Would I be the Ahole if I asked my husband to get rid of his dog?
My husband has a large german shepherd who is highly neurotic and sheds like no other. I am not joking when I say there are tumbleweeds of hair all around our house. As someone who loves a tidy, clean home, it has gotten to the point at times where I have delayed coming home from work because I can't decompress knowing that no matter what I do, hair will be all over everything no matter what. I have found hair in my underwear, in the shower, in food, stuck in my crochet projects, in notebooks, even in my deoderant, and I don't even touch this dog.
I've asked my husband to do a better job cleaning up after his dog, and he always does for a day or two, and then the house returns to chaos. I do a majority of the cleaning in the house anyway, despite being the only one working full time (he does schooling remotely) and it takes twice as long to clean as it should, because I have to lint roll everything before I wipe it down. The house needs to be vaccummed every day, and it seems that no matter what I say or do, that responsibility will always fall on me. I even got a roomba, and I still had to vacuum.
The dog spends the majority of the day outside, and when inside stays in my husbands office, and the hair is still horrendously bad. I don't have a single outfit that isn't covered in it, and even when I use a roller, I still feel super self-consious because its impossible to get all the hair out.
I love my husband, and I know he loves his dog, so I've put up with it, even at the cost of my comfort and sanity. But the final straw came last month, and I've reached my breaking point.
My husband got into a great program in another city with a high cost of living. We would go from renting a spacious home with a backyard to only being able to afford a one bedroom apartment. Not only would this be detrimental to me and my mental health, I also think this would be damaging to the dog's. He is rather large, used to playing outside, and prone to anxiety fits. If we wanted to keep the dog, we would have to get an apartment at least twice as large as the ones we can afford, and that would take almost my entire paycheck. We wouldn't be able to afford insurance, let alone groceries.
I would also end up being the sole caretaker of the dog, as the program is very demanding. The little cleaning that my husband did do would fall to me, and I would be responsible for taking the dog out every time he needs it.
I've told my husband that the dog would double our living expenses, and as the sole breadwinner that puts a lot of stress on me. He doesn't care. He would rather tank our finances then even consider getting rid of the dog.
This isn't the first time he has put his dog in front of me or our finances, and I'm starting to hate the dog and resent him for it, which is not like me. I love animals. I have a chunky, friendly cat who I adore endlessly, but if it came down to choosing between my cat and my husband and our future, I would choose the latter every time.
So would I be the a-hole if I flat out asked him to put me before the dog, and get rid of it?
EDIT: I would like to re-emphasize because most people seem to have missed it: The hair isn't the reason I'm asking for the dog to be re-homed. I have lived with the hair for years now, and it bothers me, but I love my husband, and I am willing to put up with it. The breaking point (as I've already stated) is that we have to move, and we won't be able to afford an apartment big enough. I would be miserable, but the dog would definately be miserable too. Having a big dog in a small apartment feels cruel. A dog is a pack animal, but that doesn't mean caging it just to keep it is the right thing to do. An apartment as small as the ones we can afford would be a cage.
EDIT 2: I grew up on a hobby farm. Animals are awesome, and lovely, but they are not people, and its cruel to both them and people to treat them as such. You can love animals and also understand that people come before them, and there are ethical ways to re-home. I would never drop an animal off at a shelter or pound. We would reach out to potential adopters directly and vet them, their home, and their pets. We would also give them our contacts just in case something happens and they can't take care of him anymore so that there is no chance he ends up in a shelter. This would be my first time re-homing an animal (that isn't a farm animal) so any advice on that front or things to look out for would also be appreciated, just in case my husband does decide to rehome. As much as the dog drives me crazy, I am not going to let him go to someone who would hurt him, only to someone who could give him a life better then we currently can.
FINAL EDIT: To everyone giving me grief because I mentioned that I suggested re-homing my cat because of an issue, we thought my husband might have developed an allergy. Luckily, it ended up being something in the wet food we were giving him, so we switched to dry food and just wet it down. Of course the idea of giving up my cat devastated me, but in the end my husband comes first. Your spouse should always come first.