My Boyfriend is Refusing to Treat His "Scabies" and is Causing Great Tension to Our Relationship!
A little backstory:
My boyfriend and I stayed at a hotel in November. About a week later, he started getting itchy bumps all over his body. Then, a week after that, I started getting the same bumps too, and they quickly spread everywhere. We first thought it might be bed bugs, but the symptoms kept going on for weeks.
In December, we both went to the doctor and were told it was eczema, so we trusted that diagnosis. But my symptoms kept getting worse.
In January, I was referred to a dermatologist, who also said it was eczema. I tried steroid creams and even prednisone, but nothing helped! The itching and bumps continued. That’s when I started questioning whether it really was eczema.
I started researching on my own and came across scabies, and suddenly the story started to align.
Desperate for answers, I saw another dermatologist and had a skin scraping test done, but it came back negative! Still, something didn’t feel right.
Then, in April, my mother and little brother started itching too. That’s when I became almost certain it was scabies. My dermatologist then agreed to treat us, and my mom, brother, and I all completed treatment with Permethrin 5% cream (a cream to kill off scabies).
The dermatologist suggested treating everyone who had symptoms or close contact, since scabies can keep spreading or come back. So I asked my boyfriend to treat himself, but he refused! Every conversation turns into the same argument about this. He insists it’s eczema and says he won’t use anything not prescribed to him.
Now I can’t stop thinking about whether this will keep cycling because he doesn’t treat it. This has caused tension in our relationship. I don’t know what to do next.
