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Hey all, looking for honest and kind feedback! My daughter is 22 months old, she’s been consistently telling me she has to poop on the toilet and actually pooping on the toilet for well over a month now, pee has been 0 times and at a loss.

Tried again today, using bottomless method at home. (In past she’d just pee but not really care when I tried this method). She held it quite a while but finally let a little out, ran her to toilet and told her it’s okay if she had to finish going & read her books. She didn’t go which was fine; she helped me clean up the mess. Then a few minutes later she’s SCREAMING bloody murder, terrified. I admittedly didn’t put 2/2 together and think she had to pee… so held her asked what was wrong and out came the flood gates. She SCREAMED as if so terrified tho. I don’t want this experience to be scary or traumatic to her. She’s never acted this way in the past. She has no rash or UTI signs.

Is this a sign to put it on pause again for now- or is it a sign to keep going bottomless? I’m confused and conflicted because on one hand it shows she was aware she was about to go right before and obviously during but… her screaming like that.. like I said I don’t want her scared to go!
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Thankful this sub exists, you’ve all helped me so much in the past and I’m back again 🫠

My daughter is 2 weeks shy of 21 months. She just 6 days ago got a cold & major congestion so at night, we both went in and helped her get comfortable more because she was distressed and yelled for us. (wiped her nose, gave water, picked her up even 😬) prior to this she slept through the night or if she woke she could put herself back to sleep.

Can us going in and helping her be comfortable for a few nights ruin all the amazing sleep training and sleep skills she had OR Is there coincidentally a terrible sleep regression at this age?? NAPS have even been affected.

Let me also start by saying my spouse used to handle 100% of middle of night wakings, when she was sick we tag teamed and sometimes she just wanted her mama when sick so I took over. NOW 6 days later she’s a NIGHTMARE to put down for both bedtimes and naps. I’m talking she stand and screams and protests, last night was 2 HOURS. Then she woke at 11:30 and was up screaming another 2. We the sleep training last night again, where my spouse sits in chair in room and doesn’t engage with her. (Prior night she stood and screamed so intense she hyperventilated and we were in and out of the room). Naps have become the same.

We used to be able to do our routine, lay her down, say goodnight and she’d fall asleep on her own.

DID WE MESS UP? How do we fix this!?

Routine:
Wakes around 6:45-7:15
Nap: 12:45-1:45 ish
Bedtime: between 7:30-8
Routine: bath, books, sleep sack, sound machine & lay her in her crib

TLDR: daughter got sick so we did extra support overnight for 5 nights and her independent sleep skills are gone. Is it because of us or is there a coincidental sleep regression at this age!? Help lol

Hello! Looking for insight :)

My daughter turns 20 months old next week. I got her a mini toilet months ago, and last month a ladder one for the toilet seat. She was afraid of the big one at first so I backed off. She used the small one like a toy lol. This morning after breakfast she asked to sit on the ladder one!! So I helped her on, gave her a little treat and read her a book. She didn’t go, but sitting is a huge step for her.

I thought maybe that’s a sign she’s ready so put her in the training undies. She had 4 accidents within 40 minutes lol. Just said “uh oh” each time and helped me or watched clean it up. At lunchtime she did it in her high chair but wasn’t aware which made me question if maybe I shouldn’t do this yet?

Truly I don’t know what I’m doing, I am a SAHM basically (work online during naptime and nights) so just wondering any tips or if I am rushing her right now? Should I back off and not have done the training pants? Idkkk! Help lol

After the 4 accidents I did keep her nude on the bottom until nap time.

Hello! Looking for insight :)

My daughter turns 20 months old next week. I got her a mini toilet months ago, and last month a ladder one for the toilet seat. She was afraid of the big one at first so I backed off. She used the small one like a toy lol. This morning after breakfast she asked to sit on the ladder one!! So I helped her on, gave her a little treat and read her a book. She didn’t go, but sitting is a huge step for her.

I thought maybe that’s a sign she’s ready so put her in the training undies. She had 4 accidents within 40 minutes lol. Just said “uh oh” each time and helped me or watched clean it up. At lunchtime she did it in her high chair but wasn’t aware which made me question if maybe I shouldn’t do this yet?

Truly I don’t know what I’m doing, I am a SAHM basically (work online during naptime and nights) so just wondering any tips or if I am rushing her right now? Should I back off and not have done the training pants? Idkkk! Help lol

After the 4 accidents I did keep her nude on the bottom until nap time.

Hello! New to this sub but been reading some of them this morning!

My daughter turns 20 months old next week. I got her a mini toilet months ago, and last month a ladder one for the toilet seat. She was afraid of it at first so I backed off. This morning after breakfast she asked to sit on it!! So I helped her on, gave her a little treat and read her a book.

I thought maybe that’s a sign she’s ready so put her in the training undies. She had 4 accidents within 40 minutes lol. Just said “uh oh” each time and helped me or watched clean it up. At lunchtime she did it in her high chair but wasn’t aware which made me question if maybe I shouldn’t do this yet?

Truly I don’t know what I’m doing, I am a SAHM basically (work online during naptime and nights) so just wondering any tips or if I am rushing her right now? Should I back off and not have done the training pants? Idkkk! Help lol

After the 4 accidents I did keep her nude on the bottom until nap time.

My anxiety is so high over this.

I’m 17 weeks and 3 days pregnant currently. Provider did tell me to stop at 13 weeks but I had enough and kept taking them due to my anxiety and now I’m down to my last one.

I take them due to prior chemical pregnancies/losses with low progesterone labs and this is what sustained my first healthy pregnancy but i had a different OB/gyn then and she let me stay on them until 24 weeks.

Logically I’m sure its fine but id love support and positive comments from others who stopped theirs because I am really worrying ://

Hey need some input!

We have a VA home loan, have never been late but have some extenuating and temporary circumstances that have came up. Halting or deferring the mortgage payment would incredibly help us.

(Issues are serious home repair - damaged septic system and is a health hazard and temporary reduced hours due to pregnancy/high medical expense to take care of)

We called our lender in April and they said they can’t even talk to us about forbearance because we’re not and never have been late. She said maybe if we were late to call back again.

It’s 2 days “late” now for May 1st (but really have til May 15) and we just called again (we do have payment but if approved we’d use this for the bills) but they said there’s no option to even apply for this at this time.

Why? What can we do? Should we just pay it and struggle in other aspects?

Just found out I’m pregnant with a little boy !! 🥹

Having the hardest time finding names we like! Our first born daughter is named Willow Sage so looking for something that goes well with that.

We like earthy/nature names that aren’t TOO common but aren’t too out there either!

Any cool ideas!?