well, i’m f(23) and my situationship is m(23). honestly, we met online, specifically on instagram, and it’s a kind of unusual long-distance situationship. he used to like a lot of the things i posted until he messaged me. it’s worth mentioning that he’s somewhat “known” online and posts content about the things he likes. at first i stalked him, he mostly followed women, and some of them were the typical e-girl accounts with little clothing. almost none. given my mindset, the fact that he follows girls who post photos with little clothing seems despicable to me. even so, i kept talking to him. i get jealous of his ex-girlfriend, who he was with for 6 years, but i understand it’s normal for him to still remember her and i leave him be. what makes me feel insecure is the number of girls who try to flirt with him and that kind of thing. his instagram is full of people who even seem to match him better than i do, and it makes me wonder if i was just another one and if i still am. sometimes i think my jealousy is justified because where there’s smoke, there’s fire. there’s a girl from that scene who makes me very insecure, and i know he feels attracted to her, and i feel so insecure because i feel like he’s with me just to have fun and nothing more. they posted a tiktok together, and he usually shows me those before posting them. all except that one.
our “situationship” is complicated. he tells me he loves me and we act like a couple (talking constantly and telling each other about our day, calling me every day when he leaves work). when we see each other, which isn’t often because we live far apart, he behaves like my boyfriend, not like my situationship. but i can’t help thinking that he’s flirting with others while acting like this with me. i don’t know if i’m being paranoid. he calls me “my jealous girl” and things like that, but i’ve always been very secure in these situations, and he doesn’t give me any reassurance. he usually tells me the typical thing, that he only has time for me and tries to calm me down even if later it’s not true
disclaimer: he and me don’t want to date in general, our situationship is the only label we put