My lover F21 and myself M23 have been a happy good couple but as her family declined our relationship she has said no to me, How should I get her back ?
Dear Reddit,
I am(Male 23) or should I say have I dont know I wish to be "am" but the thing is the sweet girl (Female 21) she has told me to move on and be happy and find another girl cause her family found about it and they have given her heavy no answers and some family stuff like a slap and attempt to suicide which I wont go deeper as it is not right to talk about her family but that is what happened and she came up to me and told no it wont work out and poof just like that I was blocked in everything within that night but I kept my hopes up cause a similar incident like this happened where she was caught by her family but nothing serious like the one I told they just told her no and she disappeared but didn't block me in anything and she came back manavas I happy okay coming to the subject now after the serious thing which happened she is fixed as per her terms that she doesn't want me but after months she herself came back but telling that ampa good person and she doesn't wanna cut me out of her life just cause I am not her lover and so things went and I asked to meet her and tell it to me in my face that she doesn't want me and she agreed but she revealed that she still does love me but she couldn't cause of her family and all and now ladies and gentlemen who are kind enough to read this self pity sobito comes the fool part the moment I saw her crying I decided to make her stop crying and told her what she wanted to hear that I will try to unlove her and then she calmed down and told that She had planned to ask me to wait for this many years but she didn't wanna make me wait for nothing cause she is doubtful if at the end things might work with her family and all as per her logic she ended it before it gets too good and caused her more pain, and I tried y'all I begged I cried I did everything I can think off to make her understand but she was on her point and though she accepted it that when she heard me say that I will try to unlove her she couldn't accept it and pained her heart to hear me say it and remind you she accepted that she still loved me but still the fact remains that she stood on her point, After that we were talking usually and I tried one more time and asked her to come back but nope it didn't work again ladies and gentlemen the moment I see some kind of sadness in her I try to make her happy I try to make it right later I regretted it all and wished to have stood on my point but the fact that I feared was what if I told her that and she decides to cut off the small talks we are having now cause make no mistake I am in love with her still and will you see I dont plan on changing that and in the time she didn't talk to me before coming to me that she wanted in my life still she said some things in hopes that I will get hurt and I will yell at her or do something in fact she told it herself when we met if I had beat her or scolded her she would be like yes thats what I deserve and the reason for that is
One I dont get angry that much very rarely I do and Two I understand her side as I clearly know that whatever she is doing is trying to make me leave and I could just read what she was thinking so I know how much hard it was for her to take that decision and do it and all I feel is sadness that I am a part of it too making her sad this way make no mistake whatever she tried and said worked I did get hurt but I came back no matter how many times she tried I will come back even though it hurts
Now we talk, like we just talk normally I mean I can tell cause she is not talking to me like before and that hurts too I know small stuff yeah recently we went to a movie together where she told me if I had scolded her or yelled at her or beat her or do anything she would have been okay with it and good but she told instead of doing all those you are listening to me, I mean I just smiled and watched on the movie heroic right no just a fool who is afraid of losing the whatsoever little talks that we are having
Finally coming to the part where I ask you all for advice is how do I get her back what should I do? Cause not to toot my own self pity but I'll make it short I haven't been myself, thoughts of self harm, just sadness won't use depression and make it about me cause it wont look good and I know its not fair or right to ask this cause at the very moment you are reading this, you might be going through something worse or someone else might be facing a serious relationship problem too compared to the world where cheating, gaslighting, manipulation, friendzoning and as you know several real life problems which is literally making the earth heat mine is just a dust in the wind but I miss her and I am willing to do anything to have her in my hands. So any help is appreciated on how to have her back I am all ears and thank you so so much for taking the time to read this for me hope you have a great life for the thought of helping others believe me (Its pretty rare) so thank