Hi guys,
I was with my ex for ~2 years, we broke up 3 months ago but he wanted us to stay friends.
A week before we met to show him my new apartment, I told him I still love him,he said it back. I asked him to think about us getting back together and he agreed.
We met again yester for lunch and movie, verything felt good. Then I asked if he thought about it and he said he doesn’t think it’s a good idea and that we’re “better as good friends"
That’s what triggered me,not the rejection, but the “friends” part.
He doesn’t act like a friend at all. He never texts first, barely puts effort, and if I don’t reach out, we just don’t talk. It was kind of like this even during the relationship,
I got frustrated and told him i am literally still blocked on Instagram since our breakup what kind of friends are like this? And that he can’t expect love/respect without giving it and that no one wants a one-sided connection or to be friends with a "dead person". I wanted to just hug and say goodbye but he didn't want, so i told him just dont expect love and respect without doing the same from your end, and that i wish for him that he can find a person that doesn't treat him as he treated me.
Now I feel like I wasted my time and I’m confused how someone can say “I love you” but act so distant and low-effort, i feel bad cause i talked like this but it really hurt me how he coldly said we cant be back together or that we are good friends, i always used to find an excuse for our problems and get back together cause i love him, on the other hand he doesn't, and the smallest mistake i make he can be sad for weeks or not willing to talk or fix.
Until now i dont feel sad about this only i feel sad about myself i literally moved out of my country and did lots of things to be with him, and i fought alot and suffered alot, he did alot also i am not making myself the better but he cant or not willing to fight for us to be together not willing to think that he might be wrong or not caring or whatever, i love him still but after yesterday i just deleted his contact and he did the same after (i realized cause his profile pic disappeared after i did). But the problem is that in my heart i still love him and if he ever comes and talk i will just forget everything cause i am willing to be with him and have that small hope of reconciliation. In the sametime he is like this, i dunno what to do with myself or feelings or if there is any hope, but i am really tired,