How do you cope with the responsibility
Im in Scotland so we do get a lot of support. However I am struggling with the tiny things. They all add up into a mountain. Like paying the bills, sorting mums taxis as she still goes out a few times a week. Her mobility is poor so she struggles to get incontinence pants on. Bins, sorting her gardener and cleaner..
I live 20 miles away and am all she has. Her friends are elderly too.
I have 20yr history of anxiety and depression. Work a professional job, am lone parent to my 16yr old and have a newish relationship with my partner.
I struggle accepting that I have to deal with my mums dementia... There is no option. I limit my visits to twice a week but obviously these will have to increase. I hate that Im resentful as my mum did a lot for me and I want everything perfect for her.
My gp has signed me off work for a month but I do enjoy work. I find it hard to accept how messy this all is and how its gonna get worse.