So I’m gonna access the situation. I’m 20 and she’s 19.
I met this girl at the bar. She approached me and my friends in her group of girls. She was staring me down so I went up to her and talk to her. We were both drunk but were into each other so I ask for her snap (which I get). Meanwhile her friends was just begging me to kiss her so I looked a her and said why not and we made out. She left the bar but not 8 minutes later she comes back in for another round of kisses. She texts me not 10 minutes later that she wants me to come over and bring my friend for her other friend. My friend who was our driver really didn’t want to go since she was apparently (chopped). So we didn’t go but when I asked her if she still wanted to do something later that week she was down.
So I text her the next morning and she answers pretty dry. But whatever she kept her word and we went out the next day to the city to walk and to get to know each other. The date was amazing (like the best first date someone could have). We got to know each other and we’re way more comfortable with each other. At the end of the date I bring her home. Not too long after she texts me about a bet we made and I won so I asked her if I won another date and she gladly said yes.
After that she would send me a bunch of purple snaps (sent videos) talking to me a bunch of things that would last multiple days of snapping back and fourth. Anytime it would die down and stop the conversation she would always find a way to start another conversation. Although this does sound nice and promising with all of this she was pretty self centred and would pretty much ignore anything about me but answer anything about her. All this to say, she is an incredibly fun person to be around when we are physically together.
The third date we go out and eat and it was really great. I opened her doors and did what any gentleman should do. I pay for the bill and we leave. He parents call her (they are in vacation at this time) and long story short she need to go home so I undoubtably offered her to bring her home and she invites me in. This was nothing too crazy she just showed me her room and got what she need to be done, done. This was when I asked her about us and what her intentions were. She told me she was unsure and she just got out of a relationship a month ago. So I asked if she was really interested in me and said “well of course, I wouldn’t of went on 3 dates with you otherwise” and so I left and we hugged.
Next date nothing too much to say but we watched a movie at her house and she was like not cuddling cuddling. But we were close and personal enough. I would make little moves to get closer and closer but she would not bite at all.
Even with my hand over hers she wouldn’t at all grab my hand back.
Now she invites me to bring her and her friend to the airport because they is leaving on vacation. So we hung out the day before and I slept over. Her friend was kinda.. clueless let’s say and just said we should all 3 sleep in the bed. So yeahh. We sleep three in the bed but she was cuddling on me this time with her leg over me and sleeping towards me. Although this was short lasted since it was extremely hot with 3 people in her bed so she wanted to go to the couch in her room but I just said I would go. And I did. I bring her to the airport we give eachother a big hug and she leaves.
She updates me about everything happening on her vacation with her dozens of purple snaps she would send me. 10 days later she is back and today of this posting we see each other. We were supposed to go hiking but she injured herself and wasn’t feeling going out at all so I came over to hers. I met her parents who were really amazing and knew quite a lot about me (now this is what is making me confused). So we go down and we decide to watch a movie on her couch. So were are snuggling in the same cover but she is laying down on a pillow facing away from me so not much I can really do. I grasp the courage to just grab her thigh and then maybe 5 minutes later she snuggles her legs completely on me this time. I was thinking maybe this was the time I would finally get to kiss her since it’s been 5 dates but it’s kinda hard with her since the “room” is never quite there. Like for instance she is currently “snuggling” her legs on me but like she is layed down opposite from me (also her mood that evening was quite not there because she was extremely exhausted). So yeah we Finnish maybe half the movie before she calls it before she falls asleep. We go to her door again we hug, I leave.
This is really confusing for me I’ve dated a bit but mostly people I really knew so this is kinda new to me. I really like this girl and she is giving me signals that she is also into me but at the same time not. She constantly sends me videos of her (also we’ve been mutual #1 on snap for a month now) but then when I’m with her she doesn’t give me any hints for me to move on. And like I’m not stupid I’ve dated quite a bit and I mean there is very little she gives out. Flirting is hard with her but we do do it a bit. She always comes out on these dates with me and rarely reschedules and if she does she’s the one who initiates when she is free. Her parents and friends know about me like if she has been talking to them about me so like with all of this in super confused on what she wants out of this. A rebound wouldn’t make sense at this point and she isn’t really using me. Nor am I being treated just as a friend.
I really need y’all’s insight. Please.
Thank you.