r/neighborsfromhell

I live in a townhouse community in the culdesac. This new ish family moved in across the way and they have two daughters and a cousin that lives with them.

They play, ride scooters and use chalk. For the past couple weeks they have been obsessed with my porch. It all started when they rang my doorbell and asked for snacks and wanted to sing me a song. I watched their little show and gave them fruit snacks. Harmless so I thought

Since then, they have left chalk messages, moved my trashcan from the drive way to my door, ding dong ditched, and now a new development of stealing packages

I confronted the mother and the kids conveniently found my package after they opened it and took out the vitamins and buried them in their yard. Mom said she will replace it.

No apologies. No lecturing from mom. Nothing.

I don’t know if it’s worth to do anything or just leave it but I feel duped and used and incredibly stupid. Is this normal? If I was a kid and did this my mom would have beat my ass and made me apologize

They are moving out and rented two whole dumpsters for a 2 bedroom apartment and put 3 box springs behind the garage and a bunch of plywood and just left it there. The dumpster is still sitting there after a few days so my husband took them and threw them in their dumpster. I am a little nervous he will get in trouble but at the same time, our landlord would have to pay to get those removed, and why the hell would you do that?!

Edit: the guy just came to get the dumpster before the neighbors came back lol. I guess he knocked on their door and looked pissed.

i live in a duplex in los angeles. after changing the locks on the last tenant, our building’s owner has started allowing their friend to host airbnbs in the downstairs apartment. parking immediately became an issue as guests started to block our cars in. whenever we ask them to move, they claim that the airbnb owner told them to park in the driveway. whether this is true or not, our neighborhood has street parking. it can, however, be very competitive. because of this, it’s essential that we’re able to park in our driveway to avoiding being ticketed or towed (both happened to me last year).

we have been renting the upstairs apartment for 3 years and were never informed about the plan for the downstairs unit. in addition, we were never told to stop using the driveway or that guests would be using it as well. we’ve tried contacting the leasing company but have gotten no reply. as someone who has had my car towed, i consider it a last result. however, im starting to get fed up. my job starts early in the morning and it’s been a huge pain getting people to get up and move their cars.

what would you do in this situation? we’re essentially being bullied into giving up our parking spaces with no prior communication or discussion. we considered calling the city, but based on the short term rental laws nothing illegal is happening. thank you in advance.

I’ve lived in four different apartment complexes over the past few years and the disrespect from neighbors gets worser and worser. I’m horrified by the amount of hell that neighbors constantly put me through. Can anyone relate? it’s like I’m going through different degrees of hell at various apartment complexes.

I am trying to figure out if I’m in the wrong here. Every time I go outside with my kids. My neighbors start blasting their music that plays profanity really loud. I go outside during the day so it’s not like I’m going on in the middle of the night disturbing their peace. I guess they don’t like the sound of my kids playing but I just think it’s super disrespectful. They also have a cat tied up outside on a leash. They dump cat litter in the middle of the share yard space. I try to ignore everything to keep the peace cause I know we can’t move out until next year. They really freak me out quite honestly. I’m ready to stop taking my kids outside I just don’t want to punish them for crazy people’s actions. Idk what I could to make this situation better.

I just moved to a home with a nice big back yard a few months ago, but barely get to enjoy my yard in peace. Almost everytime I go outside, the backyard neighbor comes out to watch me from his deck. His yard faces a different direction, yet he somehow always sets himself up to face my yard. I find being outside relaxing but now it’s extremely hard to feel comfortable when outside as he’s always outside when I am. I wouldn’t mind if he didn’t face my yard and watch me, play his music loud, or let his dog bark and rile my dogs up. I could switch up the time I go outside and no matter what, within minutes he’s out there too. Am I crazy for wanting to enjoy my backyard without someone staring me down. I haven’t had a single conversation with this guy, don’t think I want to, as the few times I’ve waved at him to be polite, he’s never waved back. At first I thought it was a coincidence that he always came outside at the same time but even after switching when I go out… There he is. Every time. The whole reason we got this house was to enjoy the nice backyard but I just feel anxious at the thought of going into my yard now. Am I overreacting?

I’ve been dealing with a noisy neighbor for months, and honestly, I’m not sure if I’m just being patient or if I’ve let it go on for too long.I’ve tried adjusting my routine, using white noise, and even wearing sleep earbuds when trying to focus or sleep. It helps a bit, but it feels ridiculous that I have to plan my whole day around someone else’s noise. Some days, the earbuds make it manageable, but other days the stomping and banging still cut through.I don’t want to jump straight to filing a formal complaint, but I also don’t want this to become my new normal. For those who’ve been through this, when did you decide it was time to talk to management or start documenting everything?Did you try coping methods like noise-canceling earbuds first, or did you wish you had complained sooner?

I live at a place where both my neighbors are douche bags. I don’t understand if it’s their background or the jealousy both of them hold makes them do it.

Lets start with neighbor N1, all of them eat pan tobacco etc. This mf eats and throws wrappers in front of myself, he will keep walking until he gets a chance to spit that shit in front of my house. His entire family is like that. Me and my family had caught them on multiple occasions doing it. I am short tempered and ready to fight person but I was advised by my family to calm down so I keep my peace. I have told them a year back,”Agar yaha pan khake thuka aur maine pakad liya sabke samne bhot marunga.” He stopped for sometime and started again. His daughter eats online food and throws packets inside my boundary or front of my house. My mom doesn’t get into fight she collects the garbage and puts in our dustbin and i feel more anger when she has to do that.

N2, this family is bit better but the main guy is hutiya. This family keeps kicking all the garbage again on my side. Recently I started kicking back but my parents get mad at me as they don’t want me to fall in quarrel.

Both of these families will watch every detail and then copy it exactly the same. Our tiles, our shade, bikes, they want to bring exactly the same thing we bought. The place where I lived earlier had such nice neighbors they were like family nobody did this type of low level stuff.

I am on the verge of getting in a fight. The reason I am writing is if someone can give me a better solution. My parents and other relatives always blame me for being furious even when I am right. Eventually it hurts me mentally coz I dont understand why this basic civic sense lacks in people. I never believed in caste or background behaviours but these guys definitely justify why they belong to certain background.

Hope you guys suggest me something. Thanks!

i am a woman who just moved alone to my new apartment. A family lives right across from me in the same floor and the man is making me quite uncomfortable. Nothing too crazy but there have been a few times where when he sees me on the street he just stops to stare and turns around completely as well, or just keeps staring even though he crossed the street. Recently he saw me and a friend (also a girl) coming and he literally stopped and very obviously took his phone out to pretend to do something in it, and then he just watched us go into the apartment. Like head fully turning and everything. Two of my friends that came over have noticed this and also found it creepy.

The staring is so obvious that i think he has to know he is making me extremely uncomfortable.

He knows i am a woman living alone and i kind of am starting to be scared of running into him or even changing what i wear sometimes in case i do.

I was thinking of maybe just asking him if he needs anything politely to let him know that i notice the creepy staring. Or maybe even having my guy best friend say something to him if this keeps going. Im honestly so unsure and i really want to feel comfor in my new home.

Any advice would be appreciated

I live in a neighborhood with about 20 houses and it’s one big circle. I live on one end and this dumbass neighbor lives on the opposite end. She walks her dog every night at around 8pm-9pm around there. Usually around this time, I am getting my toddler to bed and have not been able to confront her. Her dog wears a harness most nights, but it seems she does not put a leash on it. I don’t mind a dog running through my yard, but this dog pees on our bushes every single night and comes up on our porch, sometimes barking in the window if he sees that we are walking around inside. Our bushes have started to turn brown and in the last month there have been 10 instances where I have found him on the ring camera just walking up on my porch and then peeing on our bushes. I know I need to say something, so what should I say?

I have a neighbor that is crazy about trees. I have a few trees that are barely hanging over, and she sent me a message that an arborist is coming out to trim the trees. No discussion, no warning no nothing. Does she expect me to pay half? I should mention we no longer get along.

I’ve hardly gotten any sleep since moving into the new place a few weeks ago. I try to be in bed by 8-9pm and right when I start falling asleep, the upstairs neighbor turns on a loud vibrating device that runs in intervals and stops after about half an hour. Always happens after 10-11pm. Directly above our bedroom. When we first started hearing it it was in one corner of the room, now it seems to be in the corner closer to our bed.

The previous neighbor we had next door would scream at his video games & you could hear every. Single. Word. From 9pm-4am. Then at 5-6am he would blast music. It got worse over time after filing complaints. I’m scared to approach the new neighbor in any way because I don’t want to make enemies. I’ve thought of baking cookies and approaching it nicely, but a lot of people are mean or can feel attacked easily. I’m thinking about talking to management tomorrow but I don’t know what will come of it. My partner paid a lot for this place, it feels unfair that we’d have to just deal with it.

hey guys! sorry for any mistakes, I’m super frazzled by what happened.

so my neighbors walk their two huskies on really long retractable leashes. the youngest had them out today and they were in my front yard as far as they could go. which isn’t a big problem, if just annoying. but then one husky started eating something. probably MY dog’s poop. the young guy walked over, the husky rolled onto its back to show its belly, and he started HITTING it. like open palm, multiple strikes.

i shouted through my window “DONT HIT YOUR F-ING DOG!” he stopped, tried to make an excuse about there being a dead bird. I’m still yelling out my window lol (it’s hot and I wasn’t wearing pants while laying in bed so I couldn’t run outside) and I’m telling him “if you didn’t walk them on ten foot leashes maybe you could get them!! don’t hit your dogs in my yard!” I was so mad! he tried to tell me to mind my business but I told him to not do this shit in my yard then. he kind of whistled for his dogs, they werent really listening and I was like “no rush! no rush!”

I’m still so mad. idk what to do. I know where they live - about seven houses down? something like that. any advice? sorry for any misspellings, I’m writing this in a rush on my phone.

side note - I walked outside while he was only two houses away and I checked the spot. no dead bird. I know he heard me telling my mother “this asshole was hitting his dog in our yard!”

edit - yall im a girl, i couldn't just run outside with no shirt, no pants lol but the mental image is kind of funny

We moved into a home. It has a yard and works out perfectly bc we have 4 dogs. Neighbor to the right of us was actually the last tenant in our home. They were evicted bc they stopped paying rent. We were warned by our landlord to stay away from her.
2 weeks went by and everything was chill. Until my bf decided to put our trash bin against a shared wall that we have with this neighbor. It’s a closed bin and we put it against the wall inside of our home. My bf kept noticing that the bins were away from the wall and blocking our side entrance so he’d move it back against the wall.. he mentioned it to me but I said that it may be the stray cats who move them when they jump over ?

One weekend morning at around 7am we hear our neighbor screaming and cussing “ I told you that I don’t want the fucken trash cans against the wall!” Then she noticed that we added a camera to our side window for our side entrance. It looks like it’s pointing to their side but it only captures our shared brick wall that’s like 6ft tall. And maybe some part of their blank wall with no windows ! Not even that much. Cant see them. Camera is only meant to detect what’s on our side. Once she noticed the cameras she started yelling “they have a camera pointing at us fucking ridiculous ass people.. etc.” all in Spanish.

Shes never tried talking to us about the bins or the cameras. She decided to move the bins herself by reaching over our shared wall that’s like 4 ft tall. No communicating but 0 to 100. We’ve seen her multiple times before and she never once tried talking to us. Theres other adults in the house and never once have they tried talking to us or tried asking us to please move the bin if it was really a bother.

Now shes put cardboard boxes on top of our shared brick wall that is like 6ft tall bc that’s where the camera is and it’s “pointing at them” when the camera is literally pointing down.
Today my bf texted me to lmk that she’s talking shit again but under her breathe but loud enough for him to notice. She literally just stared at him for a minute while he was tending to the yard… I told him to record her next time bc this has gone too far.

The neighbors to the left of us have felt her wrath before when she was living at our house. They have a pomegranate tree that goes over to our side. You would think wow what a blessing right ? Wrong ! She thought other wise and apparently was beating the treee with a stick one morning. Apparently even the neighbors in the alley behind us have also had problems with her. I don’t understand how it’s gone this far. We try making eye contact with her family so that we can have a conversation but they avoid us.

Just so confused. I’m convinced that she yells at our house when we’re not there lol. How is it wrong that we put our bins against our side of the wall but it’s not wrong for you to put cardboard boxes on top of our shared wall??

This man child is getting on my last nerve this guy is not that bright and has nothing to do but obsess over me he is incredibly sneaky and will act for the cameras. He has Shined lights on to my place he listens in on private conversations has a camera pointing right at our window goes outside everytime I do and has copied everything I have done with my lawn but it looks terrible. He is also a coward who can't even talk face to face and he had his mom call us that's weird. I'm at my wits end and want to beat him up but there's cameras everywhere so do just say screw it and beat him up or contact some authorities? He knows the contract is unwanted

I (F26) live in a condo and my upstairs neighbor (female, probably in her 50s or 60s) has repeatedly complained about “constant vibrations” and noise supposedly coming from my unit. The problem is… there is no such thing that could be causing this.

The first time she approached me was shortly after I moved in (~3 years ago). She told me my TV was too loud past 10 PM on a Saturday and said she could feel vibrations in her wall. I was honestly shocked because I barely had anything set up yet, and I keep my soundbar at an extremely low volume. After that interaction, I basically tiptoed around my own condo for months because I didn’t want to come across as the inconsiderate new neighbor. This was also my first purchased home, so i was pretty sad that it felt like all my sounds were being closely monitored. Our walls/flooring are no where near paper thin or poor quality either and i have carpet floors, which i know helps with noise.

A few months later, she came down again while I had two of my girlfriends over. She complained, once again, about noise right around the time of our town quiet hours (10/11 PM on weekends). Since then, I haven’t really had people over because I didn’t want more issues or feel anxiety about simply laughing and watching a show with my friends.

Since then, she has also come down to tell me to stop slamming my door and i kindly told her it was the neighbor below me who is doing this (it's quite loud, but not often enough that i care).

Then this past January, she came down..holding our printed HOA rules...and told me she’d been hearing and feeling vibrations in her floor for months. She specifically said she thought it was "100% caused by my fans or an air purifier in my condo". Pretty specific thing to accuse someone of when she has no idea what i do and don't have in my place. She was decently polite, even though it was a strange interaction. I told her multiple times i had nothing running of this capacity to be causing such a disturbance. She mentioned it was “starting to drive her crazy.” I told her i had nothing running like this besides a fan at night and if this problem kept up, to come down and talk to me again. I even told her she could come in and see for herself, which she responded "I'm not doing that!", as if i was crazy for trying to show her I'm not the problem here. During this chat, she also brought up hearing drilling one week, which was true — my boyfriend had installed two light fixtures for me during the daytime. I believe she brought this up thinking that i'm a renter and i'm not allowed to be drilling in walls. What she doesn't know is that i own the place. I know from research online, that she is renting.

Fast forwarding to this month (May 2026), my boyfriend had already been living with me for almost a year, and we are genuinely very quiet people. We don’t host people/parties, don’t vacuum late at night or early morning, barely even use the TV, and we literally keep our microwave beeper turned off because we both hate unnecessary noise ourselves.

Things escalated recently this past week. She stopped my boyfriend outside while he was leaving for work. He simply said a friendly “hello” to her, and she immediately started yelling at him saying that we “need to turn our fans off” and that we were “violating the law by creating an unlivable environment for her." I overheard and saw the interaction from inside my condo on my ring camera and was honestly shocked by how aggressive it was, especially because this was basically the first time she had ever interacted with him. Just really gross entitlement behavior.

What’s confusing is that after her earlier complaints, I told her multiple times to please let me know if problems continued. I never heard from her again for months, so I assumed things were resolved. Then suddenly she’s acting like we’ve been continuously disrupting her life this entire time on purpose.

Meanwhile, over the past several months, I’ve regularly heard extremely loud banging or heavy objects being dropped from her unit, often in the exact same spot. I never complained because after our first few interactions, I just wanted to avoid conflict and contact with her. But after the way she spoke to my boyfriend, I’ve honestly started wondering whether some of it is intentional frustration being taken out on us.

Another factor is that she appears to almost never leave her condo. I mean maybe once every couple of weeks from what I’ve noticed. So part of me wonders whether she’s become hyper-aware of normal condo/building noises and vibrations (pipes, HVAC systems, neighboring units, structural sounds, etc.) because she’s home 24/7.

We recently spoke to a few other neighbors, and multiple people told us they’ve had negative interactions with her too, complaints about doors closing, carrying furniture upstairs, normal living noise, etc. So now I’m realizing what type of person this really is.

Since the incident with my boyfriend, we’ve tried knocking on her door twice to calmly talk things through, but she never answered. I ended up leaving her a polite note explaining that I have genuinely tried to respect her concerns, but there is truly nothing in my condo that should be causing ongoing vibrations like she describes. I also explained that I don’t want us living in a hostile environment where neighbors are yelling at each other. I told her she was welcome to reach out if she wanted to discuss things further, but I never heard back. I did see her taking out the trash the other day as i was getting out of my car, and once she saw me and my boyfriend, she just stopped in her tracks and starred at us. It genuinely creeped me out bad.

At this point, I’m considering contacting the HOA just to formally document everything and ask whether there could be some other building-related source causing these vibrations because I'm tired of being afraid of seeing this lady and scared of the next time she's going to come downstairs to complain about something. Being that i've seen that she has been renting this unit for 4 years now, and i've owned for 3 years here (as well as lived here), is there anything you all would suggest i do, if anything at all i guess? Just getting ready tired of all these interactions one after another.

My idiot neighbors are too lazy to walk their dogs so they constructed a small gravel patch next to the shared fence on the patios. They don't clean up the crap, so it attracts flies. Now I'M dealing with a fly problem. So, in their infinite wisdom, they just do constant spraying of Raid.

So not only do I get their cigarette smoke, flies and Raid mist as I'm on the patio, I ask them to clean up their dog shit so all this doesn't happen. I get called a Karen. I live in the PNW and we get about 3 months of decent weather, so I really want to enjoy my nice garden that I worked hard on.

Also, my garden attracts pollinators and hummingbirds, so I'm sure the pesticides are not a good thing for them.

I contacted the HOA and they just ignored everything.

Am I a Karen? Is there anything that I can do?

As the title suggests, we’ve lived alongside one another for 10 years. She has been very anti-social over the years but tolerable. We are based in a very rural village in the UK, with no public transport and no shops. We live on a small crescent with 10 houses all semi- detached she is my only direct neighbour.

Over the years she has put weedkiller over my side of the fence, left rat poison under the hedgerow and insists on another neighbour down the road cutting a hedge I planted and very clearly within my boundary down both sides so it has a gap to nosey into my window. She recently removed a 6 foot fence and replaced it with a 3 foot one in the rear garden. It was her fence and she has lost feet alongside her boundary so I never complained and swiftly planted some additional hedging. A few weeks later she was complaining we didn’t contribute half the cost of the fence. We had no idea it was getting replaced, we would have happily paid the full amount to replace with 6ft fencing.

We’ve remained polite over the years but kept a safe distance, the prior owner of this home did warn us about her. So we decided it was safe to stay polite but at a distance. She is overly reliant on other people in the neighbourhood, one gardens, one cleans, one puts her bin out. She gossips about everyone and everyone tolerates her from what I can see.

Lately she has been aggressively driving in the middle of
The country roads I swear she drove deliberately at me, think country roads full of pot holes, mud and farm traffic. I saw her out in the wild this morning and she was glaring at me and the hatred was spilling out of her. It was unnerving. My husband is very non confrontational and I am the opposite.

Just to add she lives alone, her children never seem to visit and her dog passed away last year. There are lots of other passive aggressive things that have been said and done but I’ve let them go.

How should I manage this going forward??

I live in an old duplex with a reclusive neighbor tenant who lives on the bottom half of the house. Lately in the afternoons and evenings, I’d say for the past few weeks, a strong chemical odor wafts upstairs and sits in my unit. It’s hard to get out even with all the windows open and fans going and it hurts my head. It’s late at night right now and I’m having trouble sleeping because of it. The smell is similar to paint thinner but I’m not exactly sure what it is.

I never see this guy and I live alone so I’m worried about starting shit. I’ve had issues with him being messy and inconsiderate but this is the latest thing. Do I leave him a message or go straight to the landlord?

I need to vent plus some understanding why this is happening. Bear with me this is a long story.

I moved to a small town in the mid eastern part of the country 6 yrs ago from a large city in the southwest. I keep to myself and don't like engaging with most ppl due to being from a large city.

Across the street from my house the neighbors are about 10 yrs younger than me married has 2 kids in highschool I think. It's just me & my boyfriend. From the beginning I was polite when the wife would glare at me I'd smile back. She'd just stare and give me dirty looks. The last year it escalated. Whenever I come home or when me and my boyfriend come home she's home within minutes. At 1st I thought I was being paranoid but it happens all the time now. When I leave she leaves. When we're out running errands/shopping we run into her almost all the time now & her giving me a dirty looks when I pass her on the road. Almost deliberately. I almost think that she has either a ring or some form of camera that's motion activated in her front yard because it doesn't make sense how I can come home and within minutes she's home or I walk out to my car and within minutes she's walking out to her car. I've had to park in the backyard to avoid the dirty looks/stares. If I'm in the back yard washing the car ect. she drives by at least a few times to stare. The other day I came home when I was pulling in the driveway she was backing out. When she realized I just came home she drove by staring so hard I couldn't help it I started laughing, she slammed on her breaks pulled in our neighbors driveway turned around and came back by then I was walking to my front door she got out and said something(I couldn't hear what she said). I stopped and just stood there with my hands out she slowly walked in her house but didn't say anything else since I was standing there looking at her, like what you got something to say. Then I started laughing & went inside.

My Son came and spent the wknd with us. When he was getting ready to leave we were talking in the driveway while he was sitting in his car facing her house. She came out & glared at us then moved her car then went back inside her house then came back out staring then slowly got in her car again & drove away very slowly glaring. Even my Son said what the heck is going on what is her problem. I guess when he 1st showed up she came out and glared at him and he waved at her and she ignored him & went inside. I don't understand. We have never spoken. I keep to myself. I don't stare I don't hang out in my front yard at all because of her behavior. I do everything in my back yard.

Heck I'm 50, I think she's in her early 40's. I don't understand the animosity or the how would you say this "high school behavior". Even considered maybe something might be going on with my boyfriend like she's obsessed with him because I don't understand where this is coming from especially since it's escalated so much in the last year. I don't know anybody in this town. All my friends and family are out west. I think the population here in this town is maybe 2,000 it's pretty small.

It just doesn't make any sense why she's so hostile towards me. She used to be really heavy but I noticed that she's lost a good amount of weight this past year because she wears extremely tight clothing but I don't understand why she's obsessed when I'm so much older than her. But it almost feels like jealousy like competition. I don't know and I'm so tired of it, I'm over it. Just want to be able to go in my front yard and not be stared at. When it's nice out at night I'll open my windows and she'll be outside with her dog because whenever she's outside her dog barks continually. If I turn my porch light on the barking stops and she goes inside. She'll hang out in her vehicle with her music blasting almost like she's trying to get someone's attention. When she gets ready to pull in her driveway she honks her horn?? It's driving me crazy I try to ignore it but I'm getting to the point where I think I'm going to start documenting everything and I don't have any cameras yet but I'm going to install some. Document everything then bring it to authorities because in my opinion it's harassment and it's a form of stalking.