r/family_of_bipolar

28 yo son with BD 1.
First mania episode with psychotic features last Sept.
it has come back a year later.
He had been living by himself out of town and doing fairly well.
Would not answer phone calls e A week ago, he was in hospital for a week.
He’s out and at our home now.
Been on meds about a week
Still having paranoia and frustration

The main problem. His anger is directed towards me, and his paranoia. I try to remain calm and tell him that I realize that is what he is perceiving , but that is not the reality as I see it.
I am and always have been a good mom, supportive and helped him along in life.
This is hard. I have removed myself from the rest of the house. My husband is out in den with him.

When I’m around, he projects things on me, but then apologizes later.

It is a moment by moment life rn. But I had to just go into my bedroom to get away. When I say things around him, sometimes it’s ok and sometimes his delusions take over.

I’m just sitting on my bed trying to read a book. That’s my comfort place rn.
I have a stable life. Job. Homelife at 62 with husband 65.

This crisis is a bit overwhelming and I’m not usually in the position to ask for help.
I’m unsure moment by moment how to deal.

We currently have psychiatric appt for AM. He’s been there before. He is taking his meds now.

But today is hard.

Hi all, I dated someone with bipolar disorder and the relationship started very intensely. For the first month we were together constantly, understood each other really well, and talked seriously about marriage, kids, and the future. Then she suddenly pulled away for about a week, became much quieter, took a few days off work, and eventually told me she was having a really hard time mentally and didn’t have the capacity to continue a relationship.

We tried being friends, but I realized I was too emotionally attached and suggested no contact. She was hurt that I seemed to only see her romantically, so I tried friendship again, but it stayed confusing, especially when she asked if I’d be okay if we never dated again.

We eventually went back to no contact with me reaching out when ready. She broke it to ask about playing games with mutual friends, then apologized and said I should reach out when ready. I said it was okay and we talked normally that week. She then had a bad depressive episode and stayed at my place. The following week she bailed on the game, stayed with me again that weekend, and then told me her therapist thought she should stop talking to me, which blindsided me because I’d been the one trying to create distance. I told her reach out if she needed anything and now we're back in no contact.

She also encouraged me to use dating apps and move forward. I recently saw her on one of the apps saying “looking for friends,” which hurt more than expected. I’m not blaming her. I still care about her, but part of me is thinking, “What just happened?” For people with bipolar disorder or partners of someone who has it: does this intense closeness followed by suddenly losing capacity for the relationship sound familiar? How do you separate genuine feelings from what may have happened during an episode?

Do you think she is going to stay away because of the therapist advice now?

Thank you in advance for anyone who actually read through that.

over last weekend I learned some things about my dads past and how hes delt with situations by blaming his bipolar and not taking accountability for his actions, and even last weekend he was an asshole to my girlfriend and made her cry and not want to go over to my house ever again, and I was just wondering if i would be justified in that situation. Other things that hes done just to name a few are choking someone in my family then saying he never did it until he was sent to the psych ward which then he apologized. He apparently also has a trouble staying on his meds and just knowing the fact that hes done that is enough to make me nauseous.

Knowing all of that makes me fear for if I do have bipolar, ik people are gonna say that at least I know what the extremes of bipoalr are but what if I hurt someone I love and they dont ever talk to me(justifiably).

I am not afraid of what I am but what I could be.