My ex left be b/c he was straight but just came out as gay
So Reddit folks, my ex is really throwing me for a loop. We broke up in August of last year because I came out to him as a trans guy. It’s still kinda touchy for me since I was outed by someone that is generally friendly. The guy who outed me is hard to hate, but I fucking resent him. I was going to come out in my own terms TWO DAYS LATER and come out without talking about som random oblivious cisgender bitch. Not really the point, though, moving on. My ex had the understandable response of “I’m not gay, let’s just be friends” which I was largely fine with and very prepared for. It was pretty easy for me to detach from a straight guy I was dating long-distance, even if we’d been dating for like a year and a half or something and were really good to each other. I think I still had feelings for him but I’m not the best with knowing since I’m autistic and definitely a little poly. Either way, I moved on mostly and my current partner is incredible. I’m very faithful to them. Nonetheless, a couple months ago I started to realize that my ex is probably a trans girl. I accepted that it’s up to them and that I’ll just be there as a friend because that’s what friends do. So we started talking about queer stuff more and I was kind of chill with that. Very normal for my friendships. BUT THEN YESTERDAY they texted me like ‘lol some of my friends thought I was straight, so I had to explain that I’m not. Man, if only I knew I wanted (male fictional character) to fuck me before we broke up’ and I just lost my shit. Like, you’re telling me that the person who left me because they were straight NOT ONLY likes guys but REGRETS OUR BREAKUP? I legitimately don’t know what to say. Like, cool, be queer, but please don’t tell my poor polyamorous heart that the person who left me not only might still have feelings for me but has accepted that they like guys. It hurts. A lot, honestly, because I don’t have the bandwidth right now to do any poly shit, I just want to ignore my ex and love my lovely partner, the stars in my sky. I would raze a city for my ex without hesitation but thinking about them is the weirdest shit. I’m happy and sad, it’s so simple yet horrifyingly chaotic. I just need someone to hear this and maybe give me their take on all this mess. Because I think I still love them, but it doesn’t detract from how I love my current partner, but I don’t know if I can do poly and I think that both of the two are monogamous.