24F partner 24M : Need advice for important decision in relationship( 4 year)
Hey everyone,
I am in a position in my life where I need some advice but don't really have anyone around me whom I think I can consult. I need advice regarding my current situation in my relationship, I am at a critical stage where I need to take important decision but definitely don't want anyone else to take it for me, hence just maybe need a good discussion about the pov of more experienced and wise people maybe.
A bit about myself:
I am 24 and doing my Masters currently. Previously I had a job for almost 2 years which paid well but i decided that I want more for myself career and growth wise and decided this was the right time and decision for me.
I have always been very highly ambitious, hard working, disciplined and a go getter. I love to plan, weigh pros and cons very cautiously before making a decision and always prepared for the worst.
A bit about my partner:
They share the same education as me till bachelors and are employed at a good company now with a comfortable salary in my home country. They are more laid back, chill and easy going.
The issue:
Since I have moved for my master's and will ultimately work here as well, we have a long distance relationship now. Initially we decided that they would also move here so that we can be close. Despite all this, they show no action or take any interest in even applying to jobs here let alone make the move. Seems like they have become more comfortable with their current life without me. While there is no scene of cheating or anything, there is no action of love or desperation to make the move as well. We have had multiple fights over this and now I have just stopped reacting knowing i cannot change a person unless they want to. Their laid back lifestyle is now affecting their own growth as well as they are no more working on their skills. they spend most of their time with friends having fun in excess that they just barely get done with their job, let alone self growth.
I am trying to make peace with this but it also makes me question about our future together where I see only myself carrying the burden of the two of us. Me making them move with me and me taking charge of all decisions or responsibilities. And it makes question how I am going to handle all this.
tl;dr We are together for the past 4 years and they fulfil all my criteria, which to be honest I think is difficult. I definitely love them and it is mutual but the lack of action and this lazy irresponsible lifestyle that they have kind of bothers me.
I am planning for our wedding in 2 years from now and definitely do not want to make a decision that I will regret.
Please advise me on how to see this and what to do. I definitely dont want someone else.