Unwanted contact from an old friend. What do I do?
Basically I’m just curious how to handle this situation. When I was 14, my family moved away from the town I grew up in due to my dad getting a significant career upgrade. I started my freshman year of high school in a completely new place. It took me a few weeks to months to fit in and find a group of kids to hang with. I mostly hung with this same group plus a few others as high school went on. I met my wife in high school but she wasn’t friends with any of the same kids really (there were 325 kids in our grade). High school obviously lasted 4 years. When it was done I went to college about 4 hours away, not to a school anyone I really knew was at. I saw this group of friends maybe twice the first couple of years of college just for holidays when people were home. Otherwise, I’m 40 now and haven’t had a meaningful conversation or even seen them in 20 years. One of the people in that group has sent me family Christmas cards every single year. I have lived at about 7 different addresses, somehow they find us. Our last move we didn’t get a Christmas card for 2 years and I was finally thinking they didn’t follow us or gave up. Until this past Friday. We got an invite to some kind of goofy party at his family’s house. We don’t know his wife at all, and don’t know anyone they have associated with for 20 years. I would really like to tell him to quit sending us shit, but my wife tells me not to be rude and just ignore it. It really bothers me that they continue to try and find me when we essentially have not had any kind of friendship relationship. It’s a little crazy in my opinion. What would others do?