USAA) or the other drivers insurance (Allstate)? Seems like USAA will be quicker but Allstate will be cheaper (not needing to pay the deductible). Is the deductible reimbursed in a case like this? The other driver does live about 3 hours away in another state.

Also there was a carseat in the car on the rear passenger side if that comes into play and makes a difference at all.

I started a new job downtown tomorrow and am looking for the best lunch spots. Places that are quick and cheap-er (relatively. It is bellevue i get that.) Ill have 1 hour and work between H-Mart and the downtown park.

So far I know of Seoul Bowl and Evergreens. Those are the only places I've eaten at. Looking for anything tasty, no restrictions.