tldr: long term relationship, partner is uncertain
About a week and a half ago my gf and I had a hard conversation about if she is sure about me and moving forward with our relationship. We do not live together but our lives are very intertwined, yet we do have our own independent lives and hobbies. We have been together for 3 years.
Since then, we have had productive, hard, conversations trying to get to the root of her uncertainty after taking time and space apart, albeit just a few days. She has sent emotionally charged messages during moments of our low contact, but still has not communicated if she is in/out. She seems genuinely confused.
I leave for a vacation internationally tomorrow and we will not see each other/limited contact for the next week and a half.
I would like to find a path forward, and think there is one if we get to the foundation of her uncertainty.
Is there a checklist on how I should approach when we reconnect in a week and a half? In other people’s experience do people who are uncertain usually come back or is the relationship on its last legs?
Further context: in the last 6mo she has unexpectedly lost her mother and started a new job. A lot of hard change.