My (F23) Bf (M23) wants to go on a guys trip to las vegas
My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years. We recently had a birthday trip for him. one friend ended up getting fired because he went to it instead of work. That friend is the one planning a boys birthday trip to Vegas. My bf is saying since he did that for his birthday he owes him to go. He’s saying birthday trip is probably gonna be innocent and it’ll just probably be like a birthday party with the guys family. Here’s my problem
His friends are single or act single. We have the healthiest relationship.
we’re supposed to be saving money. My hrs are getting cut for 3 months ( we live together)
during those 3 months i won’t be home 4 days out of the week so he will need to help with house chores & the weekend will be the only time we get to see each other/ hang out.
he’s never cheated or anything but he does do stuff he knows i wouldn’t like and then doesn’t admit his wrong til i find out.
says they won’t go out to club or anything but ik my bf and the minute his friends say lets go he’s going to go and text me otw there that he’s going.
He claims if it was the other way around depending on the circumstances he wouldn’t care but ik hes just saying that bc i have no friends to even do that with. he’s been saying he needs to go on a friends trip to vegas but since we got together i told him that’s not happening unless i go bc i just wouldn’t even like him in situations like that. if it was like a man trip like camping, fishing, or hunting . i wouldn’t mind but vegas just doesn’t seem like somewhere you should go while in a relationship without your SO.
told him i can go and chill at the hotel and eat and stuff while they go do whatever sometimes so they can have boy time. his point is he doesn’t want to seem like the dude that has to bring his gf everywhere. but it only seems like that bc his friends always want to go to clubs, parties or things like this vegas. i told him or they can do something out here and he can go to that if i can’t go to vegas but he keeps pushing that he needs to go or he’s a shitty friend. is my point valid ? what should i do?