My girlfriend is a pathological liar and she doesn’t even know it
My girlfriend often tells lies about things she doesn’t need to lie about, or always twists the truth. For example:
We made some plans while we were at the gym last night. We just moved into a new apartment and are trying to get a washing machine, and there is a store on the same complex as the gym that sells appliances. So we decided that we were going to get up early, go to the gym, then go to the store, two birds with one stone.
We woke up late (around 9 AM as opposed to the planned 6-7 AM) this morning, and now she’s telling me that we planned to go to the store, get the washing machine, come home, wash, then go to the gym. I was shocked, confused, and upset as this was a complete distortion of the conversation we had. She said she just interpreted what we were going to do differently, and insists that’s what we agreed on when I know for a fact that’s not the case, because it would be a waste of gas and I know I wouldn’t have agreed to that.
She always twists events to remember them how she wants to. I feel like I am being gaslit. I got upset and cursed an expletive at her and we had an argument. I shouldn’t have responded that way, but this is a problem we’ve had before. I really dislike when she tries to twist reality, saying things happened that didn’t, or happened in a way that only she has recollection of. I had no problem changing the plans since we got up late, but why lie about what we agreed to in the first place?
She is an amazing girlfriend otherwise, but this really grinds my gears. I suspect this might be some form of defense mechanism from her childhood, based on observations I’ve had, but nothing changes no matter how much I confront her about it, whether I do so calmly from a place of understanding, or get upset by her mischaracterizing events and saying things we both know I didn’t say.
Any advice?