AITA for making my roommate cry.
To give a backstory on my roommate situation. He has been the worst roommate I have had while in college. He would watch shows with no headphones even though I was in call with friends on Discord, and would fall asleep with shows still running. He also set alarms for 4 am, not wake up to them, wake me up, and then go back to bed.
I work from 2am to 6am, and because of my job, I can not be late and I can not be a no show, meaning I would often not sleep before my job to make sure I was on time. So when I get back at 6am, I am exhausted and need sleep.
This day was rough, so I was ready to crash. As I come into our dorm, the first thing I hear is his alarm blaring, meaning it might have been blaring since 4 am. I shut it off and crawl into bed. Soon after, he got out of bed and onto his laptop and started to blast music at top volume.
This of course pissed me off, as I was trying to sleep after a long day. So I raise myself up and ask him politely if he can put on headphones, as I am tired and need sleep. But instead of putting on headphones, he lowers the music. I think, "fine, as long as the music is low I can sleep through it."
But then he starts pushing up the volume, first by a little, then more and more until it is blasting again. I get annoyed, but I am trying to be civil, so I ask politely again, "Hey I really really need to get some sleep, I am so exhausted and just need sleep, so can you please put on some headphones." But instead of putting his headphones on, he lowers the music again.
I think this time he will keep it low. But soon enough, over 5-8 min, he pushes the volume back to max, and with each push my blood starts to boil more, to the point where I explode and yell and cuss him out about how exhausted I am and how I need him to put on some goddam headphones. You would imagine he would put on headphones now, but nope. He lowers the music, pushes it back up again, and I explode at him again, this time hitting the wall. He lowers it, and not 8 min later he has it back to blasting.
I have had enough. I get out of bed and start yelling at him, and this is where I made him cry. We are both international students, but my English is a lot better than his. He has very broken English and can struggle with words, but he was a senior and has been here for almost 4 years now. So in my rage and exhaustion I yell at him, "I know your English is bad, which is surprising for someone who has been here for the past 4 years, but I would imagine you know what put on some god damn headphones means."
This all took place in the span of around 40 to 45 min.
I stormed out because I could feel my blood boiling too hot and needed to cool down. I went to my RA to tell him what happened, as I kind of just wanted him out of the room so I could sleep. When my RA came out with him, I could see he had been crying, as the words I said cut deep because he is very insecure about his English.
So Reddit. AITA for making my roommate cry?