u/DramaticTop2050

posting this on a throwaway account just in case, title kind of summarises what i've been going through for awhile.

I want to be in a monogamous relationship, but i can't help but fall in love with different people for different reasons. It's not like i would ever cheat on my (hypothetical) partner, but I can't help but fall in love with other people all the same. I love all of them equally. All of them have different reasons that make me like them. Is this a question of not being fulfilled and my needs that my (hypothetical) partner is not able to fulfil?

Please feel free to give me some advice on how to change this mindset as frankly I don't want to feel this way and the emotional cheating that i would cause would haunt me to my grave.

Thank you all.

Edit: Thanks everyone for some helpful insight, I'm still young and figuring everything out. Had a rather neglectful childhood growing up and I'm still trying to navigate and live like a actual human being instead of a degenerate. Input is received greatly from everyone. Thanks once again :)

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u/DramaticTop2050 — 25 days ago