u/DrSTAHP

Externally (socially and romantically), they are both equally as bad. What I'm talking about however, is the mental impact of being born unattractive vs becoming unattractive at some point in your life, particularly in your youth (below 30yo). Accidents, balding, infections, acid attacks, you know, these kinds of stuff.

On one hand, you can argue that being born ugly is worse, because you've never got to experience a normal life, unlike someone who became ugly later in life, but on the other hand if you became ugly later in life, the realization of you not being able to live a happy life ever again and keeping the memories from your past deeply ingrained, you're going to be absolutely mentally crushed.

Balding, specifically MPB, is a good example of that because of how common and devastating it is. Imagine a condition that's essentially a ticking time bomb which can bring you from a 7 to a 3 at any point in your life, while giving absolutely no physical indications like pain, discomfort, itching etc. and if you ignore it for too long, it becomes irreversible or the treatment available is not going to produce satisfactory enough results, unless you want to wear wigs for the rest of your life, which has it's own set of issues. That's MPB in a nutshell. Yeah, it's not as drastic as getting acid splashed all over your face while your life is being taken away in less than a second, it's a gradual process, but nevertheless still life-ruining (inb4 "The Rock/Jason Statham/Women like bal...", there's only one Dwayne Johnson and Jason Statham, and no, women don't like bald guys, not even in their 40's, lurk around women-only forums/FB groups and you'll see).

Personally, I'm kind of a mix of both. Used to be good looking as a kid, until puberty nuked my looks to oblivion due to balding and my facial structure getting malformed (still don't fully know the cause of the latter). It was a gradual process though, so I forgot how my life even was, because it's been over a decade since I was a kid.

My first "positive" tagged post, never thought it will happen.

So, I've managed to get myself a low-income source and since I don't drink anymore, don't pay taxes until 26 (22, Poland) and my family, although emotionally abscent, supports me by providing shelter, I've taken my last attempt to unfuck my looks and consequently my life. Yeah, I'm talking saving up for surgeries. I don't have unfixable traits, they do however need surgical intervention. The only thing I'm concearned about is my balding, but there is one positive aspect in that too, ironically.

I've already started by visiting derm and getting Accutane for my freshly acquired moderate acne, as well as topical finasteride. The reason of choosing topical instead of oral is temporary, I used to be on Accutane once and the side effects were rough, don't want to risk escalating them any further with Fin.

Back to balding and the positive aspect, I've started balding at an extremely young age (thanks to my maternal grandfather who went full Norwood 7 at 20), but the thing is that my balding hasn't been progressing further for 3.5 years or so. Like, I was expected to reach Norwood 6 by the time I was 23-24 (so brutal it's beyond absurd), but I've been stuck at Norwood 4A for years now, my crown is still instact. There is a some thinning on the midscalp, but nothing irreversibly cooked in that area (if I take action, which I do). My hairline is gone though, I only have my forelock left. Interestingly enough, my maternal uncle had the same pattern as me, Norwood 4-ish at 20 and kept it to this day in his late 40's.

I plan to use it as an apportunity amongst this overall really unfortunate situation. I've already saved the minimal amount of money in order to fly to Turkey, but obviously, I can't be hastily. I'm doing research on what end result I could expect, reputable clinics, options in Poland, etc. There is no question that a hair transplant is going to by my first surgery to get. Low risk, high reward and reasonable price. Besides, balding, unlike bad facial features, progresses eventually leading you to irreversible stages, even considering surgical routes.

Face is going to be way more rough, hah, I hope you don't think balding is my only issue. My lower third is the main culprit, my upper face is average to slighly below. I don't have a bite misalignment or sleep apnea (tested), but my jaws are visibly lacking in shape and projection (I'm underweight, so it's bones, not fat). This can go two ways: Genio + Mandibular implants. Mid risk, mid reward, cheaper than Trimax. Or just get Trimax, high risk, high reward, expensive. There's no way I'm gonna afford Trimax on my own without insurance coverage (which I won't get due to my lack of health issues). Genio is a minimum AT LEAST. That I could potentially afford.

My ears are also an issue, since they're protruding. They were in fact my first insecurity as a little kid. Thankfully, I used to be good looking back then so people didn't care. Now an otoplasty is on my list of things to do. Not a priority, just something I'd be willing to do in the future.

In the end, if everything goes right, I'm going to ascend from extremely unattractive to borderline average.

I used to be on two of them, got banned due to sending obscure pay gorn thinking it was a funny thing to do LMAO.

I'm certain there are Discord servers people on this sub sit on, but are private/unlisted for obvious reasons. Don't want to be a beggar or something, but I'm lonely af and some socialization could lift me up a 'lil.

Just a low effort rant. It makes my blood boil to think that everything that's enjoyable in life is permanently locked away from me just because I was unlucky on the genetic lottery.

Genetics are the backbone of life quality and if you got unlucky with them the moment you were conceived, your life is pretty much done. You may as well "try to respawn" the moment you are born since there's just pain and torment waiting ahead.

Not only that, there's a statistically observable tendency of good genes (looks and IQ) coming in packages. This brutally destroys this widespread "ugly, but smart / attractive, but stupid" cope. If someone's attractive, then there's a higher probability of them being high IQ and vice versa for ugly people. This correlation may not be visible in the first generations of attractive/unattractive families, but it becomes evident as the family grows. People with good genetics will, more often than not, copulate with each other and the same goes for people with bad genetics, if they even manage to find a mate. This makes this phenomenon more visible with each generation.

Obviously, the real world doesn't exactly function like that every time, hence averageness is a thing, but there still is this correlation of having either most desirable or undesirable features.

omg i hate what i see in da mirrah im so ugly how many surgeries should i get pls halp

my front pic (omg ew)

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my side pic (plz kill meh)

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