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my plan: planning to runaway: May 2027 AT THE EARLIEST. I’ll be 18 and hopefully will have had my license and should have graduated by then. I’m not a bad student, I’ll probably end HS with a 4.0, and NHS, NAHS, humane society club, and a lot of volunteer hours but my competition is pretty competitive for scholarships around me so I don’t stick out all that much even w that, I can try community college to get costs lower but my area still has high costs even for that, which is actually why I want to travel to (placeholder possibly: Cali) I hear a lot of people saying it’s better for the costs of college (even tho it’s high living cost) and better for people like me (FTM)

honestly my plan isn’t the best, and I’ve posted in another subreddit abt this and I didn’t get the most helpful advice besides stick with my living situation til I can get out w/o being houseless but I am very mentally unstable when I’m
Subjected to this kinda life (trying not to get too specific but while I would love to do that, realistically I’m not strong enough to stay subjected to my living situation for a lot more years which is sucky

This week I’ve talked w a girl whos wanting the same thing, to leave, she has no plan really or no idea what she’s doing but she wants to get out, ik her irl and were not persay close but she’s not a stranger, i really wanted a roaddog for safety and just to make things easier and ect wise but I don’t want to bring her along if it’s gonna drag me down

concerns:

1. she’ll still be a minor when we leave (I won’t) that it might cause more problems (jobs or ect while on the road) (she’ll stay a minor for 1-2 years After my earliest leave date? Honest don’t know her that well to tell)
2. she doesn’t have any plan really and would just follow me (could be good because while I do have a varying plan, I know I want to end up in a certain place
3. I don’t know her that well, we still have a year til we “might go” so I can get to know her but it’s a uncomfortable/not close relation atm
4. I wanted a roaddog but I feel as though two afab people look more enticing? To predators so might not be safe? But also idk might be better than being alone?

I want advice on a few things: location I go to (looking for cheap CC/college, (trying to get into forensics) What I should bring, car while traveling or wait til I get to my destination?, bring the girl and if not then someone else or no, and anything else that would help!

I turn 18 in September, and finish high school in may 2027 and I would likely run away some time after I finish HS, I know that I have a long future (though my options w college are already dim and ect) and maybe I’m romanticizing homelessness or some nomad vagabond lifestyle but I want to leave my household very badly. My dad was very mentally abusive in my childhood and a bit physically but only when I was very young, currently he is much better but still feel sick around him and he still neglects my health and I’ve come to terms w cutting him off some day. (I’m sure he would react negatively to me coming out similar to my dads wife who will definitely be against me coming out) I could try to get help from other family but I have many reasons why I don’t want to reach out them but to sum it up, them still being in contact w dad, their own financial situation.
Basically I’m asking is if going homeless to be myself and try to find happiness (?) is worth sacrificing the house over my head currently.

About College, it’s a weird situation and my dream is to get a job in forensics, I have no way to pay for it (father refuses to pay/help and FAFSA won’t help much til ur 24 because my dad makes so much money, my older sister tried to do college on her own and went bankrupt, ik there are ways to bypass the FAFSA thing but nb ik was able to do it)

If I stay in my household I’ll be closeted and ruining my mental health more that I’ve attempted suicide and gone into hospitals multiple times bc of it, so I just don’t know if it’s worth it to stay and be miserable or leave and be miserable but by myself and on my own terms.

If I did go homeless I would likely travel, which probably doesn’t help me much and is probably be a bad idea and I can’t really justify besides it being a weird want

I don’t know how realistic my plan, or lack there of, is which is kinda why I want advice, if I should even leave, what I should bring, where I should go, anything honestly