u/Dralha_Eureka

My partner and I have had Milky for three years. Ten days ago, my partner left for MH reasons. Milky is free-roam, and she usually splits her day between the kitchen, the living room, our bedroom, and the office. She has a bunny routine for her important bunny business.

Since my partner left, Milky has increasingly been just staying in the bedroom, not exploring or playing as much. I had to start staying near her when I give her greens, because if I leave the kitchen, she leaves the greens and follows me. She has been very clingy and needing constant attention when I get home from work, or she will tug on my pants legs. Normally, she likes to be in the same room as us but usually doing her own thing (destruction).

How do bunnies usually handle the loss of one of their humans? Will she be back to herself at some point, or do bunnies tend to grieve a long time? Is there anything I can do to help her?

My (37M) partner (33F) of 4.5 years was previously Bipolar 2, but is in her second full manic episode starting three weeks ago. Her first one was two years ago but it was pretty much just weeks of insomnia and high-energy. This time, she got 10 hours of sleep for two weeks in a row, still had more energy than usual, and so on. She also just left me for a 30-something F from halfway across the country that she met online.

In the past, she had denied ever having any attraction to women. This woman did a real number, first grooming her with "harmless fun" cybersex, then escalating it to intense. My partner had wanted to include me, but this woman shut it down and got her to break up with me by convincing her our relationship was all trash. Then, this woman drove halfway across the country to get an apartment with my partner. They met in person for two days, after about 10 days of cybersex, and she is now in love even though she has never been attracted to a woman before, this woman is frankly not attractive, doesn't work, claims to be a recovering addict, and our relationship had been pretty good going into the episode.

I am absolutely devastated by this. I hope to try to rebuild with her if/when she becomes herself again, with lots of therapy and plans in place for future mania.

I love her, and aside from this, I thought we were going to make it to the end together. I know that my partner is basically not existing right now, and this person is just hijacking her body. We didn't have any preparations since she never had full mania with behavioral changes, and a mood stabilizer was only just now added.

I was able to get her parents involved enough to get her to go home for some days so she doesn't drop a few k on an apartment with someone she is days or weeks away from regretting, but they are still together for now.

For those who have been the person with mania in situations like this before, how long does it usually take? What part of coming down from mania do you usually start to process the bad decisions made during? Does it usually hit all once or does it usually kind of trickle out?

My other concern is that she has always had depressive-mixed episode cycles without much mania, so I am worried about how bad a mixed episode could be coming from this big mania. Her mixed episodes were already hard to survive. Someone who grooms a stranger who is in a relationship and drives halfway across the country to be a homewrecker is definitely not who I want near her if things get bad.

Any advice in general?

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