My gf just revealed to me that she's asexual but i do want sex in the near future
Me and my girlfriend (im a lesbian) have been dating for 6 months. we are both minors and i dont want to specify my age but i am older than 14. only our friends in our school know we are dating and they have specifically told not to tell anyone that we are dating as we both dont want to deal with the homophobia.
she revealed to me in passing conversation a couple of weeks ago that shes asexual. we havent held hands or kissed yet. now, holding hands is fine by me as if we held hands in public it could out us and holding hands when we hang out alone doesnt really make sense. however, i do want to kiss her!!!! im not the horniest person in the world, but as i am a teenager i do definitely want to be intimate with her and if shes asexual, i dont know how to do that. she also hasnt shown any sings of wanting to kiss me. i dont want to make her feel uncomfortable by initiating a kiss or make things awkward (which sounds odd to most people who usually have kissed by 6 months), but i fear if i dont initiate it then we will never end up kissing...
i didnt really know who to ask for for advice, as no-one i know really has any knowledge about asexuality so i came here as you guys are much more likely to have a good understanding. i know asexuality is a spectrum and that some asexuals CAN want sex sometimes, but how do i know if she does? obviously the right answer is to communicate with her but i dont know how to bring it up as ive thought of ten billion ways but they all seem awkward.