i don't dream of building a life with someone. Definitely never wanna live with a partner, marry, or even have to talk to any person *every* day, regardless of how much i like and care about them. I think relations are awesome in general, but at most I'd want to see someone 1x/week in the context of either pure friendship OR a primarily sexual connection on top of a friendship
Now, it's not that I'm someone who doesn't like emotional intimacy. But rather that deep convos and emotional bonding feel like a bare minimum for any friendship of mine. If we don't bond emotionally or talk about anything real, I feel like I would say "we have met before/I know that person" but not necessarily that we're friends or have a connection.
Sharing emotions for me does not raise a connection to a romantic level in any way. It is the connection.
As for gestures, In the past someone bought me jewelry and flowers and made me handmade stuff, and I know it was supposed to be a romantic gesture, but it didn't make me feel any closer. I always want flowers since they're gorgeous, but I don't feel like it has anything to do with the relationship. Im equally as happy buying flowers for myself, or just seeing them outside. And was equally happy when a friend got me flowers as opposed to a dating partner.
When I was a kid, I think I did want romance or daydream about that type of thing because of hollywood movie plots. primarily I felt that media-depicted romance would be a cure to my life issues. But that fully dissipated as I matured
In terms of crushes, i dont exactly know how to define a crush either. If I feel safe around someone and want to have sex with them or hang out with them, my mind will drift toward them often since it's a pleasant distraction :)