Hello, this is gonna be a bit but I'll get down to the basics. I'm F20, my partners are M19 (B2) and F19 (B1), we're all trans and long-distance, though we plan to be frequent visitors for the time being.
I love my partners. I met B1 first and she's been an absolute blast to be with. We had been dating for 3 years before B2 got a crush on both of us, and so we all got into a triad. I've had my own hiccups and so have they, but overall I haven't regretted the relationship and I love the both of them to bits.
The issue is that I am, as I call it, the secret partner. My partners both have different varieties of homophobic parents and so we agreed that it'd be best for them to be the public face of the relationship, since they're the opposite sex and thus look straight. I have learned as this continues that I have become insanely worried about my position in the triad, since I'm not able to be as public with them as I would like to. This is not to say that they don't understand it, I've talked about it with them and I understand the situation and they've comforted me a million times, but it still hurts to have B2 call B1 his partner and not one of his partners whenever they make a public post.
Have any of y'all been through this, and if so, do y'all have advice on how to handle the mental side of this? I don't think they don't love me and I know they're doing it because the families wouldn't be as friendly to them having two partners instead of one, but I feel like I'm gonna freak out too much if I can't get a grip on this.