Roast Beef Shame
Hi this is like one of my first Reddit posts but it’s late and I’m struggling and upset. 19f (almost 20).
I think I hate my labia. I wish I didn’t, I used to not hate them. I hear such awful things said about labia and vulvas that look similar to mine.
I opened Reddit and was doing some googling to see if anyone could relate or if I could find anyone saying anything comforting. I even looked at pictures of real diverse vulvas (not the porn kind) to see if any looked like mine, and I feel like it just made me feel worse because mine is darker on the edges and I miss when it wasn’t.
In the comments of posts talking about similar struggles, all people had to say was “I like roast beef” or “embrace the beef curtains” and things like that and it all just made me feel so much worse. I hate that comparison. I don’t want to think of my vulva like that.
Im also in a WLW relationship and I love my partners vulva… she would never judge mine and knows Im insecure about it and has nothing but good things to say. They are very understanding about it but I have a hard time talking about it because they don’t have the same type as me and also they are also a bit biased lol.
Im kind of just ranting but I wanted to see if anybody else understands because it’s hard to just embrace the “beef curtains” when thats a disgusting term and it makes me feel awful about my anatomy. I don’t know what to do to start loving myself down there again. Would love to know if anybody here has had or overcome the same struggles or just has any insights at all because self love is really important to me but for some reason I feel so ugly down there.
I personally think I am attractive everywhere else so it’s just weird to feel shame about such an important part of my body.