Im planning to break up with my long time Gf
Problem/Goal: I want to break up with my GF and Im asking for your guys opinion if valid ba itong nararamdaman ko or selfish lang tlga ako.
(LONG POST AHEAD)
Context: I (26 M) have been thinking about this for a long time now btw 6yrs na kami, pero wala akong lakas ng loob gawin kasi I really love her and Im worried about her living alone since parang naging dependent na cya sakin especially financially. Pero I can't stand it anymore how she treats me despite doing everything for Her.
Nakatira kami sa isang bahay, In terms of financial, Hati kami sa rent, pero ako sagot sa electricity, water and groceries namin. Mostly money related ako talaga sumasalo and then hatid sundo pa yan sa work and all the stuff boyfriends do para lng maging comfortable and contented yong Gf nila.
Pero as time goes on parang balewala lng yong mga ginagawa ko sa kanya, like feeling ko I was taking for granted like hindi ko feel na na appreciate ya yong ginagawa ko. Maingat ako sa sinasabi ko kasi kunting mali lang nagtatampo agad or sarcastic ung sagot kong tatanungin, and since ako nag poprovide ng groceries expected ko talaga na cya ung magluluto pero kong hihintayin pa cguro ikaw nlng magugutom kaya minsan ako na nagluluto. Kong magluto man cya ung mga easy to cook lng like (canned foods, eggs or pancit canton).
In terms of sex, frustrated din ako since high ung sex drive ko, palagi ako nang iinvite sa kanya pero kasi wala cyang gana (low sex drive) hindi din cya stress, minsan nga wala cyang ginagawa sa work (cya nagsabi). Maswerte na yang 1x per week mostly sapilitan pa. Big deal din kasi sakin ung sex huhuh
I work night shift (WFH) and on weekends nag dedeliver ako nang bigas. May sideline din kasi ako na rice business. Kaya palagi masakit katawan ko. Hindi mo din mautusan na e massage ako kasi pagod daw (mind u nakahiga lng yan buong maghapon).
Kaya ayon, despite everything, feeling ko I deserve better and I dont want to be treated like this anymore.
But thats just my side of the story :)
Previous Attempts: I already talked to her regarding all the problems I stated above, and Im constantly reminding her kong ano yong nafefeel ko sa situation namin. I have been dealing and communicating this problems for more than 1yr now. Pero sabi lng nya magbabago cya pero wala pa rin. Im running out of patience and feeling ko habang tumatagal mahihirapan na ako makawala sa relasyon namin.
Thanks for reading :)