u/Nobody4993

Reading this sub breaks my heart - to see not only the frustration and exhaustion of you all dealing with us bipolar people, but the horrible sadness and desperation you feel watching a loved one disintegrate.

I’m so unbelievably lucky my family held on, and frankly I don’t know how they did. I wouldn’t, and couldn’t blame them if they didn’t. I’ve been stable now for a few years - but good god, it was a horrifying and traumatising time - not only for me but them. It wasn’t until I was stable and fully accepted my condition that I could even comprehend the sadness, fear and heartbreak I’d caused my parents, never mind give them the grace and space to have their hurt and healing. I thought taking meds quietly, hiding symptoms and going to therapy when asked was enough, but I never believed I was ‘ill’ - because I didn’t want to be. I wanted to be normal and capable. I hid a lot of things until I couldn’t because I was so ashamed of being a wreck.

So, as someone with bipolar and psychosis - I just want to say not only thank you and I’m so sorry to my parents and friends, but to all of you here. I don’t think I’d be able to cope seeing my mum or dad fall apart the way they had to see me do. I don’t know how they did it, or even why. I’m just so thankful they did.

Do what you can for the people you love, but don’t destroy yourself in the process. Not all bipolar is the same: some of us will never get better, some of us will never see. Some of us will, and will do everything we can to make amends, even then it might not be enough. Seek carers support and protect yourself and your wellbeing.

I hope to god I never have to experience what my friends and family did. To those with the strength to continue fighting/ advocating for us when we can’t and don’t understand, you’re worth your weight in gold.

Honest to god, I feel like younger adults are regressing RAPIDLY.

I’m 33. I’ve never looked around at so many (apparently) grown adults and been dumbfounded by how entirely *useless* they are.

24yr olds who can’t make a phone call or book an appointment. 22yr olds who can’t go to work because ‘it’s a tough day today’. 25yr olds crying online about their bf/gf not liking the same ANIME/ cartoons they do and being *genuinely* bereft over it. People 20+ who can’t leave the house without a ‘stuffie/ plush toy’. Grown ‘adults’ who can’t write a text without AI/ ChatGPT, never mind an essay.

Honestly what is the matter with people? Everyone’s been using Covid19 as an excuse. Note the 19. It’s 2026! We’ve been out of the lockdowns for YEARS. When are people going to take some responsibility for themselves? Or at least ATTEMPT too.

Edit: straight in with the bean soup theory as expected. I’m NOT talking about legitimate/ diagnosed disabilities. I’m talking about people who have absolutely no interest in taking part in their life because they’d rather everybody else just spoon fed it to them.

Hi all.

Been living in my semi detached home since 2023. When I moved in, I (now 33f) put a note through Marks (40-something?) door to introduce myself as his new neighbour that included my phone number asking that if any noise from my side was disruptive to just let me know. Obviously I don’t want to disturb him, and made clear I’m more than willing to adjust any volume if it’s a problem. New house, new neighbours and the walls are VERY thin - I think it’s a neighbourly thing to do. I do have two cats that get the zoomies occasionally and I like music. He replied introducing himself, said the cats are not a problem and thanked me for being considerate, and that he’d let me know if anything was too disruptive. He also lives alone with no children in the house.

He keeps very much to himself and has no visitors other than 1 person who brings two kids over very occasionally. He rarely leaves the house - he’s a mature student doing an online course. He keeps his property very well maintained. Whenever he mows his grass he mows mine too (never asked, he just does it - I thank him every time), we take each other’s parcels etc. it’s a considerate relationship and by all accounts, he’s a very good neighbour. He’s even helped me during a gallbladder attack that required an ambulance - he actually stayed until the ambulance came (2am, I had nobody available to help and I couldn’t move, needed surgery).

The only thing I’ve noticed is he does occasionally have ‘violent’ outbursts in his own home: banging, growling, swearing, kicking the cupboards/ walls, and slamming the doors. These outburst are VERY intermittent and at most last 10-20 minutes. I’ve put it down to stress from studying tbh, they happen so infrequently, well - who am I to judge? we all have bad days. I’ve never commented on it and he’s never asked me to keep any noise down either.

Last Friday, I text him apologising for any noise (my partner and I have been having spats recently and so raised voices have definitely come from my side. I asked partner to leave on Friday and he did). Mark replied that’s it’s OK, thanked me for my apology, said he wasn’t sure if ‘it was his anxiety or something else, but he’s having a lot of trouble sleeping.’ He ended by saying ‘I hope it works out soon 😊’. Partner has left so there’s nobody to talk to = less noise by itself. I’ve had no visitors in that time either.

However, Monday night, all hell broke loose. I was in bed but woke up because of it - at 1am he had another outburst, but this time was different. He was screaming ‘I can see you! I can hear you! Fuck! Fuck, fuck, FUCK!! I KNOW YOU’RE THERE!’ it went on ALL NIGHT. I was petrified - he was throwing things/ himself so hard at the walls I honestly thought he might come through it. I didn’t sleep a wink. He seemed to be mirroring my movements when I went down the stairs to make sure the door was locked - banging and slamming the whole way, repeating ‘I can see you!’

I went to work the next day and when I came home, all was quiet…until it wasn’t. About 6:30pm, it started again: doors slamming so hard it shook mine, banging, running and stomping repeatedly up and down the stairs. He took off in his car and almost skidded. Came back an hour later, banging/stomping/ swearing/ growling continued but not the ‘I can see you/ I can hear you’ comments - took back off in the car again. Came back 40mins later and continued the pattern. Died down at about 2am as he left the house and didn’t come back. He wasn’t there when I left for work in the morning and wasn’t there when I returned; however, his grass was mowed. As in - a DIRECT line right down the middle. That’s where I’m concerned it’s hostility to me. He’s never done that before, ever.

I don’t know what to do. I’m tiptoeing around my house. I daren’t breathe too loud. I have no idea if he’s having a mental health crisis, or if it’s me that’s set him off - or both. Because his outbursts are violent, I don’t feel safe to talk to him or approach his door to offer help. Because he’s never been anything other than pleasant to me, I genuinely didn’t think it was aimed at me. With him going out of his way not to cover my side of the lawn, now I’m worried it is. Overall, I’m very concerned about his welfare, but now I’m also concerned about my own. As I’m typing this he’s furiously hoovering the house and stomping around - he’s hoovered 4 times today. I don’t want to be overbearing or humiliate him by sending the police to do a welfare check; I’m also very aware he would KNOW it’s me because nobody else would be able to hear. It’s not happening in the garden. If he does have hostility towards me…well I still have to live here.

Does ANYBODY have any experience with this, or advice on what to do? I’m worried about him, myself and the implications of intervening. Please help.

Hi all.

Been living in my semi detached home since 2023. When I moved in, I (now 33f) put a note through Marks (40-something?) door to introduce myself as his new neighbour that included my phone number asking that if any noise from my side was disruptive to just let me know. Obviously I don’t want to disturb him, and made clear I’m more than willing to adjust any volume if it’s a problem. New house, new neighbours and the walls are VERY thin - I think it’s a neighbourly thing to do. I do have two cats that get the zoomies occasionally and I like music. He replied introducing himself, said the cats are not a problem and thanked me for being considerate, and that he’d let me know if anything was too disruptive. He also lives alone with no children in the house.

He keeps very much to himself and has no visitors other than 1 person who brings two kids over very occasionally. He rarely leaves the house - he’s a mature student doing an online course. He keeps his property very well maintained. Whenever he mows his grass he mows mine too (never asked, he just does it - I thank him every time), we take each other’s parcels etc. it’s a considerate relationship and by all accounts, he’s a very good neighbour. He’s even helped me during a gallbladder attack that required an ambulance - he actually stayed until the ambulance came (2am, I had nobody available to help and I couldn’t move, needed surgery).

The only thing I’ve noticed is he does occasionally have ‘violent’ outbursts in his own home: banging, growling, swearing, kicking the cupboards/ walls, and slamming the doors. These outburst are VERY intermittent and at most last 10-20 minutes. I’ve put it down to stress from studying tbh, they happen so infrequently, well - who am I to judge? we all have bad days. I’ve never commented on it and he’s never asked me to keep any noise down either.

Last Friday, I text him apologising for any noise (my partner and I have been having spats recently and so raised voices have definitely come from my side. I asked partner to leave on Friday and he did). Mark replied that’s it’s OK, thanked me for my apology, said he wasn’t sure if ‘it was his anxiety or something else, but he’s having a lot of trouble sleeping.’ He ended by saying ‘I hope it works out soon 😊’. Partner has left so there’s nobody to talk to = less noise by itself. I’ve had no visitors in that time either.

However, Monday night, all hell broke loose. I was in bed but woke up because of it - at 1am he had another outburst, but this time was different. He was screaming ‘I can see you! I can hear you! Fuck! Fuck, fuck, FUCK!! I KNOW YOU’RE THERE!’ it went on ALL NIGHT. I was petrified - he was throwing things/ himself so hard at the walls I honestly thought he might come through it. I didn’t sleep a wink. He seemed to be mirroring my movements when I went down the stairs to make sure the door was locked - banging and slamming the whole way, repeating ‘I can see you!’

I went to work the next day and when I came home, all was quiet…until it wasn’t. About 6:30pm, it started again: doors slamming so hard it shook mine, banging, running and stomping repeatedly up and down the stairs. He took off in his car and almost skidded. Came back an hour later, banging/stomping/ swearing/ growling continued but not the ‘I can see you/ I can hear you’ comments - took back off in the car again. Came back 40mins later and continued the pattern. Died down at about 2am as he left the house and didn’t come back. He wasn’t there when I left for work in the morning and wasn’t there when I returned; however, his grass was mowed. As in - a DIRECT line right down the middle. That’s where I’m concerned it’s hostility to me. He’s never done that before, ever.

I don’t know what to do. I’m tiptoeing around my house. I daren’t breathe too loud. I have no idea if he’s having a mental health crisis, or if it’s me that’s set him off - or both. Because his outbursts are violent, I don’t feel safe to talk to him or approach his door to offer help. Because he’s never been anything other than pleasant to me, I genuinely didn’t think it was aimed at me. With him going out of his way not to cover my side of the lawn, now I’m worried it is. Overall, I’m very concerned about his welfare, but now I’m also concerned about my own. As I’m typing this he’s furiously hoovering the house and stomping around - he’s hoovered 4 times today. I don’t want to be overbearing or humiliate him by sending the police to do a welfare check; I’m also very aware he would KNOW it’s me because nobody else would be able to hear. It’s not happening in the garden. If he does have hostility towards me…well I still have to live here.

Does ANYBODY have any experience with this, or advice on what to do? I’m worried about him, myself and the implications of intervening. Please help.

Hi all.

Been living in my semi detached home since 2023. When I moved in, I (now 33f) put a note through Marks (40-something?) door to introduce myself as his new neighbour that included my phone number asking that if any noise from my side was disruptive to just let me know. Obviously I don’t want to disturb him, and made clear I’m more than willing to adjust any volume if it’s a problem. New house, new neighbours and the walls are VERY thin - I think it’s a neighbourly thing to do. I do have two cats that get the zoomies occasionally and I like music. He replied introducing himself, said the cats are not a problem and thanked me for being considerate, and that he’d let me know if anything was too disruptive. He also lives alone with no children in the house.

He keeps very much to himself and has no visitors other than 1 person who brings two kids over very occasionally. He rarely leaves the house - he’s a mature student doing an online course. He keeps his property very well maintained. Whenever he mows his grass he mows mine too (never asked, he just does it - I thank him every time), we take each other’s parcels etc. it’s a considerate relationship and by all accounts, he’s a very good neighbour. He’s even helped me during a gallbladder attack that required an ambulance - he actually stayed until the ambulance came (2am, I had nobody available to help and I couldn’t move, needed surgery).

The only thing I’ve noticed is he does occasionally have ‘violent’ outbursts in his own home: banging, growling, swearing, kicking the cupboards/ walls, and slamming the doors. These outburst are VERY intermittent and at most last 10-20 minutes. I’ve put it down to stress from studying tbh, they happen so infrequently, well - who am I to judge? we all have bad days. I’ve never commented on it and he’s never asked me to keep any noise down either.

Last Friday, I text him apologising for any noise (my partner and I have been having spats recently and so raised voices have definitely come from my side. I asked partner to leave on Friday and he did). Mark replied that’s it’s OK, thanked me for my apology, said he wasn’t sure if ‘it was his anxiety or something else, but he’s having a lot of trouble sleeping.’ He ended by saying ‘I hope it works out soon 😊’. Partner has left so there’s nobody to talk to = less noise by itself. I’ve had no visitors in that time either.

However, Monday night, all hell broke loose. I was in bed but woke up because of it - at 1am he had another outburst, but this time was different. He was screaming ‘I can see you! I can hear you! Fuck! Fuck, fuck, FUCK!! I KNOW YOU’RE THERE!’ it went on ALL NIGHT. I was petrified - he was throwing things/ himself so hard at the walls I honestly thought he might come through it. I didn’t sleep a wink. He seemed to be mirroring my movements when I went down the stairs to make sure the door was locked - banging and slamming the whole way, repeating ‘I can see you!’

I went to work the next day and when I came home, all was quiet…until it wasn’t. About 6:30pm, it started again: doors slamming so hard it shook mine, banging, running and stomping repeatedly up and down the stairs. He took off in his car and almost skidded. Came back an hour later, banging/stomping/ swearing/ growling continued but not the ‘I can see you/ I can hear you’ comments - took back off in the car again. Came back 40mins later and continued the pattern. Died down at about 2am as he left the house and didn’t come back. He wasn’t there when I left for work in the morning and wasn’t there when I returned; however, his grass was mowed. As in - a DIRECT line right down the middle. That’s where I’m concerned it’s hostility to me. He’s never done that before, ever.

I don’t know what to do. I’m tiptoeing around my house. I daren’t breathe too loud. I have no idea if he’s having a mental health crisis, or if it’s me that’s set him off - or both. Because his outbursts are violent, I don’t feel safe to talk to him or approach his door to offer help. Because he’s never been anything other than pleasant to me, I genuinely didn’t think it was aimed at me. With him going out of his way not to cover my side of the lawn, now I’m worried it is. Overall, I’m very concerned about his welfare, but now I’m also concerned about my own. As I’m typing this he’s furiously hoovering the house and stomping around - he’s hoovered 4 times today. I don’t want to be overbearing or humiliate him by sending the police to do a welfare check; I’m also very aware he would KNOW it’s me because nobody else would be able to hear. It’s not happening in the garden. If he does have hostility towards me…well I still have to live here.

Does ANYBODY have any experience with this, or advice on what to do? I’m worried about him, myself and the implications of intervening. Please help.