After literally years of trying to potty train I'm putting my child (3) back into cloth diapers while we are at home. I am sick of the discussions. Pooping into the toilet works like a charm but pee accidents happen daily. Zero cooperation going to the potty. I'd rather wash cloth diapers again than pants. Rant over.
I tested sleeping on a kapok trifold matress this summer and my night were more restful. I think my old synthetic matress is simply storing too much heat. The air circulation in the kapok matress seems better. Has anyone else experimented with this?
This all is very new to me. I used to think that my social anxiety and depression come from my childhood trauma. Now, I increasingly suspect they come from the combination of being raised by two undiagnosed parents and my own (still undiagnosed) neurodivergence.
How was it like for you to grow up with two undiagnosed parents?
This was/is my experience:
- huge explosive fights between them
- a lot of yelling (seemingly at random) at the children
- they both constantly got defended by their families of origin (my grandparents, aunts and uncles) for "being how they are", we, the children, were expected to understand and accommodate
- both had very few friends and avoided social settings outside the family
- very isolated childhood and youth as a result
- refusal to talk about emotions
- inability to develop an interest in topics not interesting to them
- one parent (the mom in my case), who is more functional is treating the other like an additional child, constantly monitoring their needs to make sure they don't meltdown (which causes her to melt down regualrly because it is so stressful and one-sided)
- the children were described as "being difficult" for wanting normal childhood things (e.g. closer relationships outside the family, trying new/different things)
There is more but that's the gist of it. How was it like for you?
Ich dreh durch. Unser Kind (fast 3) wacht seit Oktober zwischen 4 und 5 auf. An schlimmen Tagen ist es auch mal 3:30 (heute...). Es muss dann bis 6 im Bett liegen bleiben, aber schläft in 95% der Fälle nicht mehr ein.
Mittagsschlaf gibt es seit März nicht mehr. Wir legen es um 17 Uhr ins Bett. Ja, das ist früh, ABER wir haben in langen Versuchen gelernt, dass es noch früher aufwacht, wenn wir es später hinlegen. Beim Einschlafen um 17 Uhr sind meistens 12 Stunden Schlaf bis 5 Uhr morgens möglich. Wenn es später einschläft z.B. wie gestern um 18 Uhr, dann wacht es meistens um 4 oder heute sogar um halb 4 auf - kriegt also nur 11 bis 10,5h Schlaf, was viel zu wenig ist.
Hat irgendwer Erfahrungen mit diesem grauenhaften Schlafverhalten? Unser Leben verläuft inzwischen komplett asychron zu dem der meisten Menschen. Um 16 Uhr beginnt die Abendroutine, ab 13/14 Uhr ist das Kind nur noch knätschig...
Danke schonmal.
Edit: Wichtig ist vllt noch zu wissen, dass das Kind meist direkt nach dem Aufwachen aufs Klo muss (es ist tags trocken, nachts so semi). Vllt ist das ein Grund für das frühe Aufwachen?