AITAH for telling my mother to stop calling me pretty/beautiful etc?
I’m going start with the facts. I was born a female, but in the past years i don’t like being feminine. I have more male-ish haircut, i don’t wear skirts, tops or clothings that are more feminine in general, but you can still tell i am a female. My mom always likes to remind me how much she loves me and one of her love languages is telling me i look pretty and beautiful even when i look messy.
Today she forwarded me some pictures we took with our friends a few days ago and i jokingly said “I don’t look very good on these pictures as usual 😂” She said i look beautiful and it’s fine. I got a little irritated and told her we already talked about this several times that i don’t like her always calling me beautiful and pretty. For context, i asked her several times before to not call me pretty/beautiful, i don’t like it, she could just say i look good/great/fine. (Since it’s neutral, but means the same)
We got into an argument over texts and she said she’s my mother and i have to accept she won’t stop saying it when she feels like it. I got a little tense and told her she’s not respecting none out of 2 things i asked her for my own comfort and it’s not about her. We got to a point, where she brought up if she should behave like my father who always criticizes everything about my looks (my piercing, my clothes, hair etc) and just not show her love towards me in general. I told her it’s not what im asking from her and just because she’s my mother doesn’t mean she can do anything i don’t feel comfortable with for her own comfort.
I feel like I am being disrespected. I know she’s trying to show her endless love for me even tho she knows i am not the lovey-dovey type of person, but i had only two boundaries put up for her (Don’t come in my room (or at least knock beforehand) and don’t call me pretty/beautiful) and so far non of these two were respected.
Am i the asshole?