Anyone in the fence between OAD and having a second who has decided to stay OAD? How do you feel? Any regrets?
Just a bit of context, I (38F) have a gorgeous daughter who just turned 3. I'm an only child and for all my life I envisioned having 2 kids. I didn't miss having a sibling when I was a kid, but I do now as an adult.
I had a pretty ok pregnancy, although I suffered from high blood pressure (luckily it didn't turn into preeclampsia), but my postpartum was very traumatic. Baby was born low weight, I couldn't breastfeed which was super tough for me mentally and emotionally, baby was colicky and screamed 24/7, I felt lonely AF, and sleep deprivation made me feel physically sick. Literally the darkest months in my life, which made me say I wouldn't go through it again.
But 3 years later, like many people, I'm now considering having a second. And basically I'm trying to figure out which decision I would regret the most. If staying OAD, or having a second.
I know a second doesn't mean I'll go through the same nightmare of a postpartum as with my first, but that's the only thing I can relate to. But then, thinking of staying OAD makes me feel very sad.
My husband is feeling the same, not really thrilled with the idea of another baby. But feeling sad about thinking we'll just have one.
I've read many posts and I see there's a tendency of people who are on the fence, finally deciding to go for a second. But I want to hear the experiences of people who decided to stay OAD in the end. How do you feel? Any regrets? Or relief?
Thanks!