Validation needed
Hello. My daughter is almost 5. No diagnosis, but i suspect ADHD in myself, my husband, and her brother. Her main symptom is emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity. If she is corrected or has to do something she doesn’t want to do a switch flips and she becomes out of control. I know she’s flooded and we mostly have to wait it out. When the switch flips back she’s fine again. Sweet and cooperative.
I struggle with how to parent and set boundaries. The easiest approach is to give in as much as possible or bribe her to keep her regulated. Obviously there are things we have to do sometimes or safety issues that can’t be avoided. I’m conflicted if this makes things worse though. Are we choosing the easy path in the moment, or is this appropriate for neurodivergent kiddos? I’ve seen comments about NT approaches not working, but no specific examples. I still feel torn about being too permissive and making her a brat.