u/Dry-Guidance3416

I had nothing to do with acting when we met. I decided to start acting 3 years ago as it was my childhood dream. The first thing he told me was he wasn’t sure he could handle me kissing other actors. I explained him everything that it's unromantic, choreographed, technical, done in public but he said that "I trust you and support you but being on stage won't change anything. Even though you are portraying a character and you are doing it without real feelings, you are still doing it. It's still kissing, not something else" and that is valid.

I now have an agent and got submitted for huge projects. My husband's feelings and this career both matters to me and he is not the guy who is controlling me or having trust issues. We have to find a way to make us both comfortable. I already told him that kisses are Choreographed, unromantic, my character is kissing not me and blah blah blah but he thinks that kissing someone else is still cheating whether it’s “acting” or not.

Some people said that don't let his insecurity affect my dreams but I really don't wanna let him get over this on his own because he did alot for me and his feelings matter to me. I would feel selfish if I did that.

I know I have potential. I don’t want to be limiting myself because of his insecurity, but I don’t want to mess up a relationship that is otherwise really good.

TO BE CLEAR: HE IS VERY SUPPORTIVE (HE IS THE REASON I GOT HERE), LOVING, TRUSTS ME, NOT CONTROLLING, AND WE BOTH RESPECT EACH OTHER'S OPINION ABOUT THIS AND HE IS DEFINATELY NOT FORCING ME TO CHOOSE HIM OR ACTING.

I want advice on how we can work through this together without either of us feeling like our feelings or boundaries are being ignored. How can we find a compromise that allows me to pursue acting while also respecting how he feels about on-screen kissing?

TL;DR: I started acting 3 years ago, and my husband, who is very supportive of my career, is uncomfortable with me kissing other actors because he considers it cheating even when it's part of acting. I don't want to give up my career or ignore his feelings, so I'm looking for advice on how we can find a solution that works for both of us.

I had nothing to do with acting when we met. I decided to start acting 3 years ago as it was my childhood dream. The first thing he told me was he wasn’t sure he could handle me kissing other actors. I explained him everything that it's unromantic, choreographed, technical, done in public but he said that "I trust you and support you but being on stage won't change anything. Even though you are portraying a character and you are doing it without real feelings, you are still doing it. It's still kissing, not something else" and that is valid.

I now have an agent and got submitted for huge projects. My husband's feelings and this career both matters to me and he is not the guy who is controlling me or having trust issues. We have to find a way to make us both comfortable. I already told him that kisses are Choreographed, unromantic, my character is kissing not me and blah blah blah but he thinks that kissing someone else is still cheating whether it’s “acting” or not.

Some people said that don't let his insecurity affect my dreams but I really don't wanna let him get over this on his own because he did alot for me and his feelings matter to me. I would feel selfish if I did that.

I know I have potential. I don’t want to be limiting myself because of his insecurity, but I don’t want to mess up a relationship that is otherwise really good.

TO BE CLEAR: HE IS VERY SUPPORTIVE (HE IS THE REASON I GOT HERE), LOVING, TRUSTS ME, NOT CONTROLLING, AND WE BOTH RESPECT EACH OTHER'S OPINION ABOUT THIS AND HE IS DEFINATELY NOT FORCING ME TO CHOOSE HIM OR ACTING.

I want advice on how we can work through this together without either of us feeling like our feelings or boundaries are being ignored. How can we find a compromise that allows me to pursue acting while also respecting how he feels about on-screen kissing?

TL;DR: I started acting 3 years ago, and my husband, who is very supportive of my career, is uncomfortable with me kissing other actors because he considers it cheating even when it's part of acting. I don't want to give up my career or ignore his feelings, so I'm looking for advice on how we can find a solution that works for both of us.