Update to WIBTAH if I broke up with my fiance because she bought a house while I was away?
Original post for context
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1r667jr/comment/okp7641/?context=3
So first I want to say thank you to everybody who took the time to read my situation and give me advice. I have held off on updating for awhile since I wanted to see how things would play out before I finally called the matter closed.
Shortly after making the post and having some deep conversations with my best friends I finally made the decision to take action. That next day I went to the bank and revoked her power of attorney privilege and cancelled all recurring allowances to her before I talked to her.
I called her after I was done with all that and tried to broach my concerns gently. The response I got was poor to say the least. Despite my best efforts to be gentle the situation quickly escalated until she told me that she bought the new house because "she didn't trust me that I wouldn't kick her out"
After it got to that point I gave up. I hung up, silenced her notifications and went to bed. I texted her the next day informing her about how the POA had been revoked, and how I wasn't giving her any more money. Since she was on the lease I told her if she decided to stay in my apartment she would be responsible for paying half of the rent if she didn't move out before I got back. I then muted her and did not talk to her again before I went underway.
I finished out the rest of the deployment. We only got 1 more port call for a couple days on the way back home from mission. I took the time to call her to find out some things. She tried to guilt trip me by telling me how much she missed me and how she got hurt during her new work. I found out during the call she was still living in my apartment. That day I messaged her again telling her that she was not welcome in my house and she needed to get out and that we are no longer together before I muted her for the duration of my port call.
I came back home in early May.
She moved out of my apartment and took all of her stuff with her. She took a couple of my things like my T.V. and my kitchen appliances, but the bulk of my things were still there so I didn't get legal authorities involved. My place was disgusting, it felt like it hadn't been cleaned since the day I left so I had to spend 3 hours that first day back cleaning. I got done cleaning and found out the shower was fully clogged. By the time I got back from the hardware store with a drain snake the water was still standing. And when I went to bed I found that the place where I normally sleep had a big hole stabbed into it and her side of the bed had a big blood/pee stain (I assume a bad period). So I basically had to refurnish my entire house which has been an expensive ordeal to include a new mattress, t.v and kitchen appliances. Luckily my bank account are fine and she has no access to them so I have no monetary issues.
I have not talked to her since I've been back and I don't think I want to after how she has treated me.
It just really sucks that things had to end this way.
TLDR: I kicked her out, she took all her stuff and some of mine, my bank accounts are still fine and all my valuable stuff is still there, I finished re-buying all the furniture and haven't talked to her since coming back home.