I walked away from a friendship circle that slowly became unhealthy
I genuinely don’t know if I’m wrong here or if this friendship/group was just toxic.
So I used to work in a pretty bad office environment where I got bullied a lot in the beginning because I was very quiet and kept to myself. Later I became close with a girl there and eventually our small circle became a bigger friend group.
Her boyfriend resigned from the office and before leaving he literally told me to take care of her because he’d worry about her after leaving. I did exactly that. I treated her like family honestly. I supported her emotionally, protected her in office situations, bought her food/snacks/drinks almost daily, listened to her problems, everything.
Then later I resigned too.
After that, things suddenly became weird. Her boyfriend started saying things like “She(me) left without even telling you properly because she doesn’t care about you.” Around the same time, I made some design posts/work for his agency (I’m a graphic designer), and he never paid me anything for it.. Despite that, I still stayed respectful.
Also, the boyfriend was honestly very aggressive and abusive in general. He’d constantly use gaalis, insult people casually, and their relationship itself was extremely chaotic. It started feeling like I was getting dragged into their personal fights and emotional mess.
The girl then started publicly commenting things like “worst post ever” and insulting my work on reels/posts.
My mom even told me long ago to stay away from these people because she felt the girl wasn’t genuine. Eventually I got hurt enough that I stopped answering calls/texts and slowly ghosted everyone because mentally I was exhausted.
Now the group is calling me selfish, coward, dramatic, etc. They made separate group discussions about me, mocked me, shared screenshots and said things like “how more selfish could she be.”
But at the same time, they also keep trying to contact me, check if I’m online, ask why I disappeared, say they’re shocked I’m active elsewhere, etc. So the whole thing feels extremely confusing and emotionally messy.
I know ghosting isn’t the healthiest communication style, but I also feel like I reached a point where I just didn’t feel emotionally safe or respected anymore.
Am I wrong for cutting them off without giving closure?