u/Dry-Huckleberry-3338

Just had abortion, boyfriend taking it out on me

So me and my bf had our first baby 3 months ago. I took plan B a month ago and it never worked and I ended up pregnant only 3m after having my first. We threw around the idea of keeping it but we both agreed as we aren’t financially ready for another and we also want to prioritise our first that we won’t keep it.

He did initially try figure ways out for it to work and so did I. But it meant downsizing everything when it came to our baby and we both came to the conclusion that wasn’t fair. Fast forward 5 days later, I’m in the throes of the abortion. Everyone advised me to let him take care of our baby because id be in pain. He completely agreed and said i should rest.
It then hit about half 11 and he was tired the baby was hungry and he was getting frustrated,

I told him id feed her he said i was too late. I was in the bathroom dealing with the biggest blood clots I’ve ever witnessed in my life and I was scared. He said he’d do it but he was clearly annoyed. I told him that I do this nearly everyday, alone feeding her while he helps out when he can, but sometimes I’d get no help which I do understand as he works a tough job and a lot of manual labour. I told him that I didn’t feel good enough to do it and I’m sorry but I don’t feel great there is blood all over me. He continued getting frustrated and annoyed so I told him that I’m going through this abortion and it’s 50% his fault and 50% mine. But he turned around and goes “I said keep it”

Abortion is hard enough without someone telling u that, I thought we were on the same page but clearly not. Am I overreacting?? Or was this horrible thing to say to me as I was now 2 days in

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u/Dry-Huckleberry-3338 — 19 hours ago

I don’t know what’s going on with my body. I’ve looked up things on google but they give me multiple answers and I haven’t seen doctor yet.

I had a baby 2.5 months ago and while I was about 12 weeks pregnant I first experienced this pain. It was a burning sensation in between my ribs, upper abdomen. Bear in mind I wasn’t vaping at this point , I stopped. Fast forward the end of pregnancy I’m starting to get the pain a bit more and it was quite severe, the hospital said it was the baby “rubbing against my ribs”so I sucked it up.

After I gave birth the pain continued but it got a lot worse. I am out of action for about 10-15 mins when it happens it could be every couple of days it could be once a week but it is so horrible and I don’t know what to do about it. I did pick back up the vaping which i thought it could be from, but why would it have happened when pregnant then?? I was drinking a lot of Redbull post partum so I cut that out thinking it was contributing and it really did stop for about 2 weeks but now it’s back

I end up rolling around the sofa in a fetal position groaning and nearly in tears I cannot speak and I can just about breathe. It’s a good thing each time it has happened that my boyfriend has been home and the baby has been sleeping but I really worry for the day where it happens while he’s at work or if she needs me because I will be no use to anyone once it kicks in 😓

Has anyone had any similar experiences with this type of pain before? And if so what was it from

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u/Dry-Huckleberry-3338 — 18 days ago