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Should I leave my bf of 6 yrs because of microcheating?

Problem/Goal: i’m not sure on what to do anymore. should i keep holding on and continue trying to talk it out with him, or leave?

Context: A year ago, he posted an Instagram Note with the song Give Me a Sign. He made it visible only to his Close Friends, and I wasn’t on that list, so I couldn’t see it. I only found out because I opened his phone.
At first, I ignored it. But the next day, I had this feeling that something was off, so I opened his phone again. I saw another Note he had shared, this time with the song One Number Away. Again, it was hidden from me.
I went through his Close Friends list and saw the girl there (the girl i told him i was not comfortable with). he also have a candid picture of her saved on his phone. She’s his friend and classmate. At first, I didn’t think much of it because I knew they were friends. He also sometimes picks her up because their dorm is right by the road, so it’s too much for him to do so. I tried not to mind that either.
Eventually, we talked about everything after I found out about the Notes. He made it clear that he only shared those songs because he liked them and that the girl I was concerned about was just a friend—nothing more. I didn’t fully trust him, but I wanted to fix things, so we tried to work through it.
Now, a year later, I’ve found out that the same girl still keeps asking him to pick her up, and he shows up every single time. Whenever she asks, he somehow finds the time to go get her. I confronted him about it, and he gave me the same explanation: she’s just a friend, and their dorm is right by the highway anyway.
But honestly, I’m getting so tired.
For an entire year, I’ve been carrying this feeling of doubt and overthinking. I’ve tried to understand, trust, and move past it because I genuinely want our relationship to work. But I feel like the least he could do is help me feel secure instead of making me feel like I’m dealing with this uncertainty alone.
And I’m tired in more ways than just emotionally.
I’ve already spent so much money supporting him. He went back to studying . His parents pay for his tuition and give him a small amount for his allowance, while I take care of most of the rest—apartment, food, extra allowance, shower and personal essentials, clothes, school projects, and other things he needs. I don’t bring these things up to make him feel indebted to me, but I can’t deny that it’s exhausting to constantly give so much, especially when I’m already emotionally drained.
I’m employed and doing my best to support both of us, but I’m reaching a point where I feel completely worn out.
I don’t want to keep questioning every little thing. I don’t want to keep feeling jealous, insecure, or paranoid.
I want to trust him. but, I’m also tired now. idk if i’m just overreacting, or if i’m in the right situation to leave?

Previous Attempts: asked him for 3 months call off, he doesn’t agree. asked him to block the girl once, he deleted his instagram account and uninstalled the app. confronted him about the pick-up-drop-off thing, he said it meant nothing. then i just found out he keeps deleting their convo now.

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u/Careless_Task4707 — 6 hours ago

Men, your thoughts on Sexless Marriage

Problem/Goal: For men, what’s your view on a sexless marriage?

Context: I think I’m officially in a sexless marriage.

Anyway, simula nung 5th month ng pregnancy ko up until now nakapanganak na ako and all wala talaga. I think bothered ako kase alam ko gaano sila ka’wild ng ex niya before kami 🙁 ok naman siya as a father, provider, pero di ko alam if kaya ko ba magstay sa sexless marriage? Hirap kase, di naman about sex lang, stressed na ako with postpartum and taking care of the baby, tapos yung feeling pa ng ‘undesired’ ka. Literal na para lang kaming magkasama as parents ng anak namin. Di ko maexplain. I think he sees me as nanay ng anak niya, no more no less. Feel ko di na siya attracted saken or anything. Other than sex/intimacy, wala namang problema, pero para na lang kaming magtropa na nagaalaga ng bata haha.

Previous attempts: Ilang beses ko na inopen up to sakanya, nakuha na naming pagawayan sa sobrang sama ng loob ko na puro rejection nakukuha ko sknya, sobrang bumaba self confidence ko — buntis ako that time, sabi niya takot siya, tinanggap ko na lang, kahit na OB na nagsabi nung last stretch ng pregnancy ko na gawin na nga yun to help with the delivery pero ayaw talaga niya. Ngayong nanganak na ako, unti unti ko inoopen up tho in forms of parinig and jokes, wala talaga, minsan pa annoyed siya na nagpaparinig ako or nagjjoke about it. Willing na nga ako kahit siya na lang masatisfy, nagattempt na din ako magfirst move pero rejected lol.

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u/Kindeyescoldhands009 — 11 hours ago

need advice about what approach i should use

problem/goal: i found out my mom has kabit.

context: i came to know that my mom has this guy who kept messaging her and with all the words i read, pretty sure may relasyon sila. though very limited lang ang messages since dinelete na ng mom ko ang previous convo and the guy kept messaging her pa rin.

i really wanna know up to what extent their relationship is/was and did my mom commit adulterous act behind my late father.

previous attempt: i tried to block him and unfriend using my mom’s fb acc pero baka malaman ng mom ko na i am rummaging thru her phone and messages. i’m planning to use dump acc to message the guy but i don’t know kung anong pagpapapanggap ang gawin ko to extract out infos.

ps don’t mind my flair hehe

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u/Infamous_Screen_4985 — 7 hours ago

my abuser has a new gf. should i tell her the things he did to me years ago?

Problem/Goal: should i tell the new gf na abuser ko yung boyfriend nya at ginawan nya ako ng krimen? ngayon hindi ako mapakali na baka gawin din nya sa ibang girl yung ginawa sakin.

Context: yung abuser ko (ex, but im uncomfy na tawagin syang ganyan) may bago na syang gf. he did something to me na kina-diagnose ko ng PTSD. he physically, sexually, and emotionally abuse nya ko before, ginroom nya rin ako. and even after our break up, nagssend sya death threat. sobrang dami to mention the things he did to me. hanggang ngayon minumulto padin ako ng past ko kahit nasa healthy relationship na ako ngayon, my partner agreed to it naman. pero nagccontemplate padin ako if gagawin ko ba o hindi.

Previous Attempts: nag chat sakin mom nya last year, nangamusta sya then inexpose ko rin mga ginawa nya sa mom nya. nagsorry lang yung mama nya sakin. etong mom nya na 'to, nung kasagsagan ng breakup namin eh sya rin pumigil magpablotter, ang sabi lang sakin "wag mo na ipablotter si ***, may pinagsamahan naman kayo." and pulis din family nya before at bata pa ko non so natatakot ako magsabi. kahit sa fam ko natatakot padin ako magsabi hanggang ngayon.

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u/rottingmansanas — 10 hours ago

11 years and still waiting

Problem/Goal:

I have a boyfriend, and we’ve been together for 11 years already. I have a stable job, while he’s still waiting for a project, a client, or whatever opportunity comes his way.

I’ve been really confused lately, and I’ve been questioning whether I’m still making the right decisions because, until now, we still don’t have any clear plans for our future.

I asked him about our plans three years ago, but he would always say that we could figure things out once everything was stable. We used to argue about it a lot because he felt like I was putting too much pressure on him. Eventually, I got tired of asking and stopped expecting anything from him.

I know that things aren’t really stable for him yet, but I feel like I’m running out of time waiting for him because I’m already 33. I’m also the one who pays whenever we go on dates because he doesn’t have a source of income right now.

I’m starting to feel anxious and wondering, “What if I turn 35 and we’re still in the same situation?” So many what-ifs keep running through my mind.

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u/Conscious-Fan005 — 13 hours ago

Me (F/23) and him (M/27): Was I wrong for ending things early because he was moving too fast?

Problem/Goal:
I’m wondering if I handled the situation correctly or if mali ba ako for ending things early. I liked him physically and I thought he was nice, pero hindi ako comfortable and I felt like we weren’t compatible or moving at the same pace.

Context:
Almost a week pa lang kaming nag-uusap, pero he was already very clingy, using endearments, and asking if I was talking to other guys. He seemed to think na compatible kami, pero for me, parang ang bilis ng pace. Hindi naman kami dating or exclusive, so I felt uncomfortable with the expectations he was giving me.

Previous Attempts:
Naging distant ako and replied coldly kasi hindi ko alam how to address the situation. After several hours na hindi kami nag-usap, I messaged him and explained na I think he’s a nice person, pero baka magkaiba kami ng approach when it comes to getting to know someone. I didn’t want to lead him on. He only reacted with a heart, then removed our nicknames, unfollowed me, and unfriended me. Now I’m wondering if I owed him an explanation, if too harsh ba yung message ko, or if he simply respected what I said and decided to move on.

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u/CaseMaleficent987 — 13 hours ago

My pregnant sister told her boyfriend that he isn't the father even though he is

Problem/Goal:
My pregnant sister told her boyfriend that he isnt the father even though he is, now, he's been going around ruining my sister and my family's image.

Context:
My sister graduated college last June while her boyfriend just started 3rd year. She found out she was pregnant earlier this month and inannounce nila to both sides of the family. Maraming disappointed pero everyone still supported them. Ang problema ngayon, nung nagusap daw sila about it, sabi ni guy is he wants to drop out to provide for his family in which hindi pumayag ate ko. Umabot sa away and iyakan kaya in the midst of emotions, sabi ni ate na it isnt his. That was kung anong nangyari sa kwento ni ate pero we don't know what really happened kasi they live together and nalaman lang namin nung nagchat boyfriend niya kay mama ng "malandi anak ninyo" and soon after umuwi si ate. Her boyfriend has been telling everyone and ayaw naman sabihin ni ate yung totoo since she doesn't want the guy to drop put daw. She's experiencing too much emotions kaya we're all worried about the baby especially na first trimester pa lang. Here's the thing though, my father owns a very well known company here in our place kaya nasisiraan na rin work life ni papa. It got to a point that someone spray painted his car with "(my sister's name) pokpok" and people have been chatting me at si mama about it. Di talaga namin alam ano gagawin and it's hurting everyone in our family including the baby.

Previous Attempts: We've tried telling her to confess or aminin sa boyfriend niya pero ayaw niya talaga since masisira lang daw buhay ni guy sa anak nila, and masyado na raw malala yung situation para aminin yung totoo.

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u/ke1nno — 19 hours ago

Any effective alternatives for coffee?

Problem/goal:

Hindi ako umiinom ng kape. I don't really like how it tastes, and other than that, ayoko ring maging reliant sa kape.

Kaso may mga araw talagang need ko talaga gumising at manatiling gising. Like kapag may pasok sa school at mga need gawin sa gabi. Tina-try kong matulog pero hindi kasi palagi naa-achieve sya.

Either way, need ko rin ng totoong pampagising sa umaga. Preferably yung affordable at healthy rin.

Any suggestions?

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u/sasa_malaya328 — 16 hours ago

How do I make my girlfriend understand that she doesn’t need to give me anything in return?

Problem/Goal:

Me and my girlfriend are almost at our 1st anniversary, pero I’m having a hard time figuring out how to make her stop feeling guilty about what she thinks she can’t give back to me. I want her to understand na she doesn’t owe me anything and that I’m genuinely happy with her kahit walang gifts or money.

Context:

Earlier, she was crying and sinabi niya na she feels like she doesn’t deserve me. I’ve been giving her gifts, helping her with her college allowance, and doing things for her whenever I can. I do these things because I love her and gusto ko siyang tulungan. Never ko naman siya sinumbatan or expected na kailangan niya akong bayaran or pantayan yung ginagawa ko.

Pero sinabi niya na nalulungkot siya kasi she feels like she can’t give the same things back to me. Especially ngayon na malapit na anniversary namin, gusto niya rin daw akong mapasaya and give me something, pero dahil financially unstable siya, feeling niya wala siyang maibibigay na meaningful.

Honestly, nalulungkot din ako seeing her cry about this. Ayoko kasi na isipin niya na kailangan niyang pantayan lahat ng ginagawa ko. I don’t measure her love through gifts or money. Kahit simple lang gawin niya for me, or kahit wala siyang mabigay sa anniversary namin, okay lang talaga sa akin.

Previous Attempt:

I already reassured her and told her na she doesn’t have to give me anything. Sinabi ko rin na okay lang sa akin yung situation namin and that I’m not expecting anything in return. I’m doing these things for her because I genuinely want to, not because I’m keeping score.

Pero kahit sinabi ko na okay lang, I can tell na hindi pa rin siya okay. She still feels guilty and parang feeling niya kailangan niyang somehow “match” everything I’ve done for her.

So my question is, **how can I properly reassure her and make her understand na she doesn’t need to feel like she has to deserve me or give me something in return?** I really don’t want her to feel pressured, especially with our anniversary coming up.

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u/OptimalEye4255 — 13 hours ago

ayaw ko siyang mawala, anong gagawin ko?

problem/goal: sobrang kalmado ng bf ko nung nag open ako sa kanya at paano ko makuha ulit ang tiwala niya

context: nagkaroon kami ng usapan ng bf ko na may feelings pa ako sa ex fling ko at naging fuck buddy ko kasi hindi kaya ng konsensiya ko na itago ang nararamdaman ko sa kanya. akala ko magagalit siya, pero sinabi niya lang

"oh ganun pala? normal naman yun kung may naging past kayo na sobrang impactful sa buhay mo."

wala akong narinig na kahit ano sa kanya na masasakit at naging normal lang ang usapan namin. kapag gusto ko ng sex sa kanya, lagi siyang pagod dahil sa ginagawa niya at naiintindihan ko yun. nandoon pa rin yung pag-aalaga niya gaya nung nanliligaw pa siya. pero may mga araw na pumapasok sa isip ko yung naging fling ko bago ko nakilala ang bf ko at hindi ko masabi sa kanya noon kahit binibigyan na niya ako ng pagkakataon na maging honest sa kanya. nasabi na niya noon ang naging past niya na naging toxic siya sa ex niya, paano niya tinama ang sarili niya, inako ang mga mali niya at paano naka move on. naging unfair ako siguro sa kanya? magkatabi kami ngayon pero hindi siya nakayakap o nakaharap sa akin at tinignan ko ang phone niya kanina nung tulog na siya at wala siyang kausap na iba, pero nakita ko ang notes niya na tanggap niya ako. natuwa ako nung nabasa ko yun, pero nakita ko ang huli at ang sabi

"pero hindi ibig sabihin na tolerate ko yun. bigyan ko muna ang sarili ko na maging compose at tapusin ang relasyon ko sa kanya para wala akong aalahanin kapag nag dubai na ako dahil I don't have nothing to lose anymore"

previous attempts: sinabi ko na sa kanya ang mga plano at ginagawa ko para hindi ko na maalala ang ex ko at sinasabi niya lang eh maganda at ayos ang ginagawa ko.

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u/Dryinguess — 13 hours ago

I can give advice (Tarot Readings) for FREE!

Problem/Goal: To give everyone insight into their lives
Context: I’m new to readings and I’m trying to practice. So I’d like to offer you guys FREE tarot readings.
My Advice: Message me or Comment on this post the following information

1. Age

2. Sex

3. Question (Make it a good question, not a yes or no)

Disclaimer: Tarot readings are not 100% accurate. They are merely tools for self reflection and insight. Maybe you will realize something in the process.

Disclaimer 2: I will not give exact actions or consequences. But vague guidance and readings.

>!Remember, HULA lang to!<

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u/Available_Courage_20 — 24 hours ago

My ex-situationship wants to try FWB

Problem/Goal: Is this even worth taking the risk? Kasi nagdadalawang-isip talaga ako.

Context: My ex-situationship and I are still mutuals on the blue app. Hindi namin in-unfriend or in-unfollow ang isa’t isa since we ended things on good terms naman, and we're both single. Recently, nagkausap ulit kami, but not in a lovey-dovey way anymore. More like two people who know each other and are just catching up.

Eventually, napunta yung usapan namin sa kung anu-ano, hanggang sa napunta sa FWB. Between the two of us, siya yung wala pang experience when it comes to being physically intimate with a partner. He told me that he wants to explore and that I'm someone he's considering doing it with. He also made it clear na no feelings attached daw.

Hindi ko pa alam kung ano ang isasagot ko because I'm genuinely considering it, but I'm also having second thoughts. I've been abstinent for around two years now, and I also have a lot on my plate—work, travel plans, saving money, and reviewing for the board exam. Beside, I am planning to settle down after ko matapos lahat ng ginagawa ko.

So right now, I honestly don't know if I should take the risk or just leave things as they are.

Edit: I cannot promise as well na hindi ako mahuhulog because I once begged him before just to work things out between us lol.

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u/karamelmcc — 11 hours ago

I am living with the thief 🥷🏠

Problem/Goal:

Super frustrating to feel that you have to secure your things inside your own house. Even going to the bathroom, need mo i-lock kwarto mo kasi baka masalisihan ka.

Just 2 days ago, nakuha lahat ng pera ko sa wallet. In my bag, na nakalagay sa living room, inside our house. Around ₱2k tapos iniwan pa yung 4 peso coin. 🤣

How to deal with this?

Context: he’s my uncle. Kapatid ng mom ko. Iniwan ng pamilya nya kaya ending samin bagsak dahil wala syang anything. 4 nalang kami sa bahay.

42 YEARS OLD. Ayaw mag trabaho. Umaasa parin sa magulang, which is yung lola kong senior citizen na. Hingi nang hingi ng pera at ginagamit pa sa lahat ng masamang bisyo. Drugs. Sugal. PLUS nagnanakaw at scam. Hindi lang sa sariling pamilya, pati sa ibang tao. More than ₱100k+ or more na ata LOL

In summary = PABIGAT, WALANG KWENTA AT SALOT NG LIPUNAN

Pero kahit ganyan sya, lagi parin binibigyan ng pera dahil katwiran ng lola ay “anak” sya 💀

Bata palang ako, problema na sya. Ngayon na meron na akong trabaho at lahat, isa na rin ako sa nabibiktima. Punong puno na ako. Hindi naman ako maka-alis pa dito. Magtitiis nalang ba ako.

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u/Zealousideal_Ad_6003 — 21 hours ago

Surviving and escaping this broke life

Problem/Goal: Getting out of this low income hell

Context: 33M, Napagtanto ko na walang mangyayari kung mabubuhay lang ako sa low income jobs, unfortunately, wala akong college degree since nag-dropout ako dahil nagkamali ng piniling course at di na nakabalik dahil sa K to 12 curriculum change... Ngayon for over 10 years nabuhay lang ako sa part-timing, walang career at permanent job, never nagkaroon ng 5-digit per month job at di makaipon since kailangan gamitin para di maging pabigat papa-aano, at least wala akong hobby, bisyo, or jowa na pinagkakagastuhan...

Yun nga lang, stuck na ako dito, at wala akong budget para "mag-improve" like balik school or upskilling, lalo pat wala akong connection...

Previous attempts: (?) cant, magastos mag-improve kasi... Saka meron yata akong autism, baka siguro kaya dehado sa communication skills

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u/breadlordoda — 20 hours ago

For a family of 3, should I invest in a 1 BR Condo?

Problem/Goal: Should I invest in a 1 bedroom condo if we plan to have only 1 kid?

Context: I still live with my parents atm. For the future I want to have my own space for my family. Gusto ko sana house pero I think it's alanganin since mamahalin in Manila. I don't see myself buying a house also in the province since laking Manila ako and I wouldn't feel happy. Di accessible sa lahat. Very minimalist lang din ako and partner ko din (not married yet). Condo lang honestly na see kong option. I'm also worried even if minimalist kami and nagkaroon ng kid, di magkasya. My current salary is 80k gross and ofc di ko naman plan ganito forever. I do see some options na doable naman sya sa sahod ko. Prob in 3 yrs job hop.

EDIT: Thanks sa nag suggest ng apartment muna since mura but really mas gusto ko condo since its inside a bldg and gives me peace of mind. It makes me feel safe.

Previous Attempts: I was thinking of renting to experience it even for a short while. Nagask advice sa parents ko but ayun nga. Nastuck sila sa mindset na boomer na "You're just burning money when your renting" (I dont blame em. mastuck na sila sa mindset na ganyan lol)

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u/Ill_Permission1847 — 16 hours ago
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Condom broke during sex with boyfriend

Problem/Goal: my boyfriend and I noticed the condom broke during sex.

Context: we were doing the deed this morning, and when my boyfriend slipped out, we noticed the condom ripped. We were using trust condoms with chocolate scent. He didn’t finish or anything inside me we just noticed na it ripped. We stopped agad when we saw na it ripped.

Previous attempts: I urinated and washed my area with soap and water. We’re lowkey freaking out right now this is the first time a condom broke on us

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u/No-Platform2246 — 1 day ago

Need advice. Should I keep paying for the lot?

Problem/Goal: 
I was influenced to purchase a 200+ sqm lot that costs around ₱13,000+ per month for 5 years. I only started paying for the lot a few months ago, and unfortunately, not everything I’ve already paid would be refundable if I decide to stop. I’m deciding whether to continue paying for it.

Context:
I’m 23, living in the city, and earning at least ₱80,000 per month, excluding my additional gigs. I recently stopped going to school after realizing that I had to become the breadwinner for our family of six, since I’m the eldest. My father recently retired from government service and decided to take a lump-sum pension equivalent to two years’ worth of pay. We’ve been waiting for it for almost a year now. In the meantime, my parents are managing muna our farm.

I pretty much pay for everything since the start of this year: our dues, monthly bills, groceries, and other family expenses. Whenever there’s an occasion, I’m also usually expected to spend for the family. My mother doesn’t directly pressure me to spend. Still, there's this invisible pressure, or sometimes even subtle comments like, “Ililibre talaga tayo ni ___,” that made me feel like I’m expected to shoulder it. Since I'm also resenting my father for our bad relationship (bc of his very harmful behaviour towards me and my sister), I still don't see the point in providing for him. I also lived alone before, as advised by my therapist, so I'm not used to providing for anyone. I also used to save around 30% of what I earned from my previous jobs.

I know that investing before building enough savings isn’t necessarily the best approach. I felt really pressured by my family to push for it. I’m not sure whether I should continue with the lot. The location is also quite far from the city, so I’m doubtful if it’s actually the right investment for me.

At this point, I’m leaning toward prioritizing savings instead. I’m considering putting more than half of my savings into a short-term time deposit, such as Maya, or opening an account only with a passbook so I won’t be as tempted to withdraw it whenever our expenses increase. I’m also thinking about getting health insurance or other appropriate insurance coverage because I really don’t want to suffer financially if something happens to us. I don't have debts, since I'm paranoid when it comes to that (family history).

If you were in my position, would you stop paying for the lot and focus on building savings and getting insured first? Or do you think it’s worth continuing with the lot despite my current situation?

Previous Attempts:
I can still save around ₱15,000 or more a month and have some money left over for myself, but because our expenses keep increasing, I’ve started having to withdraw from my savings to cover some of them. I already set a limit on how much they can spend, but yun pa rin.

Edited: Baka privileged ako masyado pakinggan, but my savings are down from six digits to five after paying their debts and for our expenses. A few ten thousands left, so please help 🥹

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u/Miserable_Safety_341 — 14 hours ago

Irresponsible dog owner (family member)

Problem/Goal: How do you actually confront them that you're not okay with having an indoor pet. Meron akong kapatid na may asong may lahi. Me and my other siblings are getting really exasperated with the dog and sa mismong may ari.

Context: yung bahay namin ay may taas and one of our siblings adopted this dog (may breed) kasi nga iniisip nya that there is now more space. At first, hinayaan ko na lang kasi anjan na ung aso. Pero nung tumagal, it's no longer tolerable. Nung una, araw araw nya inilalabas so the dog can poop, pero ngayon, hinahayaan nya na lang doon sa taas ung aso to urinate and sh*t. Tapos kakatukin mo sya sa kwarto nya para sya magdakot ung eAt or mapunasan ung ihi. Pero kahit sabihin mong hindi doon tumatae or ihi ung aso, ung stink nya mismo. Since sobrang magkakalapit rooms namin, and kapag binuksan mo ung door, papasok agad ung stink nung aso. And I hate that the most. Kaya minsan kahit mainit, hindi ako nagbubukas ng pinto for ventilation dahil don. Minsan lalabas kami ng room may poop na lang kung saan. At kapag talaga, naiwan mo bukas ang kwarto mo, papasok don ung aso at doon pa iihi. Tapos ung balahibo, nagkalat lagi sa hagdan and medyo malapit lang sa dining table. Hindi naman sya araw araw nagwawalis nung mga balahibo. Or hindi kaya naman, sa umaga, pupunta ka ng CR, grabe amoy aso, minsan andun pa ung eAt at ihi, and imagine this na hindi kapa nag aalmusal. It is easily enough to put you off for breakfast.

Previous Attempts: At this point, I think we're being beyond lenient sa kanya, kasi nga may pagkasensitive sya kapag pinuna mo. Sya pa magagalit. Our parents are aware of this pero hindi nila kaya sabihan. Kahit let's say, sa maayos na usapan, I doubt na ilelet go nya ung aso na yon. I'm asking advice, how to deal with this kind of situation? I'm definitely the one with the courage to do it. Malapit na talaga, konti na lang, baka ma blurt out ko na lang bigla sa kanya lahat to.

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u/DryMarionburbon5327 — 13 hours ago

How to care for an aging parent?

Problem/Goal:

I'm an only child, and it's just me and my mom. She is in her 70s, and I can feel and visibility see her aging every day. Things that she can do before are more taxing and constantly need assistance. We don't have any close relatives that we can rely on as it has always been just us. But now I am getting worried about her safety.

I don't know what to do or where best to start. We don't come from money and will not have the resources to pay for a caregiver.

Should I buy her a wheelchair? I recently got her a portable doorbell so she can ring whenever she needs anything, but I am not with her all the time, especially when I'm at work. I also got an indoor camera, so I can check on her anytime.

What else can I get her to make her life easier and more comfortable without spending too much?

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u/Puzzleheaded-Bee6763 — 24 hours ago

Gusto ko na i-cut off yung friend ko

Problem/Goal: Naoffend ako sa friend ko, and nagreflect ako to our friendship and parang gusto ko na siyang icut off, hindi ko na makita yung reason to stay pa in this friendship, tama lang ba to cut off agad without confrontation?

Recently, I got into an accident na nagkaroon ako ng bone fracture, di ko pwedeng ilakad yung foot na may bone fracture, nangangamusta naman siya, she said na parang gusto niya ako dalawin, and then i said thank you, na sabi ko nalulungkot na nga rin ako tapos nadulas pa ako twice, and then she reacted haha and said "kawawa ka naman talaga🤣" tapos ako sabi ko "actually nauubusan na ako ng positive thoughts" naghaha react lang siya, and then days after nagsend ng reels di ko pinanuod then kanina i said na "sorry teh wala lang talaga ako gana makipag usap" then she reacted haha again then said "kawawa 🤣" naoff ako kasi parang ano bang nakakatawa? Hindi ko naman din hiningi na kaawaan niya ako, so nag isip isip ako, then naalala ko nga na kapag siya naman di ko naman siya dinidismiss kapag may problem siya, tapos ayun naalala ko na kapag ako pala magsheshare lagi siya nakikisapaw, na kakakwento niya lang siya na naman ulit, naiisip ko ngayon worth it pa ba yung ganitong friendship? Feeling ko the whole time is dismissed ako palagi sa friendship eh, or ewan ko

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u/Adorable_Badger2205 — 16 hours ago