Is it normal to be attracted to women, but not identity with the word lesbian or queer?
For the last year or so I've finally admitted to myself that I'm attracted to women. I identified as bi for a while, and on occasion I have the odd moment where I think I'm attracted to men, but really, if I'm honest I think it's just the remnants of comp het. I'm not ready to date yet, but have come out to a few friends. I just don't feel like the word lesbian or queer fits me. It doesn't feel right. In my mind, I'm just a woman who is attracted to women. Gay or sapphic feels better, but again, not 100% right. Bi feels the closest, but I'm not sure if that's just because it's easier/because I have these odd moments of thinking 'yeah, I could have a husband' when in reality, the idea of seeing a man naked let a lone sleep with them makes me cringe and freak out a bit. I have had male partners in the past, but I think I just liked the attention, and never really had a meaningful relationship, it was really just about sex, which felt kinda meh. I remember thinking 'it's harder for women to come during sex, so I should just accept that I won't'. I also wouldn't let myself come during oral. So, whilst I don't have any doubts about being attracted to women, I don't identify with any of the words.