Should I be safe by staying in stability and feeling unfulfilled but or leave to explore the unknown?
For context, I’m a 29yr old male. I currently live in a rural town in Australia on a working holiday visa for the last 7.5months. Prior to this, I was travelling Asia and volunteering in hostels to support myself.
I’ve been in this rural town for far longer than I expected - I came out here to just do a bar job for a few months and then the plan was to go. However, about half way through the initial 3 months, I met someone, during a time when I felt I could never learn to open up to someone after years of insecurity.
After my tenure at my bar job was up, I decided to stay for her. Through luck and sheer will, I got a decent paying job and a place to live. All is going so well.
However, out of the blue, my relationship ended on her side due to her saying we are so different and a bunch of other excuses that really just say “I don’t like you as much as I thought you did and I’m not willing to make it work”. I was literally distraught as I really tried for this to work but it didnt go the way I thought it did.
In total, we dated probably 4 months but for me it was a very strong 4 months. I’ll look back on it with fondness as it made me realised I liked the newer version of me I was becoming.
So I gave it some time and I said I wasn’t gonna leave because I’m literally in the best financial position of my life. I do not want for anything anymore. But the main reason I stayed is no longer there and I’m feeling bored/confused.
I am considering looking at other jobs elsewhere just purely on the basis of seeing what’s out there but I really like the stability I have going on with work and my life in general. I’m truly comfy, I’m just bored more or less outside of work nowadays. I am also trying to meet someone as I feel I’ve got a lot of love to give while I’m able but as it’s a small town, slim pickings are expected but it’s not that big of a deal. I was single the majority of my life anyway prior to this. I haven’t really ran into my ex more than once since the break up either as we don’t have similar social circles or anything, so I’m not really worried about running into each other that often.
Would you stay for more than another couple months (to save and move for the next opportunity) or would you go out and explore / take some time off? I definitely agree I should stay at least 1-2 more months just to save but I’m feeling like it’s kinda wasted effort now to stay in the same place, especially as time goes on and I look back on the good times I initially had and none of it is the same anymore.
I just wanna see what others would say or how to approach this. Thank you