u/Dromper

I bought a house last year and gained an entitled neighbor.

The neighbor, we'll call him Rick, and I have been in an ongoing dispute over the driveway.

Here's the sitch:

Rick owns the driveway. I have a legal right-of-way through it to access my property.

Except Rick doesn't just casually use this driveway. He uses it constantly. For his business.

Deliveries. Trucks like UPS and FEDEX. Visitors. USPS Mail truck comes up it. Daily use. I've literally documented him using it multiple times a day. I have a Nest cam on the driveway 24/7 because I felt like I was entering some alternate reality where facts were becoming optional.

Now here's where the entitlement enters the arena in a Subaru Outback.

First, I ask that he pays 50% for plowing. We're in a city in Vermont. Snow problem, yea?

He claims I'm demanding too much because he uses the driveway so little and I have 2 units on my property.

Yeah, I had to buy a duplex; it was going to be sold out from under us. I don't make any income from my tenants; they're my friends, and one of them is battling cancer.

I'm not a slumlord. However, Rick owns 4 properties. One a condo, a private pond cabin, plus his house, and his personal little man-child cave next to my place.

He counter-offers "a fair 15%". I say no. He's got deliveries and pickups for his kid, and he has his one and only friend come over and sing horribly at 9:30 at night.

He reaches out again to ask if I accept his offer. I don't respond.

He responds that, since I didn't respond to his 15% offer a second time, he's decided I should be responsible for 100% of the maintenance. Not 50/50. Not proportional to actual use. Not just plowing.

The wildest part is the entitled confidence. Not a discussion. Not a negotiation. Just bypasses my pointing out he GETS DELIVERY TRUCKS. Just this energy of "I have decided reality works this way now."

Has anyone else had a neighbor operate with this level of "the rules are for everyone except me" energy?

PS:
(I'm attempting to find a lawyer; there's nothing in the deeds other than right of way, and the previous owners never got anything in writing)

I bought a house last year and gained an entitled neighbor.

The neighbor, well call Rick. Rick, and I have been in an ongoing dispute over the driveway.

Here's the sitch:

Rick owns the driveway. I have a legal right-of-way through it to access my property.

Simple enough, right?

Except Rick doesn't just casually use this driveway. He uses it constantly. For his business.

Deliveries. Trucks like UPS and FEDEX. Visitors. USPS Mail truck comes up it. Daily use. I've literally documented him using it multiple times a day. I have a Nest cam on the driveway 24/7 because I felt like I was entering some alternate reality where facts were becoming optional.

Now here's where the entitlement enters the arena in a Subaru Outback.

First, I ask that he pays 50% for plowing. We're in a city of Vermont. Snow problem, yea?

He claims I'm demanding too much because he uses the driveway so little and I have 2 units on my property.

Yeah, I had to buy a duplex; it was going to be sold out from under us. I don't make any income from my tenants, they're my friends and one of them is battling cancer.

I'm not a d-bag slumlord, unlike Rick, who owns 4 properties. One a condo, a private pond cabin, plus his house, and his personal little man-child cave next to my place.

He counter-offers "a fair 15%". I say no. He's got deliveries, pickups for his kid, and he has his one and only friend come over and horribly sing at 9:30 at night.

He reaches out again to ask if I accept his offer. I don't respond.

He responds that, since I didn't respond to his 15% offer a second time, he's decided I should be responsible for 100% of the maintenance. Not 50/50. Not proportional to actual use. Not just plowing.

Apparently in Rick-world, ownership means:
You keep the asset.
You keep control.
You use it constantly.
You decide the terms.
And other people just pay because Rick has spoken.

The wildest part is the entitled confidence. Not a discussion. Not a negotiation. Just bypasses my pointing out he GETS DELIVERY TRUCKS. Just this energy of "I have decided reality works this way now."

Has anyone else had a neighbor operate with this level of "the rules are for everyone except me" energy?

Because at this point I don't know if I need a lawyer or a wildlife biologist to identify whatever species of entitlement this is.

PS:
(I'm attempting to find a lawyer, there's nothing in the deeds, other than right of way, and the previous owners never got anything in writing, the f'ers)