u/Dry-Working-1408

My father has always been very controlling. Around 2-3 years ago, when I was 19, I took a loan from my father to start a business. Unfortunately, I lost all the money. At that time, my father humiliated me a lot in front of family and others. That experience pushed me to work hard and prove myself.

Alhamdulillah, today I earn over 50 lakh per month. I built everything myself through hard work, consistency, and sacrifice.

The issue now is that my father tries to control every part of my business and finances. When I had nothing, he didn’t really care about my work or struggles, but now that I am successful and financially stable, he wants complete access to everything. He wants all the money I make to go into his account, wants to know where every rupee is spent, and wants full visibility into my business operations.

My business is physical, so I need to be present at my office regularly. Recently, my father has started coming to the office every day to monitor things. When I politely ask him to give me some space and trust me to handle the business I built myself, he becomes upset and says I am too young and will lose everything unless he takes control.

The difficult part is that he is not actually helping operationally. Instead, he questions my employees about my income, expenses, and salaries. Out of respect for me, my employees usually do not share information, but the situation has become mentally exhausting.

I have even told my father that I am willing to take care of all household expenses and support him financially so he can rest comfortably, but he gets angry and says things like, “Tum ho kya? Tum kuch nahi kar sakte. Main khud tumhara kaam dekhunga tabhi chalega.”

I genuinely do not know how to handle this situation anymore. I respect my father deeply, but at the same time, I feel suffocated because I worked extremely hard to build this business independently. I cannot openly discuss this with many people, so I just needed honest advice and feedback.

JazakAllah.