Am I wrong for staying hopeful?
What’s up guys. Been on here reading about everyone’s experiences with this kind of situation a lot lately, and all I can say is…
Wow.
The lengths some women go to in order to “feel safe” or “be happy” is enough to drive a man clinically insane.
I (29M) and my SO (26F) have been going through it hard since the start of this year. I knew she wasn’t happy for a couple years, and she feels that I did nothing to change or make things better. Ups and downs, “let’s fix this” to there’s no hope, we’re too far gone, “I feel nothing and have felt this way for years” and actively talking to other men. This is all I can think about and it consumes my thoughts. I’m in the middle of letting go and letting God and doing everything humanly possible to love her the right way. We’ve had problems but I felt that we were finally getting to a place of peace and harmony until we started having these long drawn out arguments about the entire relationship over some minor disagreement or misunderstanding we had that day.
My question to you all is this:
Am I wrong for having hopes that this will work out? Am I wrong for holding on so tightly when my SO is doing everything possible to pull away? I have made sacrifices of my own family and friends for this woman. And I’m still not enough as it is. I have been on a soul searching journey for the past month and I’m still feeling this way.
Thanks in advance for your words and support. I understand I don’t have it nearly as bad as some of you, but this still hits like a freight train nonetheless.