r/adviceph

Problem/Goal: Hello! If you would like to read how dumb I am, just continue reading this. So, what would you do if ito ginawa ng partner niyo sainyo? Here’s a summary of what my partner did within less than a year of being together.

1. AI-generated n-a-k3d photos of women that I and he personally know—organized pa siya for this, naka individual folder for each girl’s name. (Said he’d stop doing this but caught him many more times)

His excuse: Amazed daw siya sa tools.

2. Kept private recordings of previous sexual partners.

His excuse: It was “consensual”.

3. Reactivated his old dummy account. (Caught him when a notification suddenly popped up on his phone while I was using it, he vehemently denied it but ended up owning to it in the end LOL thanks universe)

His excuse: He’s scared of my “behavior” when he searches or visits profile of women who are 99% of the time almost n-a-k3d and look like walkers.

So if you were me, what would be the best way to break uo with him?

I tried blocking him but he contacted my mother who sees him as this perfect innocent guy. I just don’t want my mom to be disheartened too & I’m not the type to share personal relationship issues.

Problem/Goal: I don't know what to do anymore. Parang all the signs are telling me to break up already pero parang hindi ko kaya....

Context: Me and my boyfriend are in a LDR situation since magkaiba ang universities pero same kami ng province kaya nakakapagkita pa din. We just celebrated 2 years anniv last April 2.

Walang cheating. Pero dalawang beses na kami naghiwalay. Unang hiwalayan ay siya yung napagod, but eventually we gave it another shot. Second hiwalayan, nalaman kong nakipagkita siya sa girl bestfriend niya sa mall without informing me, may dump acc na itinago and basically ayaw niya makicommunicate. Nagseparate kami but nagkabalikan ulit last February.

The pain and trauma is still here. I already forgave him but I think hindi pa ako fully healed. But I really love this person. Okay naman na kami now, stable pero hindi pa din ako panatag, it's like my trust is still broken. Bumabawi naman siya ng sobra, open na makipag-communicate, sweet na ulit like before, and 2x na efforts nya now.

Another dilemma is tutol ang family ko sa relationship namin. Even our friends, nung nalaman nila mga pinaggagawa niya noon ay inadvice ako na to let go na. Lalo na there's no guarantee if may tinatago pa ba siya o pinagsisinungalingan pa ba siya ulit....

Now I don't really know what to do, mahal na mahal ko siya to the point that I gave endless chances and bumabawi naman na siya sa akin ng todo but all these signs are telling me to stop na....😭😭😭

Problem/Goal:

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, okay lang sakin pero hindi kaya ng ego ko

Context

Nagkabalikan kami ng ex ko after almost 2 years. Ako yung nang-iwan noon, so nitong nag reconnect kami, I genuinely tried to make things right. Sabi niya single siya, kakagaling lang din daw sa breakup a month before kami mag-usap ulit.

For around 2 months, halos araw-araw siya nasa bahay namin. Minsan dito pa natutulog. Chill lang kami, walang pressure, pero seryoso na yung intentions ko this time. Busy ako sa orgs at acads kaya hindi ko rin talaga pinagdudahan.

Then one day, bigla siyang nagbago. Nagtoyo out of nowhere — which was weird kasi hindi naman siya ganon even before. Kinulit ko through chats and calls kasi confused talaga ako. After 2 days ng puro unanswered messages and missed calls, may lalaking sumagot sa tawag ko around 2AM.

Doon ako literal nanginig.

Turns out… may boyfriend pala siya the whole time.

The guy asked me kung anong meron samin nung girl, and sinabi ko naman lahat honestly. Tapos sinabi niya na magkasama sila that night at tulog yung babae. I think they broke up after that, not sure.

Hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin ako kinakausap nung girl. Siguro sa hiya. Pero tangina, hindi kaya ng ego ko yung ganong ending. Hindi dahil mahal na mahal ko pa siya, kundi dahil gusto ko maintindihan paano niya nagawang magsinungaling nang ganon kaayos habang tinatanggap lahat ng effort ko.

What messes me up the most is that I treated her differently this time. Noon, puro kalokohan at libog lang bonding namin. Pero ngayong mas mature na ako, I approached her with genuine respect and intention. Akala ko pareho na kami ng wavelength.

Ngayon naiisip ko baka hookup lang talaga habol niya nung una, tapos habang tumatagal, tinuloy niya lang kahit mali kasi convenient para sakanya.

Lesson learned nalang siguro. Sometimes people come back not because they changed, kundi dahil available ka ulit.

HINGI LANG SANA AKO NG ADVICE ABOUT SA EGO KO, TANGINA NATAPAKAN TALAGA. NEVER AGAIN SA MGA BITCHES NA YAN.

Ingat kayo, kings. Stay grounded.

ADDITION:

She logged an account pa sa device ko, I saw a sex video of her that I can't unsee.

What could I possibly do? Hahaha

Problem/Goal:
Understanding why some people in VA work tend to look down on degree-based careers and why there’s sometimes comparison between the two paths.

Context:
No offense sa ibang VA workers dito, curious lang talaga ako. Sa family namin, ako lang ang nakapagtapos ng college. Pinili kong tapusin ang pag-aaral para magkaroon ng stable at maayos na career. Now, I’ve been working for almost 3 years and earning around 50k monthly, which I’m grateful for.

May relative ako na hindi nakapagtapos pero working as a VA and claiming to earn around 100k monthly “daw”. Wala naman akong issue sa income difference, ang concern ko lang is may instances na parang minamaliit yung mga graduate, with comments like mas malaki pa raw kita nila compared sa mga nakatapos.

Previous Attempts:
Wala naman akong confrontation or direct argument about it. Observations lang, pero napapaisip ako lalo na kapag may messaging na parang “hindi na kailangan mag-aral” dahil sa earning potential ng VA work. May mga nakikita rin akong lifestyle na big travel and spending, pero hindi rin malinaw kung gaano ka-stable talaga financially or kung may ibang financial struggles behind it.

Problem/goal: Wala akong mapagsabihan or mapaghingan ng advice sa kahit sinong family or friends kasi una, nahihiya ako, saka pangalawa, iniisip ko baka may bias sa mind nila

Hello Redditors. First time to post about anything and throwaway account ito.

I found out that my husband-to-be watches yung mga IG girls na malalaki ang hinaharap at ang mga peaches. IYKYK. It got me so upset kasi naging issue na namin to before (di pa ata kami engaged at the time) saka nagalit na ako sa kaniya. Siyempre ang response niya ay “sorry”, “I love you”, saka “di na ulit manonood”. Pero after niyan, ako na lang nag adjust. Di na ako nakikialam sa IG profile niya.

Context: A couple of days ago, nagising lang ako ng madaling araw, Idk. So nag phone lang ako. Tapos di ko alam kung anong naisipan ko, parang gusto ko lang icheck yung watch history niya. Tapos dun ko na nakita yung mga sunod sunod na videos ng multiple girls, same girl sunod sunod, then after a couple of other videos, ibang girl naman sunod sunod ulit. Pero laging ganun, malaki joga, malaki ang peach, tapos either nagsasayaw or kung anuano ginagawa, typical IG girl. Tapos ewan para akong nanlumo na ewan. Sa inis ko, chinat ko siya kahit katabi ko lang siya pero tulog kasi siya. Tapos nag send lang ako ng isang screenshot, tapos inisa-isa ko mga accounts nung mga girls na pinanood niya.

Nung nagising siya, nagpretend akong tulog kasi ewan parang nasusuya ako sa kaniya. Nagreply siya, sorry daw, nadaanan lang daw niya yung mga video, tapos di na daw uulit. Typical reaponse kasi narinig ko na dati. Tapos uminit pa rin ulo ko. Why? Kasi “nadaanan” lang daw, pero pag nag sscroll through ka sa IG, hindi naman nadadaanan lang mga videos ng iisang account lang diba? Kailangan mo puntahan account niya para panoorin yung mga videos.

A little background: we’ve been living together for quite some time, tapos since we’re getting married, we stopped having sex until our wedding night. He’s generally kind, masipag, super busy sa work and sa side jobs plus may time maglaro sa gabi with friends. Walang kaso sakin, kaya nga ang gulat ko na may time pa siyang manood ng mga ganun kasi parang pagod na pagod siya lagi. Itong before wedding lang kami hindi nagiging intimate, I never withheld sex from him before.

Alam ko sa sarili ko na di naman ako panget, malaki din hinaharap ko pero di kasinglaki nung sa mga pinapanood niya. Own struggle ko na before yung self-confidence ko na naovercome ko naman by myself and parang natulungan niya din ako in a way. Pero after nito, ewan parang bumabalik nanaman yung issues ko with myself.

Di ko alam ano pang ibang relevant information. Yung mga specifics, di ko na masyado babanggitin or di ko na binanggit kasi nga throwaway lang.

Tapos ito na, ilang days na yung lumipas, pero parang hindi ko na kayang maging sweet sa kaniya. Pwedeng for now, pero ang takot ko, baka hindi ko na mabalik. Kada kasi titignan ko siya, parang hindi ko mapagconnect yung ginawa niya sa physical self niya. Alam ko parang ang OA kasi nanood lang naman diba. Pero ang pakiramdam ko kasi, para akong nasusuya sa kaniya kasi ganito yung mga nababasa ko about sa ibang guys tapos suyang suya ako kasi for me para siyang form of cheating.

Yung pakiramdam ko ngayon para akong brokenhearted, pero yung dynamic namin dito sa bahay parang normal lang, di ko alam. Sinasabi ko sa kaniya na galit ako pero para akong nonchalant lang sa pagkagalit. Pero hindi na ako sweet sa kaniya. Ayoko din mag initiate ng talk kasi lagi na lang ako nagiinitiate ng talk. Pakiramdam ko, para sa kaniya, okay lang kami kasi di ako nagagalit nung normal na pagkagalit.

Previous attempts: Pano na to, malapit na kami ikasal, di ko alam ano gagawin ko kasi araw araw na lang simula nung nalaman ko yun, parang ok ako pero parang biglang magrerelapse

Problem/goal: I’m having a hard time accepting I have TB. I feel so down.

Context: Just found out yesterday that I have pulmonary TB. I started meds today. I have a husband and 2 kids :( super young. Now, they are scheduled for a check up tomorrow so I can request for an xray and skin test for them. I feel so guilty knowing that they were exposed to me. They show no symptoms or signs but I still wanna be a step ahead and get them checked. I’ve been crying non stop. Kahit sa hospital iyak ako nang iyak and my pulmonologist told me to relax and it’s gonna be okay kasi nagagamot naman.

Mom guilt kasi I feel like I failed them. Kinakain ako ng guilt and galit kasi this is so unfair. 😢☹️

Problem/Goal: I [M] ended courting someone due her maybe being an avoidant. How do you move on from this pain again?

Context: This is only my side of the story as she did not explain what is happening to her and just stop communicating with me. We were good to the point na label nalang ang kulang. But one day hindi nalang sya nagreply so baka may problema lang kako at pinalipas ko muna. Next day ay tuloy parin so kinamusta ko na sya at tinanong ano ang nangyayari, sinabi na kung kailangan nya ng kausap ay nandito lang ako. From there eh parang nag crashout nalang sya, she told me na I don't deserve her and she suddenly can't reciprocate what I feel for her. I gave her weeks to think about it baka kako she just needs to clear her mind pero wala she did not talk to me anymore. I decided to choose my peace and told her I will be ending what we are doing and move on. From what I saw/experienced I think I was correct in choosing my peace pero bakit ganon ang sakit parin.

Previous Attempts: How do you do this. I tried distracting myself by working, running and just plain playing dota pero pag wala na akong ginagawa bumabalik ang lungkot. I stand firm with what I decided to do but why does it hurt this much.

More context: This is my first time in a long time to open my heart and try dating again. Lagi ko sinasabi sa sarili ko na being ready is a choice and not a feeling so ayun I was ready. Then I've met her and sobrang dali ng conversation, same humor, likes and more. Akala ko sya na talaga.

Sa pakiramdam ko kasi if gusto mo din talaga ako, you should be able to tell me if may problema or mali akong nagawa. I am ready to face what I did and change it pero walang siyang sinabi. The old me would have beg for us to talk about it kahit na di na sya nagpaparamdam and adjust so that I would not lose her. Pero siguro di ko na deserve ulit mag mahal ng ganon? SIguro naman I deserve better din? Hindi ko na din alam.

As for the avoidant part, I told my friends what happened and they told me na parang nasa side sya na being an avoidant person. This is my first time encountering a person like that.

Why do I feel this way? Bakit ang sakit? I am now doubting myself na hindi parin ba ako natututo sa past mistakes ko at mali parin ba nagawa ko? Ang hirap lang kahit anong oras bigla nalang ako tinatamaan ng lungkot.

Pasensya na din if may mga maling grammar and spellings. Typing this while crying.

Problem/Goal: I’m confuse kung ano ba dapat ko gawin kasi hindi okay yung nalaman ko.

Context: I currently have a partner, we’re living together already. 2 months na siyang buntis. Kahapon randomly nag check ako nung convo nila nung sinasabi niyang nakafling niya before na kaibigan niya na ngayon. Turned out na siya pala yung 3 years ex na sinasabi niya at may nabasa ako na attached pa din yung current partner ko sakanya based on last convo nila nung nov 12 kahit nagkaroon na siya ng isa pang 2 years ex before nitong 3 years.

Nagkakilala kami oct 10, nag first date kami ng oct 30. After nung first date namin halos every other day or 2-3 days pagitan nag kikita kami. Dec 5 nung naging officially naging kami, unang beses na may mangyari samin Nov 12. Meron pang time around Nov na pinakilala niya sakin yung ex niya bilang tropa including yung friend group nung lalaki kaya nakasalamuha at naka bonding ko din yung ex niya without knowing. But kahapon nalaman ko na in between nov 15-20 meron isang time na pumunta gf ko sa isang birthdayan kasama yung ex niya at yung friend group nila at nung gabi na yon may nangyari sakanila pala. It was a one time thing, tho nagtuloy communications nila, the guy even visits her sa bahay nila para tumambay ganon. Nag stop communications nila around dec 13 nung we decided to live together.

Previous Attempts: nag usap kami kahapon at she’s guilty about it at hindi niya daw alam kung paano niya nagawa na itago sakin yon kahit yung part daw na ex niya yung guy na yon na pinalabas niya na friend niya.

Alam ko sasabihin ng iba sa inyo na hindi pa naman kami nung time na yon (yan din nirason niya sakin) but, we already shared a bond and we even did the deed na after mangyari yon sakanila.

Kahit nag usap na kami, bothered pa din ako. Feeling ko harap harapan yung betrayal sakin kasi nakasama ko sila, nakainuman ko pa nga yung ex niya ng 1 on 1. Inexplain niya na napapayag daw siya nung time na yon kasi attached pa siya at tanga tanga isip bata pa daw, sinabi din daw nung lalaki sakanya na “ako pa din naman nakauna sayo at naging akin ka naman, hindi niya naman malalaman” at meron din time na inattemp ulit ni guy makipag deed ulit sakanya pero inamin naman ng gf ko ni decline niya yon, witness daw niya kuya na sa pag lipat niya ng kama nun sinubukan siya tabihan at halikan.

Ang naging dating sakin naiputan ako sa ulo at naging laughingstock sa ex niya at friend group nila, wala akong kaalam alam mag ex pala yung dalawa at may one time thing pa pala na nangyari. Hindi ko alam what I should do, gets ko nakaraan na yon pero sana gets niyo din ako. Mahal ko partner ko at buntis na partner ko (planned baby), at ngayon kinakain ako ng ego at betrayal na yon. While typing these natutulala ako at naiimagine na nag ss*x sila nung ex niya. Currently in the middle if worth it pa ba itry and continue yung relasyon. Kung magpapalaya nalang ba at magpapatawad, or subukan tanggapin yung nangyari at hindi na bigyan ng kahulugan yung mali ng nakaraan. She admitted na mahal niya na (daw) ako nung time before may mangyari samin tho confuses.

She insist na umuwi muna siya sa pamilya niya to think at gather some thoughts, while I insist na hindi pwede takbuhan yung problema at dapat namin matutunan harapin together yung sitwasyon lalo na’t nasa gitna na kami ng pag papamilya or baka sooner pagpapakasal.

Problem/Goal: Long story short, she visited her ex to reclaim back her Visa cards that she gave to him in the past because he wasn’t able to create a bank account here in the Phillipines. I found through her ex who told me nothing happened between them.

Am mad because we were already in a relationship by then , she dint tell me about going to his house . When I confronted her she broke down and started crying and swore nothing happened. Even her ex told me nothing happened . I asked why did he send it through grab or joyride, she said he insisted on meeting her at his house …

In my mind I feel like maybe they had sex , like a last time sex . But both said nothing happened between them, my gf said he was respectful and instead wanted to see me . She said the only that happened was a fast hug tap on the back and. Then good bye… but my brain keeps making me think she’s hiding something .

Problem/Goal: gusto ko lang mavalidate na okay lang to accept that job offer or no?😭

Context: na sa science field ako and fresh grad. i'll be having my first job and ang role ko lang is to research like literal find an article that will support the claim whatever something like that. gagawin ko siya 8 hours per day.

Previous attempts: none.

hindi ko naman siya gagawing permanent job. bale, sort of some part time lang while waiting for my diploma this year

Problem/Goal: Wanted to try Althea pills so bad

Context: Ive been on Diane pills for 9 years and it made my boobs look "full". but planning to switch to Althea kasi it makes it bigger DAW? Is it true sa mga althea users here?

I use pills mainly for contraception but plus na din yung bigger boobs since takot ako for breast augmentation.

Prev attempts: Was trying to find Norifam din but I am really interested to know any advice thoughts etc

Problem/Goal: I am so confused kung kukuha ba talaga ako ng health insurance or not. I need advice on this.

Context: Confused ako kasi kino-compute ko kasi yung magagastos ko pag nag insurance ako at hindi nag insurance. Nagpa compute ako sa kaibigan ko, semi-annually, 15k+ ang babayaran ako until 65 years old tas 1M+ lang ang coverage. Meron lang specific na amount for CI, for accidental, etc.

If d naman ako kukuha ng insurance pero continuous ang paghulog ko sa passbook savings account ko ng same amount until 65 (if incase d talaga magka sakit within those years), I'll probably have 2M+ on my account.

Previous Attempts: wala pa.

Problem/Goal: Rental Eviction I would like to know our legal rights and possible remedies

Context:
Idk if this is the correct sub for this but hi, 23 [F] Here’s the situation:
I rent a room with 6 people. All 4 of us have been paying rent monthly to Person A and B, who are also boarders like us.

It recently came to our attention that our monthly payments for the past 2 months were never forwarded to the building management by Person A and B.

Today, the building management personally went to our room to deliver an eviction notice and cut water and electricity, claiming non-payment. We were only just informed today about the situation. The management is demanding that we settle the unpaid rent within 24 hours, or they will proceed with eviction and involve the police.
Additional details about notices:
May 10 – first eviction notice was sent to Person A and B (via messenger)
May 19 – second eviction notice sent again to Person A and B
May 21 – third eviction notice, 24-hour deadline

My questions are:

1. Is it legal for management to give us a 24-hour eviction notice?
2. Can they cut utilities before a proper court order or reasonable notice?
3. What steps should we take in this scenario to protect our rights under tge law?
4. Does the fact that we paid Person A and B affect our liability or rights?

Just need your thoughts. Already emailed PAO but no reply yet :))

Problem/Goal: can i ask for advice on what to give to my husband who is a first time dad?

Context: Hubby (34M) will be celebrating Father’s day this year for the first time and i do not know what to give him.

Previous attempt: last year, when i was pregnant i was not able to give him anything because i am already about to give birth (siguro yung gift ko sakanya is our baby :) )So this will be my first time gifting my husband for father’s day

Problem/Goal: Sell or Pasalo condo unit

Context: May condo ako under bank loan and unfortunately di na kaya ituloy yung monthly ammortization. Balak ko sana ibenta na lang ng break-even or kahit slightly less than sa naibayad ko na or worst case irequest ko na sa bank for foreclosure. Property location is around Sta. Rosa Laguna.

Question:
Sobrang magiging impact ba to sa bank if ever na yung foreclosure yung gagawin ko? Sa may mga same case ano yung mga cons on doing it? Thanks!

Problem/goal: I’m having a hard time accepting I have TB. I feel so down.

Just found out yesterday that I have pulmonary TB. I started meds today. I have a husband and 2 kids :( super young. Now, they are scheduled for a check up tomorrow so I can request for an xray and skin test for them. I feel so guilty knowing that they were exposed to me. They show no symptoms or signs but I still wanna be a step ahead and get them checked. I’ve been crying non stop. Kahit sa hospital iyak ako nang iyak and my pulmonologist told me to relax and it’s gonna be okay kasi nagagamot naman.

Mom guilt kasi I feel like I failed them. Kinakain ako ng guilt and galit kasi this is so unfair. 😢☹️

Problem/goal: hindi ko alam kung tama ba na nakipagbalikan ako sa ex ko knowing na nung mga panahon na break kami may nakausap syang ibang babae.

Context: nagbreak kami ng long time bf ko for 2 months because of unseen circumstances. And nitong mga nakaraan, nag-initiate sya na magkabalikan kami at the same time inamin nya rin na may nakausap syang ibang babae and they kissed. Doon nya raw narealize na ako yung mahal nya kasi he felt like he is cheating on me nung nagkiss sila nung girl. Idk what to do. I still love my bf so much ☹️

Problem/Goal: Do you think it's worth it to move out?

Context: I'm currently in first year of college in a univ here sa cavite. may board exam yung course ko so may maintaining grade kami. no lower than 88 ave per subj. to me, as a working student ang hirap ipagsabay ng pressure sa work and sa paghabol ng maintaining grade sa school.

planning to transfer sa NU moa since idk if walang maintaining grade or parang mababa lang grade requirement? payag naman parents ko though tuition lang daw sagot nila and ako sa expenses and rent ko. is it worth it na magmove out and kumuha ng condo around 18k monthly considering na 30k a month lang salary ko? (currently in the process of applying sa ibang company with higher pay pero unsure pa, higher salary though)

Previous Attempts: i dont know whether to stay in that uni and just shift sa ibang course, or transfer to NU and pursue my desired course there.

Problem/Goal: Ayaw ng parents ko sa girlfriend ko dahil hindi siya graduate at “bad background” daw. Hindi ko na alam paano ipapaintindi sa kanila.

Nag-oopen up ako nitong mga nakaraang buwan dito sa Reddit tungkol sa relationship ko pero para may context:

I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (24F) for 3 years and a half na.

Bestfriend ko siya since 2019 tapos nag-aminan kami noong 2023 kaya naging kami officially.

Okay kami. Sobrang okay.

Open kami sa isa’t isa, supportive sa lahat ng bagay, at sobrang dami na rin naming napapag-usapan tungkol sa future namin—businesses, finances, paano mamumuhay together, mga pangarap namin, etc. Pareho kasi talaga naming goal na maging successful at yumaman nang magkasama balang araw.

Siya ngayon nagtatrabaho sa isang international security/surveillance firm at mas mataas sa minimum wage yung kinikita niya kahit hindi siya college graduate. Gustong gusto niya rin yung work niya kasi compared sa dati niyang mga trabaho (BPO at iba pa), hindi siya nauubos mentally.

Ako naman, architecture student pa rin at magreredefense this July.

Hindi ako naka-graduate nitong June kasi nagkulang final average ko sa jury (medyo nakaaway ko rin kasi isa sa panel habang nagdedefend kaya bumagsak HAHAHA). Pero okay lang, comments at revisions nalang naman inaayos ko at mataas tiwala kong papasa na ako.

Ang problema… Ayaw ng parents ko sa girlfriend ko. Main reason? Hindi siya graduate. At “bad background” daw.

Broken family kasi siya. Tapos nag-bankrupt recently yung business ng tatay niya kaya napahinto siya sa college midway (private school kasi siya).

Pero ang hirap kasi parang hindi nila nakikita yung totoong nangyari.

Kasi despite lahat ng yun, hindi siya sumuko.

Nagtrabaho siya kung saan saan para suportahan sarili niya.

Nagbenta sa malls, nag-BPO, tapos eventually natanggap siya sa current work niya.

May mga panahon pa raw na wala silang makain sa bahay pero pinilit niya pa rin mabuhay at kumayod.

At pinaka-hanga ako...

never siyang nanghingi sakin ng pera.

Ako pa nga dati yung nagpupumilit magbigay ng pagkain o budget pag alam kong kapos siya gamit ipon ko.

Pero ngayon baliktad na HAHAHA. Siya na madalas nanlilibre sakin kasi di pa ako graduate. Siya madalas nagbabayad sa dates.

Pero kahit ganon… iniisip pa rin ng parents ko na may tinatago siyang “baho”. Na baka ginagamit lang daw niya ako dahil architecture kinuha ko.

Na pag naging successful kami sa future, siya lang daw makikinabang kasi ipapaaral niya lang daw sarili niya. Last November lang nila nalaman na may girlfriend ako.

Simula noon parang puro assumptions nalang:

Broken family = bad influence.

Mabubuntis agad.

Pag nasa trabaho = makikipaglandian sa iba.

Temporary lang daw kasi girlfriend lang.

Nakakafrustrate. Kasi sa buong college ko, never naging bad influence girlfriend ko. Siya yung sumuporta sakin sa plates. Projects. Exams. Thesis.

Kahit minsan wala siyang pera, gumagawa pa rin siya paraan para may makain din ako.

Siya rin tumutulong gumawa ng layouts, PowerPoints, presentations ko.

At sa totoo lang… nung sunod sunod yung disappointments at betrayals ko sa mga kaibigan nitong mga nakaraang taon, siya yung naging sandalan ko para hindi ako tuluyang masiraan ng ulo.

Pero hindi alam ng parents ko yun. At pakiramdam ko kahit sabihin ko, sermon at panghuhusga lang ulit maririnig ko.

Ang gusto ko lang naman… tanggapin nila siya. Maintindihan nila na hindi siya temporary sa buhay ko.

Kasi ako yung tipo ng lalaki na hindi nakikipag-date para lang may girlfriend. Nakikipag-date ako para magpakasal. At para sakin, oo hindi siya perfect.

Pero yung babae na pinipili niyang maging araw-araw…

at yung taong unti-unti niyang binubuo para sa sarili niya… yun yung gusto ko. At mahal ko.

Ang mas masakit pa, alam ng girlfriend ko lahat ng sinasabi nila tungkol sa kanya at sa pamilya niya. Pero kahit ganon… hindi niya nakakalimutan bigyan ng flowers at regalo yung mom at lola ko every events like Mother's Day, Christmas day, etc.

Kaya lalo ko siyang hinahangaan.

Sorry medyo mahaba.

Nahihirapan lang ako kasi parang maraming ibang magulang na naaappreciate yung effort at sipag niya…

pero yung sarili kong parents, parang hindi makita.

May naka-experience na ba ng ganito? Paano niyo hinandle yung parents na ayaw sa partner niyo dahil lang sa pinanggalingan niya?

Problem/Goal: My bf and I are planning to relocate to Angeles Pampanga, since mag t’training sya for 6 to 8 months. After his training, plan na din nya na mag work sa Pampanga from the same company. He is in Aviation industry btw.

Currently, renting kami here at Metro Manila. My work is on hybrid set up, and just need to report to work once a month. First option is we are considering to relocate and look for an apartment. 2nd option is uuwi sya ng Pasay every weekend, which will double our expenses since he have to pay a rent and transportation expenses every weekends.

I need your tips and insights please, since I am sure this will be a big adjustments samin na nasanay na sa Metro Manila.