AITA: I don’t want to be in my friends wedding
For context purposes, I’ve only known this person for a year. We met on a local friend finder app (her work paid for her to move here) and I thought she was great when we started hanging out. But, I noticed she was quite strange and had some boundary issues a couple months later. I am 30 and she is a couple years younger than me, but insists on calling me her bff even though I’ve never reciprocated. She’s called everyone her best friend and it made me feel really weird and uncomfortable. We are just friends. Also, I’ve noticed she’s copied me on more than one occasion, which I’ve never confronted her about but it’s creeped me out. I thought it was a form of flattery at first but quickly started to seem otherwise.
She started seeing her fiancee who lives a couple hundred miles from us long distance while she was still currently dating the guy she was living with. At no point during this whole past year did she tell her boyfriend, now ex, about this other guy. She later broke up with her ex but still lived with him because her job paid for her to move here. She still wouldn’t tell her ex about the other dude.
At one point, she wanted advice and confided in me that the guy she’s been seeing long distance wants her to move in with him. I told her that he’s crazy to thing she would drop everything for him and move there considering the opportunity she took to move and work here.
Well, fast forward a couple months later, she’s done just that. She moved about 6 hours away from me, is now dating this person irl and is already engaged to him after seeing eachother irl full time for a couple weeks.
She wants me to so badly be in her wedding but idk how to tell her that I’m not comfortable being in her wedding. The fact that they’ve moved this quickly just feels wrong to me, and she has continually tried to pressure me to drive up there to visit them soon. They live 6 hours from me, and I work. I’ve never confronted her about how she makes me feel yet, i don’t want to hurt her feelings which I know is inevitable once I tell her.
Am I the asshole?
TLDR;
A girl I’ve known for only about a year is marrying someone she dated long distance while seeing another guy, and now she is moving too fast with this new person. She’s done things to me personally that have made me feel uncomfortable and she’s pressured me numerous times to visit her 6 hours away from where I currently live, and now she expects me to be in her wedding but I want to tell her that I can’t.