I'm done, glimmer gone
I've been hesitant to make this post because I've had moments where I thought I was done with my LO, but then they hoovered me back in and the fantasy started all over again. But during those times I still felt limerant, just on the downward spiral instead of the high.
This time feels different though. I don't feel limerant anymore. I feel like I lost the glimmer for this person. Like I see them for who they are. Someone who can never give me what I want.
It was crushed by them clearly giving way more attention to another woman. I lose interest fast in a LO when they want someone else. And I'm not even sure they want this other woman, but it's still too soul crushing to see it happening to continue to fantasize about them. My self worth is too high for that. Not to mention I didn't want to destroy my marriage so I did set out to find any reason to stop fantasizing. It had to be done. So yes there is hope for the addiction to end!! it does end when you do everything possible to lose the glimmer. Sometimes that means reaching out and getting rejected. Rejection I think is a good way to end the glimmer, then you have to work on re-wiring the addiction to fantasize.