In a weird spot..
Hey! I just want to start by saying this subreddit has been insanely comforting to read as I feel really weird a lot of the time and it’s nice to see other people feel the same way.
The BM is super unfit and neglecting the girls (12&14) like crazy ever since she had a new baby with a new guy. My boyfriend and I just got a house but were thinking of moving anyways since of the area and landlords. The BM wants the girls to live with us immediately without really talking to me about it, which can be stressful as I’m in my early 20s. I’m still figuring how to life my life out and now I’ll need to guide them - which I have dealt with the same things they’re currently going through which makes me feel an attachment because I never had a positive adult in my life, and I want to try being that positive adult for them.
During christmas I bought the girls nice presents, which the BM either threw out or stole from them.. Which bummed me out like crazy. I constantly am being under appreciated and it just gives me such a bad feeling. I don’t feel like my boyfriend understands my concerns to the extent that I feel them. I’m always stressed out and always worried about them and I’m scared that I won’t be good enough.
I don’t know, this was kind of a vent and an advice.. How have other step moms dealt with moving in with the kids long term, how did schedules/rules work, how did you make it work with your partner, etc?
Honestly, any advice will be taken. I appreciate unbiased opinions, I just feel insanely stuck in a mental state where I don’t feel like anyone close to me relates.