u/Adorable_Badger2205

Problem/Goal: Naoffend ako sa friend ko, and nagreflect ako to our friendship and parang gusto ko na siyang icut off, hindi ko na makita yung reason to stay pa in this friendship, tama lang ba to cut off agad without confrontation?

Recently, I got into an accident na nagkaroon ako ng bone fracture, di ko pwedeng ilakad yung foot na may bone fracture, nangangamusta naman siya, she said na parang gusto niya ako dalawin, and then i said thank you, na sabi ko nalulungkot na nga rin ako tapos nadulas pa ako twice, and then she reacted haha and said "kawawa ka naman talaga🤣" tapos ako sabi ko "actually nauubusan na ako ng positive thoughts" naghaha react lang siya, and then days after nagsend ng reels di ko pinanuod then kanina i said na "sorry teh wala lang talaga ako gana makipag usap" then she reacted haha again then said "kawawa 🤣" naoff ako kasi parang ano bang nakakatawa? Hindi ko naman din hiningi na kaawaan niya ako, so nag isip isip ako, then naalala ko nga na kapag siya naman di ko naman siya dinidismiss kapag may problem siya, tapos ayun naalala ko na kapag ako pala magsheshare lagi siya nakikisapaw, na kakakwento niya lang siya na naman ulit, naiisip ko ngayon worth it pa ba yung ganitong friendship? Feeling ko the whole time is dismissed ako palagi sa friendship eh, or ewan ko

Recently naaccident ako and bone fracture sa paa, and then meron akong friend na nangangamusta naman, last week naopen ko sakanya na nalulungkot na nga ako sa nangyayari ganyan, nag haha react siya sa chat ko then said "kawawa ka naman talaga🤣" then sabi ko na "nauubusan na ako ng positive thoughts" ganyan then di na siya nagreply naghaha react na lang, few days after nagsend ng video from tiktok na di ko na chineck then kanina lang ako nagreply saying na "sorry teh wala kasi ako gana makipag usap" etc, tapos tinawanan niya na naman saying "kawawa🤣" OA ba ako na parang naooffend ako kasi ano bang nakakatawa sa situation ko? Di ko naman need ng iyakan niya ako, pero mukha bang joke time? I mean? Nasa lowest point ako at the moment, tapos ang makukuha kong reply is haha reacts with "kawawa🤣" di ko naman kailangan ng awa???

I am 26, and parang wala na ako gana to hangout with friends, parang more on family na lang, wala na rin ako gana to initiate a conversation, or kahit kapag sila nangangamusta, ganito ba talaga if pa-30 na?

Problem/Goal: Kasalanan ko ba yun na ayaw ko na magbayad ulit kasi nabawas na yung pera sa account ko eh? Tapos gusto magbayad na naman ako kasi hindi daw nagrereflect sakanila yung bayad.

Bumili ako ng food online, hindi kasi nagrereflect yung payment ko, yung seller gusto mag COD or magtransfer na lang ulit ako kahit nakapagtransfer na ako, nagsend na ako ng proofs na successful na sa side ko, pero sabi niya di pa daw pumapasok sakanya, nagsend rin ng foods. Ayaw ko na magbayad ulit kasi nabawas na sakin, ang sakin naman sakin nabawas na yung pera, sila nasa kanila pa yung pagkain, pwede nila mabenta pa ulit or kainin nila, ngayon nagtethreaten yung seller na ipopost niya raw eh, eh ako naman nagbayad ako agad nung nagsabi siya how much, di ko naman na control kung anong oras papasok yung pera, bank transfer to gcash yung transaction. Ang sabi naman sakin irerefund naman daw nila kung sakali na magbayad ako ulit and then pumasok yung una kong bayad, sakin naman, at nagsend na ako eh, bakit magsesend pa ako ulit? Wala akong nakuhang item and hindi na rin bumalik yung pera ko sakin

Hi, Paano po ba makapunta ng PNB ALLIED MAKATI? Nadisgrasya kasi ako sa move it eh hehe naghahanap ako alternatives, kapag ba sa sakayan sa Muzon pa-Cubao madadaanan ba nun yung MRT? Saan po ba yung mabilis na way?

For mid 20s to 30s na single, how do you enjoy life? Kung hindi mahilig sa bar and inom (graduate na ako sa inom because masakit sa ulo).

I am 27F, I have a best friend (27F) for more than a decade now. She got married three years ago, so she’s only been with her husband (27M) for around four years. He’s also her first boyfriend.

Since we’re really close, we talk about everything. Like, literally everything. No filter at all. That’s why I was surprised when I found out that her husband reads our conversations. Sometimes he’s even the one replying to me using her account.
After they got married and moved into their own place, they started inviting me over. The first time I visited was okay, nothing weird happened. But the second time was when I started feeling uncomfortable.

Her husband kept making jokes like, “Do you want to watch us have sex? I’ll make sure it’s worth watching.” Then another one was, “I don’t have anyone to introduce to you, but i know someone who can fvck you” My friend would just laugh at those jokes.

Later that day, my friend and I were finally having some alone time in their bedroom when her husband suddenly came in to charge his phone. The outlet was beside me, but instead of just plugging it in, he suddenly lay down right next to me on the bed. I honestly froze for a few minutes because I didn’t know what to do. Eventually I stood up, and then he made the same joke again about watching them have sex. I kept telling him that he was being inappropriate and that his mouth was so foul, but eventually I just went home.

A few weeks later, they had a small gathering at their house and I went again. I told myself maybe I was just overthinking before and maybe those were just stupid jokes. But during the whole hour I was there, I felt so uncomfortable around him. Aside from constantly asking me questions, he was unnecessarily touchy. He would randomly touch my shoulder or get way too close for no reason. I couldn’t take it anymore, so I just went home again.
Months later, he invited me over again through chat. I just replied with “maybe next time,” but I restricted his account after that. Recently, I checked our chat and realized he had actually sent me a lot more messages that I never noticed, and honestly, it just made me feel even more uncomfortable.

Right now, I’ve kind of been silently cutting off my best friend too because I just don’t feel comfortable around her husband anymore. What makes me conflicted is that she never seemed bothered by any of this, especially those jokes, even when they happened right in front of her.

My question is, was it wrong for me to quietly distance myself from my best friend too? Is it normal that I have a little resentment toward her because all of this happened in front of her and she never really said anything? Or what’s the right way to handle this?

For now, I’ve just stopped associating with both of them because I don’t feel comfortable anymore. Should I try to keep the friendship, or is it better to let it go? I’m also scared to bring this up because I feel like she’ll just invalidate my feelings.

Yung friend ko kasi for more than a decade nagkaroon ng boyfriend (asawa na niya ngayon) and nagulat ako kasi binabasa daw isa isa nung boyfriend yung messages namin, eh mga usapan namin puro unfiltered lahat.

Problem/Goal: OA ba ako kasi medyo nag lie low ako sa friend ko, and nawawalan na ako ng gana makipagusap sakanya, makipag kita and even dalawin siya sa bahay nila.

Yung friend ko is meron nang husband and may anak na, 27 years old kami lahat, naweweird kasi ako sa asawa niya, nung magjowa pa lang sila medyo nagkakabiruan na kami, pero more on nakikisama lang ako sa husband niya kasi nga asawa niya yun, so eto na, one time pumunta ako sakanila, okay naman, nagchikahan kami ng friend ko, and nakipagkulitan sa baby nila, so ayun parang natuwa sa first visit so parang sige next time punta ulit ako ganyan. Months after biglang tumawag sakin husband niya, akala ko naman yung friend ko so sinagot ko nagulat ako husband pala niya, so ako hinanap ko na lang yung friend ko na "nasaan si Marie (not real name)?" Then saka kami nag usap, tong husband niya panay ang ask kelan ba ako ulit pupunta para nga kasi magkita na kami ulit ng friend ko, then konting chika chika, and then months after ulit may naging problem ako so dumalaw ako sa friend ko as shoulder to cry on nga, kaso dito na nagstart na medyo naweirdan ako sa asawa niya, kasi nag uusap kami, which medyo uncomfy ako kasi di ko machika sa friend ko yung sama ng loob ko since nandoon asawa niya (di ko naman kasi talaga personally close yung asawa, and ayoko na may ibang tao na nakikinig ganon) so ayun, medyo uncomfy, nadadagdagan pa nung mga jokes ng husband niya na "gusto mo dito ka sa kabilang kwarto tapos panuorin mo kami sa cctv na magsex? Promise gagalingan ko" di ako tumatawa sinasaway ko, kaso ewan ko, then ang dami niya pang mga ganyang jokes na meron pa sabi ng friend ko "may irereto ka ba dito? (Sakin nga)" then sabi ng asawa niya "wala eh, kak*nt0t meron" tapos sabi ko "ano ba naman yang bibig mo!!!" Tapos hanggang sa naglaro na yung husband niya so may time na kami ng friend ko magusap, sa kwarto nila kami nag uusap, bigla pumasok yung husband and nasa tabi ko kasi yung saksakan so magchacharge daw yung husband niya, akala ko naman uupo lang sa tabi ko, gulat ako bigla nahiga, umalis ako kasi ang weird, hanggang sa pinaulit niya na naman yung "gusto mo nga kami panuorin? May cctv nga dito tapos don ka sa kabilang room" tapos di ko na magets ano mafifeel ko, so nagdahilan na ako and umuwi na lang.

Tapos one month after birthday nung baby nila, so ako naisip ko kasi baka oa lang nga ako, na baka di na siya magjoke ng ganon, kaso one hour lang tinagal ko don sa bahay nila because masyadong malapit yung husband niya, etong si friend busy magluto luto, ako at first kinakausap ko yung mga bata doon sakanila, then etong husband panay ang tabi at chika chika, eh di naman kami close so parang ayoko ganon, hanggang sa di ko na matiis, umuwi na lang ako

Ngayon medyo di ko na kinakausap yung friend ko, lalo pa parang months ago after ng birthday ng baby nila nagchat yung mister niya sakin na kelan ba daw ako ulit pupunta sakanila, na siya daw bahala sa lunch and dinner ko, nirestrict ko na lang, pero upon checking, ang dami palang chat na sakin nung mister, mga reply sa stories

Hi, I'll be regularized by 2nd week of August, ang offer sakin is 70k package, gusto ko lang magrequest ng salary increase upon regularization, based on performance feedback, positive naman ang feedback, pagpatuloy ko lang daw yung pagiging proactive, positive attitude towards work, adaptable, and yung willingness to learn.

So i have handled three branches na, and medyo malawak na rin yung scope ng workload na hawak ko, feeling ko deserve ko naman, pero medyo alangan ako mag ask, di ko kasi alam kung paano, lagi rin ako pinipraise ng manager ko about my work, about sa willingness ko to learn, and sa overall performance ko.

Hindi ko alam paano ko ba siya ibibring up, and hindi ba too early???

Problem/Goal: I am NBSB, 26 years old, and gusto ko lang manghingi ng tips on how to accept ba na tatandang dalaga?

Context: hindi ako ligawin, hindi rin ako gustuhin, twice lang ako nakipag date, talking stage tatlo lang din, feeling ko kasi nasa point na ako na ayoko na umasa or isipin na magaasawa ako or what kasi nga di naman ako gustuhin or ligawin, ayoko na rin umasa pa na someday eh merong dadating for me, so paano bang matatanggap na wala talaga? Di naman ako taong bahay, lumalabas ako kapag weekends, malls, hike, or minsan lakad lakad lang, di nga lang ako mahilig magbar or maginom na, so alam ko na low chance talagang makapag asawa, so paano ba?

I applied last month for BDO Auto loan, and then after a week tinawagan ako for CI, ngayon two weeks na and wala pa rin update, declined na kaya yun pagganon?