u/karamelmcc

Problem/Goal: Is this even worth taking the risk? Kasi nagdadalawang-isip talaga ako.

Context: My ex-situationship and I are still mutuals on the blue app. Hindi namin in-unfriend or in-unfollow ang isa’t isa since we ended things on good terms naman, and we're both single. Recently, nagkausap ulit kami, but not in a lovey-dovey way anymore. More like two people who know each other and are just catching up.

Eventually, napunta yung usapan namin sa kung anu-ano, hanggang sa napunta sa FWB. Between the two of us, siya yung wala pang experience when it comes to being physically intimate with a partner. He told me that he wants to explore and that I'm someone he's considering doing it with. He also made it clear na no feelings attached daw.

Hindi ko pa alam kung ano ang isasagot ko because I'm genuinely considering it, but I'm also having second thoughts. I've been abstinent for around two years now, and I also have a lot on my plate—work, travel plans, saving money, and reviewing for the board exam. Beside, I am planning to settle down after ko matapos lahat ng ginagawa ko.

So right now, I honestly don't know if I should take the risk or just leave things as they are.

Edit: I cannot promise as well na hindi ako mahuhulog because I once begged him before just to work things out between us lol.

Feeling ko mali kase sagot ko HAHAHAHA

Problem/Goal: Is this even normal or OA lang talaga ako?

Context: I'm still in my early 20s pa naman. I've been in relationships multiple times, but all of them were short-term lang (around 1–2 months). I've been single for almost 2 years now because most of my exes were cheaters and sex-deprived. So, I tried using dating apps, pero ganon din. Lalo na if walang substance kausap, ako mismo ang nag-ququit.

I feel lost, actually, like I don't know what to feel kasi parang yung mga tao sa paligid ko naka-fast forward na. Some of my friends are already starting families and getting engaged. While me? Still minding my own shit and focusing on my growth. Kaya minsan naiisip ko, maybe love isn't really meant for me. Might sound OA, but yeah. And I know naman na hindi lang doon dapat umiikot yung mundo ko.

Pero minsan kasi naiisip ko, if mangyayari rin ba sa'kin yung nangyayari sa kanila. Like, will I ever meet someone who genuinely gets to know me as a whole person, and someone I don't always have to be the strong, independent woman around? Wala lang. Out of nowhere, napapaisip lang talaga ako about these things. I know naman na yung trip ko sa buhay isn't necessarily the ideal path for everyone else, but sometimes I still wonder if I'll ever experience that kind of love too or tumanda na lang na dalaga na financial stable w/ 4 dogs. Haha!

Problem/Goal: Lagi na lang ganito at napupuno na ako. I don't know what to do. Minamasama pa kapag sobrang prangka ko na tigilan nila pagsusugal. Best way ba talaga to live solo? If yes, how to start and manage po ba?

Context: Birthday ko ngayon. Wala namang problema kung walang celebration o kahit anong ganap. Buong araw lang akong nasa kwarto, at okay lang sana sa akin 'yon.

Ang hindi ko na matanggap, sinabi ko na sa kanya na may aasikasuhin akong requirements bukas para sa board examination ko. Ubos na ang sweldo ko. Napunta na nga halos lahat dito sa bahay at sa iba pang mga prios ko like review center, materials, allowance, etc. So, sinisingil ko na siya sa hiniram niyang pera sa akin last week dahil need ko na rin bayaran graduation fee ko at next week na rin kase yon. Ending hinahanapan pa rin ako na bakit wala na raw ba akong pera at atat akong magbayad sila.

Hindi naman ako madamot. Pero nakakapagod kapag pakiramdam mo, kahit ubos ka na, may inaasahan pa ring ibigay mula sa'yo. Hindi pa naman stable finance ko dahil contractual lang din yung work ko last time and rn unemployed na ulit but naghahanap na ng bagong work while reviewing. Ewan nakakapagod na nakakasawa haha.

any local brand na may dupe neto can't decide e feel ko hype lang mga nababasa ko sa mga platforms

🤷🏽‍♀️

Fresh graduate, no experience.

Problem/Goal: How can someone get their spark back? For some reason, mas lamang sa akin yung pakiramdam ng cringe.

Context: I've been single for almost 2 years after being cheated on. Nawala yung spark ko to do landi sa guys, or kahit talking, tinatamad ako. Lalo na kapag alam kong walang substance kausap. In my mind, pinagmumura ko na sila.

Even my socials are inactive to the point na wala na rin akong kausap, halos mga GC sa school na lang. I also tried Tinder and Bumble, still the same.

Paano ba naman kasi puro "hi," "where are you from?," "fun?" Letche. Or may makakausap ng buong linggo, tapos biglang cold. So ending, block or ghost agad.

Sometimes I wonder if I've forgotten how to flirt or connect with people romantically.

Problem/Goal: Pagod na ako sa ganitong setup, but I do know mas pagod mother ko. I need to convince her.

Context: My mom (47) had a previous husband, which is my biological dad, but naghiwalay sila because my dad cheated on her. Now, may kinakasama na siya ulit and they’re married. And guess what? Ganon ulit — niloloko na naman siya.

Hindi lang isang beses ginawa ng stepfather ko ’yon. May previous history na siya ng cheating and nahuli na siya dati ng mom ko. Pero my mom trusted him and believed na hindi na niya uulitin.

For the past 6 months, hindi umuuwi yung stepfather ko because he’s working in Las Piñas. May thoughts na ako before na baka may iba na naman siya, pero malaki talaga tiwala ng mom ko sa kanya.

Then recently, nalaman niya na bago siya umuwi dito amin at sa graduation ng half-brother ko, nagkita pa muna sila nung babae and nag-sex pa muna sila before attending the event.

I’m honestly exhausted sa ganitong setup, and I know my mom is even more emotionally exhausted than me. I just don’t know how to convince someone to leave when they still keep holding on despite everything that already happened.

Previous attempt: I almost file a case din before dahil pumasok siya sa kwarto ko while natutulog ako. At tumabi siya sa kama ko and hinawakan arms and legs ko without my permission or anything. Alam ng mom ko ‘yon but gusto nila pagpasensyahan ko at lasing lang DAW.