r/OALangBaAko

May nag message sa TG account ni BF saying "Good morning", pumasok yung message ng 4PM this afternoon. The moment na sinabi ko sa kanya na may nag message sa'yo, and pina kita ko (nag pop up yung message/notif sa PC niya while I was working on his desk) sabi niya, baka scammer lang at dali dali niyang binlock at dinelete ang message.

Please give me insights. May mga ganitong "scam" ba talaga sa TG? hidden yung phone number and it seems like new ang account. Although, the full name was there. Hindi ko na makita yung message again dahil binura niya.

Recently naaccident ako and bone fracture sa paa, and then meron akong friend na nangangamusta naman, last week naopen ko sakanya na nalulungkot na nga ako sa nangyayari ganyan, nag haha react siya sa chat ko then said "kawawa ka naman talaga🤣" then sabi ko na "nauubusan na ako ng positive thoughts" ganyan then di na siya nagreply naghaha react na lang, few days after nagsend ng video from tiktok na di ko na chineck then kanina lang ako nagreply saying na "sorry teh wala kasi ako gana makipag usap" etc, tapos tinawanan niya na naman saying "kawawa🤣" OA ba ako na parang naooffend ako kasi ano bang nakakatawa sa situation ko? Di ko naman need ng iyakan niya ako, pero mukha bang joke time? I mean? Nasa lowest point ako at the moment, tapos ang makukuha kong reply is haha reacts with "kawawa🤣" di ko naman kailangan ng awa???

OA lang ba ako if I want to break up with my boyfriend because nagv-vape pa rin siya?

We’ve been together since high school and we’re now professionals na.

He’d been occasionally smoking since grade 8 then transitioned to vape through SHS to College. Ako, late bloomer sa mga bisyo, tried smoking SHS, transitioned to vaping nung college, then stopped na before kami grumaduate.

The only reason I tried and started was bc napatay mom ko sa lung cancer and I thought what better to kms as well LOL. Anyway, di nagtagal yung bisyo bc may asthma ako.

When I decided to try to stop, I asked my boyfriend to try din with me. I didn’t pressure him right away. Alam ko naman how addictions work. Time, patience, and everything ang kailangan, so I waited and I encouraged him.

I think since 2023 nag-start yung pag-stop niya. Slowly, he didn’t buy pods/juice na as consistently. 2025, he stopped na altogether. Until umattend kami recently wedding ng mutual friend. After mingling with the girls nung reception, I went to check on him and the boys and dun ko nakita may smoke sa air sa space nila. They were vaping NBD, but he was joining in. Na-shook ako guys, at lalong mas na-shook ako na ang casual lang sa kanya mag-hi lang. I thought to myself, “Why tf is he acting normal? Nakalimutan ba niyang he stopped na?”

I didn’t lash out syempre but we did talk when we got home. He told me he thought I knew na he stopped but not when he was with the boys, since bonding lang naman daw. I mean okay, I admit they hang out lang mga once every 2-3 months lang, but yung principle ba?

Anyway, I wasn’t as mad as anyone as I am with myself. Kase fine, it’s his right, his life, but he is also my boyfriend. And if I’m not comfortable with my partner and his preferences, why tf would I stay pa? Hypocrite ba ako? OA ba ako? May na-misunderstand ba ako sa difference ng pags-stop and sa occasional bisyo? I’m so confused.

Hi, advice pls 😭 OA lang ba ako or valid naman tong nararamdaman ko?
1 year na kami ng boyfriend ko. Half chinese siya and marunong siya magmandarin kasi na chinese school siya. Half chinese din naman ako pero hindi ako marunong magsalita or umintindi ng Mandarin.

So he has this circle of friends na mostly Chinese/half-Chinese. Mabait naman sila, pero I can’t help feeling insecure and left out kasi parang ako lang yung naiiba. The thing is, may girl siya before college na nagustuhan niya. Hindi sila naging official, more like MU/TOTGA situation, pero close sila before. Chinese din yung girl and ngayon nasa ibang bansa na siya for work. She’s also close with my boyfriend’s friends because they went to the same school before.

And honestly, kapag nakikita ko sila or even just think about them, parang feeling ko ang bagay nila 😭 Both Chinese, cute, same circle, same background, and parang ang natural ng connection nila. Minsan naiisip ko na if they ever dated, mukha silang mag-asawa. I know ang OA pakinggan pero yun talaga pumapasok sa utak ko. Iniisip ko nga sayang sila e.

Tapos ako kasi parang outsider LOL eto pa kapag nasa coffee shop ako ng boyfriend ko tapos biglang dumating friends niya, nahihiya talaga ako and minsan gusto ko nalang umalis. Kapag kumakain kami pa kami sa Chinese restaurant tapos nag uusap sila in Mandarin, conscious ako kasi hindi ko naiintindihan. Sometimes I literally convince myself na baka mino-mock nila ako kasi di ako nakakkaintindi kahit wala naman akong proof na ginagawa nila yun. 😭

I also constantly compare myself to that girl. Parang feeling ko she’s everything that fits into his world and I’m not. Kahit I take care of myself and I know I have my own good qualities, parang feeling ko kulang pa rin ako.
And now I’m seriously thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend for good because I feel like maybe we’re just not compatible. The problem is, mahal na mahal ko siya and I don’t think he’s actually done anything wrong**.** Most of this is happening inside my head.

How do I fix this kind of mindset? Ayoko maging pessimistic girlfriend na lagi nalang nag-aassume ng worst-case scenario or naghahanap ng reason para masaktan. I don’t want to keep comparing myself to his past or convince myself na mas bagay sila just because they have the same background.

I want to learn how to be more secure with myself and with our relationship. Ayoko rin naman na every time kasama ko friends niya, nasa utak ko na agad na “I don’t belong here” or “mas bagay siya sa kanila kaysa sakin.”
So please be honest with me. OA lang ba ako? And for those who have experienced this kind of insecurity, how did you actually fix your mindset? Did you learn to become more secure on your own, or did you talk to your partner about it? I really don’t want to lose someone I love just because I keep comparing myself to someone from his past. :(

I (27M) am currently working part time as a trainer. From time to time, I handle students from different companies to teach them something. I'm not gonna disclose the lessons to avoid doxxing myself.

At the beginning of the lessons, I always introduce myself. Along with that, I briefly talk about my family and how my boyfriend got me into the IT industry. I really don't go beyond one sentence when talking about my bf. Just enough as my own way to normalize same-sex relationships.

Problem:

This just happened today. I have this one online class from students in a far flung area of Cebu province. After introducing myself, I asked everyone to introduce themselves one by one to serve as their attendance. However, three or more boys started sounding off. They were acting/sounding gay or pretending to be one. They even deliberately change their names to a more feminine one but then revert back to a different nickname while giggling slightly when I ask clarification.

I felt disrespected. As someone who's actually gay, I can tell if someone is actually gay or pretending. I can tell if someone is mocking trans names from those who don't.

I don't understand how anyone can treat a person like that --- a teacher even! They didn't even act like that at first when they didn't know yet that I was gay. Take note that they're all working professionals already. Take note that this was our first meeting and I have done nothing but treat them kindly. I even asked them to introduce themselves with their preferred nicknames because I understand that some people dislike the names their parents gave them.

Nothing wrong with sounding gay but there was a hint of ill-intention from their tone. I mean, I don't go around sounding like a woman when my teacher is female??? They clearly intend to mock me in front of their workmates. If this keeps up, I'll be upfront with them.

been seeing this guy for 2mos and we message each other everyday. tapos since mag-out of country ako this week, inaya nya ako last week to meet ng weekend para daw magkita muna kami. sya pa nagsuggest anong activities and all.

im not the type to follow up kung tuloy o hindi pero the day na sinabi nya came and walang sabi sabi kung anong oras so ako na nagtanong kung tuloy o hindi. tapos panic reply nya and said nalimutan daw nya??? dahil super busy sa work the past few days?? which totoo naman. pero possible ba talagang malimutan mo yun? e dati sya yung laging excited. nagsorry naman and sabi babawi pero dahil sa inis ko, di ko nireplyan for a day pero di man lang sya nagchat ulit? when he used to double, triple chat?

oa ba ako or is the free trial done? hahahahahahaha

OA lang ba ako or something is off? While browsing my husband’s phone habang natutulog sya I saw some pictures of my baby’s private parts. May damit naman si baby. It was when he was changing diapers. My baby is a boy din naman. Kaso medyo off ang dating sakin. I want to talk to him and ask why take such photos and ipadelete na din. Pero baka sabihan ako na OA lang ako. Normal lang ba un like baka proud sya na may baby boy sya. First baby din. So OA lang ba talaga ako?

Ma ooff ba ang gf ko kapag nalaman niyang hindi ko ipon ang engagement ring na bibigay ko sa kaniya? I want to propose na dahil sure na ako sa kaniya, at ayoko na rin patagalin kami kaya right now hindi ako makapag ipon (but wala akong financial burden or setback talagang magipon lang ang problem ko now) so iniisip ko mag convert ng credit ko to cash para isang bagsakan then babayaran ko monthly (which is doable sakin kesa magipon at maghintay) pero i also want her to know din na ganon ginawa if ever na tanungin niya.

I (21F) was in the car with my younger brother (15) waiting for my parents to come back from the market. Naiwan kami sa car para may kasama yung 4 dogs namin. We had to pass by the market to pick up an order before heading home, ang pumunta ay yung mga magulang namin and my other brother.

While in the car, medyo uminit dahil di binuksan yung windows. The keys were with my dad so hindi namin mabubuksan yung window because automatic car siya and you can only open it pag nakapasak yung keys and turned on into a idle state. So I opened our door just a bit, only maybe two fingers wide for safety and because umaambon din.

Maybe an hour has passed, I put down my phone from chatting and then I saw this guy. He was just standing there from across the street, glancing at our direction randomly. Medyo naging alert ako, because it's just me and my younger brother, and our 4 dogs. Though maraming tao sa area (may pedicab, trikes, and two old folks in front sa pawn shop sa pinag-parkan namin) so I tried to shake it off, kasi baka OA lang ako.

The thing is, he was just standing there for a long time, doing nothing. He wasn't waiting for anyone either. Wala siyang dalang bags or anything. Just there, idle and repeatedly looking at our direction. Medyo see through yung window namin dahil medyo light yung tint ng car windows. So he could see me looking back at him and observing.

Maybe nearly 30 minutes has passed, andun pa rin siya and I started to get worried.

Nung tumatawid na siya slowly, like inching a bit, dun na ako medyo naging highly suspicious. I gently closed the door because baka nga OA lang ako and baka ma-offend ko siya dahil di ko naman siya kilala.

Naghintay pa siya ng extra minutes, glancing at us. At that point I was high alert na because he was too close sa car.

I finally breathed when he hailed a jeepney. Two passed by until the 2nd one picked him up. Take note, maraming jeep na dumadaan kanina pa. Wala naman ding dumating na other person for him to be with. Wala siyang phone na chinecheck. So dun talaga ako nag-alala

OA ba ako for being too cautious like that?

Need an outside perspective kasi baka ako lang talaga yung nag-ooverthink.

I was talking to someone who became really important to me. We got close, but things eventually became complicated because of misunderstandings and my own insecurities. I tried explaining to him several times na important siya sa akin, but at some point, he pushed me away and decided that he wanted distance.

I respected it. I deleted our conversation and stopped trying to convince him.

He eventually blocked me on one messaging app. It’s been 4 days now. Pero I noticed na I’m still not blocked on Messenger, Instagram, or even on my number.

I know there could be a million practical reasons for that. Maybe he simply doesn’t care enough to block me everywhere, maybe he forgot, or maybe those platforms just aren’t relevant to him.

But I’m overthinking because before everything ended, he kept questioning whether he was really important to me. He even said that if I could eventually move on and be okay without him, then maybe he wasn’t that important after all.

So now I’m wondering if I’m just giving meaning to something that probably means nothing.

OA lang ba ako for wondering why someone would block me on one platform but leave other ways of contacting me completely open? Or is it possible that even when someone wants distance, they’re not necessarily ready to completely cut you off?

I’m not planning to message him or bypass the block. I just want an outside perspective because I know I’m probably too emotionally involved to interpret this objectively.

Hello,

It's been almost 24 hours since my boyfriend responded to my message or ex? Idk.

He just recently graduated college and I'm already working for 8 years now.

He is now currently working in Private School sa Manila while ako VA.

In those 8 years habang nagtatrabaho ako, lahat ng gala namin/bakasyon eat out kahit anong larga ako yung nagbabayad.

Now na he just started working wala pang 1 month na nagsabi ako na napapagod na ko gumastos samin,biglang di na sya nagrerespond.

Idk what happened,he is not responding to any of my calls. We do not live together and dapat magkasama kami now dahil only day off namin na pareho.

Did he just used me for those years?

He also do not have plans for us.

He does not even post me on his social media.

I don't know his cellphone password while yung akin alam nya.

He have access to everything,ako wala.

Idk what to do.

Tangina.

I have been with my boyfriend (we're in our 30s) for almost three years now.

Overall, okay naman ang relationship namin. Wala naman kaming problema, pero lately, may nararamdaman akong uneasiness tungkol sa relationship namin. Napapaisip ako kung saan ba talaga kami patungo at kung magiging okay ba kami in the future.

A little background:

Whenever we are intimate, napapansin ko na madalas siyang maging rough, and sometimes, parang wala nang love or affection involved—parang sex na lang talaga. Dati, after namin maging intimate, he would carry me and give me aftercare. Pero lately, pagkatapos, kanya-kanya na lang kaming linis. Then kapag bumalik na kami sa bed para magpahinga, usually nagpo-phone siya at naglalaro ng games habang ako naman ang nagkukusa na yumakap sa kanya. Pero hindi ko naman nararamdaman na ganoon din ang affection na binibigay niya sa akin.

Kapag gusto niyang maging intimate ulit, especially for a second or third round, usually hinihintay niya na ako ang mag-initiate or gumawa ng paraan para ma-turn on siya.

Even in our everyday conversations, ako rin ang madalas na nag-iinitiate. Ako ang laging nagsesend ng “good morning,” nagtatanong kung kumusta siya during the day, at nagsasabi ng “goodnight” bago matulog. Kapag hindi ako agad nakakapag-reply or natatagalan akong mag-message, sasabihin lang niya na matulog na ako, tapos hihintayin niya pa rin na ako ang magsabi ng goodnight bago siya mag-goodnight sa akin.

Minsan, after he reached climax, mananatili lang siya sa ibabaw ko without saying anything affectionate or giving me any caresses. And honestly, those little things have started to make me feel emotionally disconnected from him.

I've been submissive to him pero parang napapadalas na din ang pagiging dominant niya, nung una i treated him with facial care because he's bothered about his pimples, now he always request it whenever he's around. I already told him to do a facial care routine by himself pero wala. Lahat ng advises ko hindi niya tinutupad. Even exercise. Pero ako, kapag hindi nakapag exercise, may masasabi about sa body ko.

May mga klase ng affection, passion, gentleness, trust, repect and emotional connection na hinahanap-hanap ko. Gusto kong maramdaman na hindi lang ako desired physically, but also loved, cared for, and emotionally connected with. And lately, napapaisip ako kung mararanasan ko pa ba talaga lahat ng iyon with him.

I'm beginning to think na baka kailangan ko muna ng time apart, or kahit kaunting space lang para makahinga, makapag-isip, at mahanap ulit ang peace of mind ko.

I can admit na minsan, I find some of his behavior immature. Pero more than anything, gusto kong mag-reflect siya sa sarili niya—sa attitude niya, sa behavior niya, at sa paraan ng pakikitungo niya sa akin.

Gusto kong maintindihan niya kung ano talaga ang nararamdaman ko. Hindi naman dahil gusto ko siyang baguhin completely, but because I want him to realize na may epekto sa akin ang mga ginagawa at ipinapakita niya.

I still care about him. Mahal ko pa rin siya. Pero I'm starting to question whether love alone is enough kapag hindi ko na nararamdaman yung emotional connection, care, affection, and desire na kailangan ko.

Birthday ng mom nya and i dont feel like greeting her. Nasa ibang bansa sya. She never treated me as part of the family, never greeted me on my birthday as well or any occasion. Sinabi pa bat daw ako kinasama ni bf e di naman ako inc like them. Shes also always body shaming me.

Also, the time na i was grieving the other year sa pagkamatay ng mom ko, sinabihan pako ng “magmove on ka na”. Like wtf!? Thats my mom!? Parang di maka intindi? Walang emotional intelligence.. idk

OA lang ba ko?

lowkey nairita ako sa naging topic namin kanina ng mga kaibigan ko. nakwento kasi ng isa naming friend yung attraction niya sa blockmate niya pero may jowa daw. yan yung part na normal lang actually, kasi i really thought she was just telling us about what she feels. pero the conversation literally went with her narrating the skin ships they had daw with her blockmate na may fucking gf. which are he always held her hands daw habang tumatawid tapos di agad bibitawan, laging tumatabi sa kanya during lectures and the guy is leaning his head on her shoulders daw or playing with her hair while ranting stuffs about his relationship with her gf😭 and my friends were like kinikilig pa and the side comments were like "alam na, mag b-break na yan", "chance mo na yan". i was like ?????????????

so i expressed myself agad and point out na may jowa parin yung guy and suddenly naging akward kami saglit however pinagpatuloy parin nila yung topic tas ginatungan pa yung mga kwento ng friend namin😭 sa sobrang irita ko nagpalusot nalang ako na may bibilhin pa akong equipments para sa lab activity namin. ngl, im starting to outgrow this circle.

1yr and a half in the relationship, my bf met some online game friends na mixed of boys and girls. Marami naman girls pero may isang girl lang na super uncomfy ako. Not because of the girl (kinda) kasi kaasaran nya naman halos lahat but more more lang sa bf ko. Wala akong inis sa kanya, pero sa bf ko meron because I told him na uncomfy ako na parang they spend more time and mas close pa sila kesa samin. There was a time pa na 24hrs di nya ako minessage at naglaro lang sya mula paggising. Then messaged me "nagchat ka pala" after. When di kami magkasama, he's always playing with them/her. Pag magkasama kami, he always checks his phone para sa messages nila. Year na sila magkakalaro now, year na rin simula nung pinuna ko interactions nila. I brought it up last time, and sabi nya he'd stop playing and interacting with her. But there he is now, starting it again. I was really trying to work with what I feel kasi it's not bad to have friends. This is also the first girl na sinabi ko sa kanyang uncomfy ako kasi di ko matiis. Nagagalit sya pag ako may kalaro, saying people are flirting w me. That's why I stopped long exposure sa mga nakakalaro ko. I stopped having game friends. It's getting bad coz im considering breaking up na lang kesa mafeel to again and again

Hello po everyone. First post ko po to dito, and I want to ask for everyone's thoughts about my situation. Maybe I just have too much time on my hand, kaya ganito na thoughts ko. I have been together with my boyfriend for a few months now and ldr kami, we go to seperate universities and have a fairly healthy relationship, no arguments so far.

around 3 months ago, my boyfriend was updating me about his day like he usually does and mentioned na may nagka-crush sakanya na classmate and at first nag joke ako because I really didn't thought much of it, he assured me naman without me asking for it and I thought it was sweet and that was that. Pero, as the days go by, he often sends me photos of his week during weekends (dun lang kami may time to have a full-fledged conversation dahil sa difference schedules) but nahahalataan ko yung girl sa photos niya, I don't ask "hey diba yan yung may crush sayo?" whenever I spot her sa photos ni bf kasi I don't want to seem like those gfs na binabawalan yung bfs nila mag hang out with the opposite gender kasi I want to trust him and again, classmates sila (both officers sa class nila). There was a time when he told me na nag-confess yung girl sakanya and he said that he rejected her and even told her na may gf na siya, he seemed very weirded out by it kasi he made it clear naman daw sa classmates nila na may girlfriend na siya.

But then for a few days, hindi na kami lagi nagcocommunicate ng masyado because of full schedule pero during the time we have time to talk I noticed na naging friends na sila and he even reassured me na he only thinks of her as a sister like all the other girls sa class nila. (might I mention that there was a time that the girl posted his photos in her story along with hers, parang bf hard launch hahah). I was talking to him kanina sa tiktok and nalaman ko yung tiktok account ng girl, I was curious and checked her account; may nakita akong repost niya na about sa crush niya, the video had this audio along the lines of "why do we have crushes when we can't have them" or something, tapos nakita ko nag reply si bf sa repost niya, and I can't even remember when he replied to mine (maybe once pero I do repost alot sa tiktok). OA ba ako if mag rereply ako sa repost ni girl?

I have two friends, Friend A and Friend B. Mas close ako kay A, while okay naman kami ni B.

One time, A invited me to hang out with them. Since tatlo kami, I went. Pero when I arrived, they were already seated at a small table na parang pang-dalawa lang. So ako, I had to find a seat beside them. They were also already having their drinks/food, and no one asked me if I wanted anything. I honestly thought, “If I were them, I would’ve saved a seat for my friend.” If you already know na tatlo kayo, why not just sit at a bigger table from the start?

I eventually told A that I felt excluded. She apologized and said may seat naman daw talaga for me, but someone borrowed it. I accepted the apology, but I still felt like it wasn’t really an excuse. Kasi kung ako yun, kung alam kong may paparating pa, hindi ko ibibigay yung seat sa iba or kung ibibigay man, momove nalang sa ibang table with more chairs.

Fast forward to now, A invited me to hang out again with friend B. I initially said yes, but eventually I backed out because I realized I’m no longer comfortable being around them.

I appreciate na they invited me, but I just can’t stop thinking about the previous experience, and I’m scared I’ll feel hurt again. I don't hate them or think they’re bad friends. I just don’t feel as comfortable with them anymore.

Am I being too sensitive for declining? Would you still go and try to move past it, or would you also distance yourself a little?

LONG POST AHEAD. Sorry na agad.

So for context, yung aunt ko was diagnosed with Bipolar in 2020-21. One thing na sinabi ng doctor is mahirap na daw icorrect yung paguugali niya kasi habitual na. Kumbaga over the years na paulit ulit ung pag iisip niya sa mga bagay bagay. Like kunwari may nawawala siyang gamit, sinasabi niya may umaakyat daw sa bahay kumukuha ng gamit niya—- like panty at bra khit di namin siya ka-size???

Madalas kung ano ung nasa isip niya ay yun ung tama at totoo.

Sa province kami nakatira, pero recently lumuwas kami kasi bday ng pinsan ko. Tumuloy kami sa bahay nila at di pa kami makauwi kasi nga paulan ulan diba.

Pansin kasi namin pag matagal mo siya kasama kung ano ano pinag iisip. Dun nag sstart magbintang sa mga tao. Pero this time iba naman.

Late night naiwan kami 2 sa sala, nanood ng movies. Ito ung convo:

T: lapit ka sakin may sasabihin ako sayo

A: (lumapit naman)

T: itong singsing na to, pamana ng lola ko. Pinahiram ko to sa asawa ko nung kasal namin kasi wala siya ibang accessories.

T: ano tingin mo kay <pinsan>?

A: okay naman siya. Ano meron?

T: Kung nakaalis pala tayo kanina papuntang sm, nakabili na tayo ng wedding ring.

Yung pinsan ko younger sakin ng 6 years at may fiance na. Ikakasal sila next year. At ayaw ng tita ko sa girl.

A: bakit tayo bibili ng wedding ring? Nagpapabili na ba sila?

T: hindi. Tayo lang.

A: Huh? Ikaw bibili for them? Bakit hindi sila?

T: hindi. Tayo lang 3. Ikaw, ako at si <pinsan>

Syempre nagtataka ako bakit di kasama ung fiance??? Diba??

A: …… bakit nga tayo bibili?

T: sakin pinamana ung singsing kasi sinasama ako noon sa gawaan. Kaya maalam ako sa singsing.

A: ….

T: nakabili na sana tayo ng wedding niyo.

A: ………………..

T: noon kasi napag uusapan namin ng mama mo na kayong dalawa ni <pinsan>

A: tumigil ka kanonood ng drama. Kung ano ano naiisip mo. Magpinsan kami!!!! BAKIT IKAW DI KA NAGPAKASAL SA PINSAN MO?!

T: Kanino ako magpapaksal? Wala naman ako pinsan.

A: isipin mo si tito <1> pinakasalan mo before na 15yrs younger sayo

T: eh iba naman yun

A: PAANO NAGING IBA EH GNUN DIN UNG GUSTO M

Nahimasmasan siguro.

T: Ay naku. Tigilan na nga natin tong usapan na to. Kalimutan mo na.

The next day….

Nag pa order ng maxi dresses madami parehas mga kulay sa mga pinsan ko. Tapos iba kulay sa knila ng nanay ko.

The next next day…

Nagpaorder ng long goen ung cheapipay sa shopee.

Kahapon….

Tinawag ako sa kwarto at pinasukat ung mga dress!!! White na makintab at isang makintab na cream!!!! Bagay daw sakin.

Tapos nung kinagabihan, sabi niya halika mamili ka ng bouquet dito. Iorder mo.

A: PARA SAAN ANG BOUQUET?

T: Syempre kailangan ng bouquet. Ako ikaw si ate mo, sa mama mo….

A: TUMIGIL KA. ALAM KO ALAM MO YANG INIISIP MO.

T: ano ka ba. Ipapadala ko sa bahay <ni ate daw>.

T@nga ba ko? Bakit tig isa kami ng nanay ko.

AT PANONG DI AKO MAGWAWALA TALAGA. MATUTULOG NA LANG. UMAKYAT PA SIYA TAPOS MAY DALANG PEKENG GOLD RING MAGPAKAPARES.

T: ANO RING SIZE MO. SUKAT MO NGA TO. WAG KA MUNA MATULOG. BABALIK AKO.

PUT@NG!N@ TALAGA DIBA. Nagtago na ko niyan sa room ng parents ko. Nilock namin pinto. Npaka siraulo. Di siya nakukuha sa mahinahon na usap.

Mag-aalmost 3 years na kami ng girlfriend ko. Siya ay 23F, ako naman 21M. Pareho kaming students, kaya naiintindihan ko naman na minsan kapos talaga sa pera.

Noong first year namin, madalas siyang mangutang sa akin para sa pagkain o baon kapag nade-delay yung padala ng tito niya. Usually maliit lang naman yung hinihiram niya, tapos nakakabayad din siya, kaya wala naman akong problema noon.

Pero nung nag-2 years na kami, doon nagsimula yung problema.

Nakilala niya yung pagsusugal at nagsimula siyang mangutang sa akin para may panglaro. Minsan ₱200, minsan ₱300, minsan ₱500. Since nakakabayad naman siya dati, hinahayaan ko lang din.

Eventually, nanalo siya ng around ₱15,000 sa sugal. Gusto niyang bumili agad ng iPad, and okay naman sa akin kasi pera naman niya yun. Pero habang nasa Power Mac kami, bigla niyang sinabi na gamitin ko na lang daw yung Billease ko para sa iPad para may hawak pa siyang cash at hulugan na lang daw niya sa akin yung babayaran.

Pumayag ako kasi pinagkakatiwalaan ko siya.

After nun, nangutang ulit siya sa akin ng ₱10,000. Yung pera na yun ay galing sa extra money ko para sa tuition. Sabi niya, uutangin daw ng tito niya at babayaran daw after ng katapusan.

Tinanong ko siya kung bakit hindi na lang yung pera niya ang ipautang niya. Ang sabi niya, kapag pera niya raw ang inutang ng tito niya, baka hindi raw siya bayaran. Wala rin daw siyang allowance that time.

Nilambing-lambing niya ako hanggang sa pumayag ako. Sabi naman niya babayaran din agad after ng katapusan, kaya pinagbigyan ko.

Kaso lumipas yung katapusan, wala pa rin.

After one month, tinanong ko siya kung nakuha na ba niya yung pera ng tito niya kasi kailangan ko rin yung pera. May mga kailangan akong bilhin at pinaplano ko sanang gamitin yung pera para doon.

Ang sagot niya, nahihiya raw siyang maningil sa tito niya pero icha-chat na raw niya kasi nahihiya rin siya sa akin.

Lumipas ulit ang isang buwan. Wala pa rin.

Hanggang sa umabot ng 8 months na puro dahilan. Minsan wala raw. Minsan hindi pa raw nagre-reply yung tito niya. Minsan iche-chat pa lang daw niya. Paulit-ulit lang.

May small business din siya, pero hindi niya masyadong inaasikaso. Kaya kapag may problema, madalas ako rin yung sumasalo.

Fast forward ngayon, umabot na sa ₱14,875 yung total na utang niya sa akin.

Pinaka-latest yung Billease.

Since pangalan ko yung nasa Billease, ako yung kailangang magbayad. Ayoko namang ma-delay dahil credit ko yung maaapektuhan. Sinabi niya sa akin na wala pa rin daw padala yung tito niya, kaya ako muna yung nagbayad ng Billease niya.

After nun, ilang araw akong nagtatanong kung nagpadala na ba yung tito niya kasi kailangan ko rin yung pera. May gagastusin sana ako para sa vaccination ng dog namin.

Araw-araw kong tinatanong.

Araw-araw din niyang sinasabi na wala pa raw.

Until ngayon, nalaman ko na may padala na pala yung tito niya nung Monday pa.

Meaning, ilang araw na akong nagtatanong kung dumating na yung pera, at ilang araw na rin niya akong sinasabihan na wala pa kahit meron na pala.

Hindi na ako galit solely dahil sa pera.

Galit ako kasi nagsinungaling siya sa akin tungkol sa pera habang ako yung nag-aalala kung paano mababayaran yung utang niya at yung Billease na pangalan ko ang nakalagay.

Pareho kaming students. Hindi naman ako mayaman at hindi rin unlimited yung pera ko. Yung ₱10,000 na pinahiram ko sa kanya galing pa sa extra tuition money ko. Tapos ako rin yung nagbabayad ng Billease para hindi masira yung credit ko.

Tinulungan ko siya kasi girlfriend ko siya at pinagkakatiwalaan ko siya. Pero habang tumatagal, parang ako na yung sumasalo sa mga financial problems niya.