r/neighborsfromhell

Hello dear redditors,

Me, my spouse and my kid plus 2 Rottweilers are living in a rental property from 2023 December. We had word of mouth agreement stating that we will be staying a minimum of 5 years in this house and the house owner confirmed that there will be no problems or concerns from the neighboring people and they informed the neighboring people that we are bringing large dogs too. Things were going fine and we were in good terms with the neighbors, however the kids who started playing cricket on the roads started damaging our plants and decorative items in our entrance and slowly this started as a problem. On Diwali 2024, the person living opposite to our premises, accidentally burnt one of the tarpaulin sheets which we used for shade and to which he stated that in a sarcastic way that even police would have asked you to remove them. We took this problem to the owner stating that, it would have burnt his house and we requested him to intervene. The person who burnt the tarpaulin, his dad and the house owner were long term colleagues as a result of which the owner asked us to rectify this issue with the other house person and this ended up badly as he insulted my wife when she confronted us. After this the kids sometimes will wantedlyhit the ball on our stuff, one of the kids destroyed one of our plant which we transported her with lots of efforts. Right from 2025 till now all these guys (a total of 4 houses) are teaming up with each other and calling the owner continuously pressuring them to vacate us. The owner even tried to vacate us in the beginning of 2026 stating that a hostel owner wanted this property for rent and we knew that this was a lie plus he never mentioned that there wouldn't be a hike in the rent but he increased the rent from 18k to 22k informally and I informed him on January that in 2 years or so we will surely vacate as we were to put our son in a nearby school. Last week these boys started to hit the bowls which we used to keep water for the dogs and when my wife shouted at them they did a lewd dance in front of her. My wife took their stumps to speak to their parents but none came however they sneakily called the owner and informed that we are not allowing their kids and stole their property. The owner also said that one of the neighbours were continually calling them till midnight and were hell bent on vacating us. Today morning to we received a call from the owner that "what's the status of the house seeking process"? My question is that what mistake did we commit here to vacate and the house owner knew that we don't have family support (as we are from different communities) and he is using that to his advantage. Can anyone here help us to get out this issue as we just now put our son in a school nearby taking his word into account plus my wife is traumatized by seeing his name in the phone that he will call again to threaten to vacate. Any help In this regard will be much appreciated, thank you 🙏

UPDATE ... ALL SEEMS TO BE NONSENSE ... I was able to reach out to several friendly neighbors.

It seems that one person posted a video of a black four door car going slowly through the lane at around 3 AM.

The author (private fb page) felt that the car was casing the lane because it went though three times .. driving slowly. No one left the car and no one reported anything missing.

*It could be someone looking for a lost pet or a place to pee as it's been known to happen.

**I think that the neighborhood dickwad a.k.a. The Liar is using this to urge his g/f to allow him to live with her full time so that he can give up having a separate apartment. (I won't go into this but they talk loudly when they are outside .. no secrets)

***Three or four years ago, they (we were excluded .. lol) were having open lane way parties as Covid restrictions were easing up. They didn't follow guidelines and someone (not us) reported them. This could've been people who were at their parties. They charged people around twenty bucks a piece but we weren't going to pay forty bucks to sit behind our garage or on our deck to listen to music that we don't like.

****Someone might've been lost or looking for a friend's house and because of parking restrictions in our area, were told to park behind their home.

Tempest in a teapot .. thanks for allowing me to vent and for some great advice along the way, it is appreciated.

I get it, people can have their fun, but ngl, it totally sucks having a neighbor with a Harley.

It's summer and I'm trying to save money so we keep the windows open instead of using AC. My son is a 3rd grader so bedtime is still a thing. Also, my dog is a bit of a jitter bug and she scares real easily.

So, now that I live next to someone who owns a Harley, the colloquial thumping of the engine randomly blasts into the depths of my house, usually with less than ideal timing.

You can tell me to shut my windows and that's a fair point, but I'm not sure it would matter. This is a townhouse community and so the sound reverberates between adjacent buildings. I can't be the only neighbor who's disappointed by this development...

Interestingly, I kinda want a motorcycle! They seem so fun. Plus, I'm a single dad trudging my way through an extended midlife crisis, so I'm in a perfect position to blow a couple grand on a dangerous investment.

Although, I'm not a gear head like my neighbor. I wouldn't spend hours outside working on the bike in our community car port, dropping wrenches and firing it up for a test rev every now and again. With any luck, he's only purchased these bikes to fix them up and sell them. Ya, that's right, I said bikes. Did I mention he bought TWO of them??

So crucify me Reddit, send the arrows, grab ya pitchforks and lanterns. Do your worst...

But know this:

I'm happy for the guy. We wave at each other in the morning. It's not like there aren't worse hobbies he could have taken up. I've discussed it with my son too. I firmly believe that if you want peace and quiet, if you want space and serenity, you gotta find a way to buy a bigger house with some land or move far out of the city. If you want it, you have to create it for yourself; and I haven't. I own a townhouse in a densely populated urban neighborhood. I respect the people who I live around and I'm teaching my son to show respect and to genuinely look out for your neighbors. We are a community and we should strive for some level of homeostasis. Don't sweat the little things, right?

Well, I'm trying, but man it totally sucks living next to someone who owns a Harley​.

Random days when I'm trying to sleep during the day since I'm working at night, there was a fight in the neighbourhood and I closed all the doors and used budget friendly soundproof but still I can hear the shouting through the walls and I'm traumatized because of it. It seems like I'm in their home and the fight is happening. Is there a way to escape from it?

Im so annoyed. Fourth of july is over its a fucking Sunday ppl have work go the fuck to sleep or party indoors. Like what the actual fuck.

Edit: the cops literally went back to measure the sound but I dont know if they got a fucking citation or not cuz THEYRE STILL PLAYING MUSIC

My neighbor has been hitting my landscaping/native pollinator plants/property with herbicide, and now maybe something that kills grass too? I grow a few small elderberry trees and collect the berries for my chickens every year. These trees are not close to anyone’s property. However, they are right next to the chicken coop, so the neighbor doesn’t have to see the birds. My elderberry by the coop has been sprayed more than once this year, and it isn’t doing well at all or producing berries. However, I worry this is also poisoning my chickens, and my dog.
A couple of days ago, I went outside to several random circles of dead grass, and there are even some in my natives (mist flower) that grow sense (right in the middle, a decently sized nearly perfect circle of dead plants, and a ring of live plants on the outside..) if that makes sense… There has been clear herbicide damage all around my property since spring, and some of my plants never grew and died. I don’t know what to do anymore, these people won’t leave me alone, and continue to mess with me and my property.

On top of that, I have the people down the street who constantly blast their music, and I only hear the bass in all rooms of my house. Last night, they had a huge party until 3am, and it was so loud inside my house.. okay, whatever… it’s the fourth. Then today, 9am, the music starts again, and I’ve been listing to thumping all day. This happens on the week days too, several days in a row, often beginning at 11pm.
I don’t feel comfortable going into my gardens, or anywhere on my property. I feel like I’ve been living in hell the past two years.

My neighbors took it upon themselves to set up shop in my side yard, then light off probably 100+ fireworks. They didn't ask for my permission, of course. For a solid hour they shot them off from/into my yard and over my house.

This morning I went outside and there was fireworks trash everywhere, including on my car, on the roof of my house and in every area of my yard. I picked up a small bag full and the neighbor and his grandson came outside and said they'd get it. I went inside, but they left a ton of stuff still laying everywhere. It took me at least an hour or two to pick up what I could find. This includes dozens of bottle rocket sticks, hundreds of shreds of cardboard, pieces of sharp plastic, and other miscellaneous pieces.

Not to mention my kids were trying to sleep, which is just a lost battle on the 4th. It sure didn't help having fireworks go off right outside their windows and over their roof. Sayonara to the worst holiday, I won't be looking forward to next year 😂

He use to have a few guest comes to his house once in a while. And they will park anywhere they want and even block my driveway. Told them they should park elsewhere other than in front of others driveway and they are not happy about it. Every few weeks he will wash his cars and use the jet washer to blow trash and leaves from his area to the front of my house. I first thought it is just the wind. But after a while, it seems to be a very consistent thing that is happening so got a cctv system and confirm it is his doing. I don’t mind people keeping their place clean but NOT by throwing the trash to other people’s front door.

I have the worst neighbors possible. Constant excessive noise, trash thrown into our yard, blocking driveways, and more.

I’m fortunate enough to move in 3 months. It’s been like this for over 5 years. Part of me wants to start problems since they’ve given me so much help the past years. Part of me wants to let it go. What would you all do in my case?

Edit: Thank you all, I really want to get payback for what they’ve done. But I know people are crazy these days and I don’t want anything horrible to happen to me right before I move. Best to keep the peace. Even though I REALLY want to

I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this story: yesterday I was at a friends Fourth of July party but it was an by invite only party. Within an hour a man, his wife and two kids show up and say, “Hey neighbor” then the wife tells her kids to go grab plates but the plates get blocked by two of my friends daughters. My friends husband says, ”Hey man, this is a private by invite only party and you’re not crashing it.” The kids go running to their mom saying they’re being denied plates. The mom tells my friend’s daughters to move which the two stand their ground. The neighbor says, “Come on you won’t even know we’re here!“

My friends have had to deal with these neighbors being entitled for months: fall they tried taking leaf bags from the yard, winter tried walking over to take their snowblower they were going to load onto my friends husbands truck to go dig out my friends parents and spring they tried taking garden soil bags. My friend tells them they have two minutes to turn around and leave they have overstepped themselves too many times the last few months and clearly ignore the no trespassing sign at the front of the house. Eventually the couple scoop up their kids and say an obscenity as they leave. Has anyone else dealt with entitled neighbors doing this before?

I share a dead end alley with three other homes. Me and the neighbor that back up to eachother with the alley between our houses are at the end. There is space enough for vehicles to park at the end, but for years there were no parking signs. No problem, never used it as we both have FOUR CAR garages (two deep, not four wide).

Well, come to find out the neighbors pestered the city for years to have the no parking signs removed and have a personal handicap spot put in for them to use. Annoying as they have modified, raised vehicles that are extremely loud, so i question the necessity of the handicap space, but whatever. Can live with that. Even though it wakes me up at 4:55 AM EVERY WEEK DAY when he starts up his truck. Its ridiculous. Really don’t understand people that choose to do that when living in a heavy residential area.

Well its slowly became worse.

They now park the handicap plated car in the non-handicap space, so that they can save the other all the time and we can never use either. We can no longer pull out into the alley to even wash our car as we could before, or just be able to load things in and out without blocking them in.

The rare times we can use the space because the “handicapped” wife has left, they will make a point to park in front of their garage so that we are blocked in. Its like they think we’re challenging them and think we’re out to get them, when we are just using the space with the same frequency we always would have. I’m talking a handful of times a year.

We asked them nicely if they could leave it free of they don’t need to have use of it, and their response was to make sure they only parked in the non handicap space. The husband left for a week one time, and the “handicapped” wife made sure to still only use the non-handicap spot. Just unnecessarily combative and weird.

These people have had problems with numerous other neighbors. They moved from their prior home due to “problematic neighbors” but have slowly alienated themselves from most of the other neighbors around us. I think we all know who the common denominators are.

My husband and I have always kept quiet because there’s no winning with people like that, but dang its getting to me. Just a total abuse of handicap space, and just generally being shitty, entitled people in general. We want to call and report them so bad, but are worried about creating further problems with them based on other people’s accounts.

Story from one of the other neighbors was that the guy blew up their friendship because “he wasn’t there for them enough” when the wife was going theough cancer.

There’s just so many things to this, but bottom line, I don’t see how parking out in the alley is easier than using their own garage. Oh wait, I see whats going on. They are hoarders, and their previously accessible FOUR CAR GARAGE, is now packed to the back with crap. They are using their huge garage as storage, and the alley as their personal driveway. Waking me up all the time and just generally making us always aware of their annoying presence. Not sure what we can even do but dang it sucks. Can’t stand the sight of them any more and just want to be able to afford a place in the country where I never have to be aware of anyone.

For context we have lived (UK) in our house almost 4 years, we private rent and our neighbours own their property. They are terraced housing. Also relevant is that I have multiple chronic illnesses and am disabled.

Our neighbours have 2 children aged around 7 (F) and 18 months (F). The whole time we have lived here we have put up with screaming and shouting at each other and the kids, its like the only way they communicate non stop. I know families fight but this is multiple times a day, every day. The kids also constantly bang on the walls and bang their stair gates into the adjoining wall, repetitively for 10 plus minutes at a time. Now the eldest is getting older we have no privacy in the garden also. She climbs on the fence and hangs over our side, she sprays water at me over the fence and she is almost always outside unsupervised. Today was the icing on the cake when I set up a brand new paddling pool for my son which took a lot out of me given my health but I was so pleased I had done it. He spent about an hour in it and then had to come inside as once again the girl was hanging over the fence. Half an hour later I went outside to find the pool full of mud and stones and a piece of their fence. Before I say a word a little voice says "Hello, a cat made that mess in your garden". And there was my answer.

I have spoken to my neighbours to try and solve this amicably but they are not interested. Do we give up? Do we move? Do I have any rights in a situation like this? The stress of the noise and the shouting/hearing arguing so much is making me ill. Thank you for any advice.

I know people are enjoying the 4th, but when is it enough? My neighbors decide to go out at 12:30 AM and decide to light off all of their fireworks. I mean, they had all night and choose to do it at almost 1 AM.
Now my baby is wide awake. Am I wrong for saying something to them??? Might I add the county that I live in it is illegal and should be lit off at community events and the hours are from 10 A.M. to 11 PM on the fourth.

My neighbor 77 recently faced a utility shut-off due to an $800+ sewer bill. To assist, I 60 provided access to showers and hauled water for her daily needs.
**The Boundary Conflicts**
I established specific times for shower and water access to protect my routine, as I manage a brain injury and utilize a weekly caregiver. My neighbor consistently ignored these boundaries, attempting to force schedule changes.
Further complications arose regarding communication and transportation:
**Communication:** Her phone service was disconnected, eliminating our primary means of contact.
**Transportation:** I provided gas money for her vehicle (with expired tags) to facilitate occasional transportation for me. However, I found her driving to be hazardous—frequently running red lights and stopping in active traffic to text. Due to these safety concerns, I ceased relying on her for rides.
**The Escalation**
The relationship deteriorated further when she demanded a spare key to my home, which I denied to protect my personal space. She responded with aggression, accusing me of distrust.
When I shared plans to purchase a new property with a shop that could be converted into a guest house, she immediately declared that I should rent it to her and provide for her care. I declined, noting my desire to keep that space available for my own family. When I attempted to discuss these issues calmly, she responded by screaming at me and claiming I had hurt her feelings.
**Professional Concerns**
The neighbor claims to be a social worker with professional access to other vulnerable adults. Her pattern of disregarding boundaries, aggressive verbal behavior, and attempted financial manipulation raises significant concern regarding her interactions with her clients. If she is willing to coerce me, she may be leveraging her position to exploit or manipulate other vulnerable individuals who may have less capacity to defend themselves.
**Current Status**
I have chosen to sever ties with this neighbor. While I am aware of her current difficulties—including lack of utilities, transportation issues, and limited resources—her refusal to respect my boundaries and her aggressive behavior have made it impossible to continue assisting her. I have maintained these boundaries firmly, recognizing that my disability does not impair my ability to protect my interests and my home.
**AITAH**

My husband and I live near a shared apartment pond. Rules in our lease state you can fish, but you must release. Not many people follow that, but those same people are leaving their lines behind. We have taken our dogs out multiple times and husband, myself, or dogs got tangled on a line.

1. Us humans can feel it and remove it before it becomes an issue

2. Add dog that wants to run around like crazy or a child who doesn't know better.

3. Wild animals apparently don't matter

We got lucky every time. I've felt fishing line brush against me and my husband and I pull at it until we get out all up. Daytime and nighttime. However, tonight, it was wrapped around my dog's legs and body when she only walked around a 5ft radius of me. I kept her leash tight near me and asked my husband, while he was unwinding it, to let me know if I needed to move her in any other way. Even with flashlights..... fishing line is not easy to spot right away. If she took off before I felt the line...... she would have cuts all over her back legs. The hook could have gone who knows where.

Complaining does nothing, we don't have proof of who is doing this. Laws makers don't care even if it's a law not to leave fishing supplies behind. I'm about ready to become the "stay off my lawn" person

EDIT: Thank you all for your kind comments and suggestions.

I add this: to help you visualize what this old petty neighbor looks like, he (and his dog) is the identical twin of the creepy character Herbert from Family Guy. To give you a visual idea of who I’m dealing with.

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I have an old nosy neighbor who seems very petty and stubborn.

Ever since I moved to my current neighborhood, my security cameras/myself have caught him:

1. walking onto my driveway and sidewalk to peek into our garage (when nobody was home) a few time
2. ***taking a detour from his street (next to my no-exit street) to walk slowly with his dog in front of my house and security cameras, multiple times each and every day
3. ignoring me when I first moved here and when I tried being nice by saying hi to him
4. wandering in the neighbourhood waiting to run into me when I walk my dog, as if his "running into" me marks some sort of psychological victory for him. He does this everyday. (Update: there was some tech issue with my previous editing. Here I will just give the numbers: Over the past 365 days, I estimate that he had "coincidentally" run into me outside 300+ times in total, whereas I had run into my immediate neighbours on my own street maybe 5 times max in total.)
5. acting extremely shocked when he saw me receiving groceries delivery at my home
6. dropping a bag of dog poop on my driveway (Update: I add this. Someone in the neighborhood recently dropped two bags of dog poo, with the same specific dog poo bag colour/pattern as he did to my driveway, by a new Indian neighbour family's house, even though they already put out a friendly 'no dog poo' sign there. The act must be done on purpose. Do they/I have footage showing who did it this time? No. Do I have a candidate for suspect? Yes.)
7. acting like he’s best buddy with my neighbors on my street when he saw me walking my dog
8. writing me unsolicited note asking me to do certain things with my backyard plants which had nothing to do with him/his property (Update: I hired professional gardeners to trim the apple trees by my side of fence not long ago, and my trees/plants are not hurting him or his property physically. Is he mentally bothered by the existence of my trees or my very existence in my backyard? Possibly, but it's not something I can help him with.)
9. Watching my backyard from his bedroom window often (we share a fence despite we technically live on two different streets)
10. Oh, and he often lets out his loud dog to bark from his backyard when he sees me reading/relaxing/gardening in my backyard

As an easy-going person myself who never wants to pick/initiate a fight with strangers, I found this old neighbor to be particularly petty and stubborn. It feels like he believes that by showing up in front of my home & running into me in the neighborhood brings him some mental victory.

I’ve learned to match his energy by completely ignoring him when encountering him. No words, no facial expressions, just blank staring at him if he “happens” to be walking in front of my house each day. And sometimes I walk my dog in front of his house too to return the favor — he seems to be agitated when I do this, because he would usually show up “coincidentally” with his dog on my street 30 mins later.

Anyone has any suggestions or comments?

I need help dealing with a neighbor's kid who is harassing me and the property manager won't do anything about it. I was recommended by a couple of people to get a subwoofer on reddit and in person so I did but it turns out the neighbor also has one too. I eventually just left and came back maybe an hour later to turn it off when theirs was still on. Does anyone have any tips to deal with a neighbor like this?

Background: For literal months the kid was hitting my floor their ceiling any time I made any noise but largely when I was cooking or in the bathroom. Then eventually moved to use a loud alarm to wake me up in the middle of the night and it didn't matter if I was in my room or the living room or switched back they could hear me and would go to either room below me and set the alarm off or some other large noise. (I think they stopped doing that when their downstairs neighbor threatened their mother.) Now they use their ceiling fans to bother me which I thought were ceiling vibrators because they vibrated my room so much when I was just lying on the couch and would wake me up when I was sleeping. And he hasn't taken one night to stop waking me up in the middle of the night basically since I've moved in.

I told my neighbor off because of her smoking behavior in an enclosed space that is near my apartment. I first talked to the manager and with her multiple times that it is not right to smoke in a shared space. But she couldn't stop, and the smoke is directly coming into my rooms. I don't really like the smoke, and it's really perplexing to me how people could inhale these combinations of putrid smoke. Why don't smokers just use nicotine patches to get the effects of nicotine while avoiding inserting these chemicals??

And coming to the main point, I shouted at her. I told her that I could call the police and asked her how she dares to invade my space without any consideration for a shared space. At one point, I told her she is like a company generating daily industrial waste into people's room and told her that I don't want even microscopic traces of these chemicals to be near my room. I asked her whether she would like it if I came to her room and did something that would be of discomfort to her.

I guess because she is a woman, she didn't take it well. I was speaking in a high volume, and she told me that she felt dehumanized and shamed. I apologized at the end and gave her an ultimatum to continue smoking but to let me know so that I could change a house

Newly bought house, unfortunately. The neighbor on one side is so obnoxious with the sounds he makes, it's so embarrassing and annoying. The first thing "off" was maximum volume music lasting hours until very late evening. A neighbor complained to him, and so did we, not knowing it was just the beginning. The next thing was a loud garden party with big speakers and a microphone, plus loudly trashtalking and laughing at neighbors (who previously reported noise complaints) with his guests. Then also the wild animal noises he makes and his loud outbursts while he's in his garden. If he hears us in our garden, it gets worse and it feels done on purpose to bully us (some fucked up sort of "assert dominance" thing?). He doesn't talk directly to us, just makes fucked up "RROAARRR!" sounds or screams random things. We were ignoring this but it's becoming a real nuisance if you're just relaxing in your garden.

And then, finally this: I just heard him talking loudly to a friend in his garden, and then he did a loud, prolonged burp. It sounded forced for extra loudness. No "excuse me" afterwards. No shame. Just went on chatting.

Why did it have to be such scum living next to us.