Unexpected dating situation. We both just got out of long relationship/marriage. I have questions
I’m 34F & left a 4 yr relationship in late Dec. I was unhappy for at least a year & felt super free & relieved by March this year.
I joined Hinge for a laugh with no real intention to date until maybe later on in the year & matched with a guy I loosely know from parties when I was around 17-19 (no hookup history btw). Anyway, he was in relationship/married for about 8 years until January this year. They have 2 kids (6+8 year old). I’m childfree by choice (& have had the surgery) but I’m surprisingly tolerable with him having children. He seems like an amazing father so I find that attractive
Anyway, we matched on Hinge (I’ve had him on Instagram/facebook since I was young) & was very surprised to see he was single. We kinda had a chat & vented about our circumstances. I told him that we should catch up when things settle down (me thinking in weeks or months down the track) & he wanted to see me within a few days.
Anyway, we went to a bar & got along super well. We kinda held hands a bit & pecked goodbye & I have seen him 7 times since first week of April. We’ve done a mix of romantic getaway at Airbnb, nature walks, he’s cooked me dinner, and I always stay over at his when I’m visiting him. This is all so unexpected but I really like him. He’s so kind and sweet. We message everyday, send morning/night texts, send occasional heart emojis etc. I really like him but acknowledge we need to take things slow which he has also mentioned given he has kids etc so he said he is hesitant about PDA at this stage (we live in a small town so word would get to the ex wife quickly). He has 50/50 custody & they can apply for divorce after 1 year of separation. I suspect he is a bit worried about complicating things & not having as many rights with the children or her getting unfair and wanting to take money from his businesses when they go through the offical divorce. Plus we haven’t had an exclusive chat so I understand not wanting to show affection in public as it’s basically announcing that you’re together. The vibe between us does feel more romantic and definitely not a fwb.
Anyway, to my point, I really like him & though we should take things slow, I would feel more comfortable if we deleted the apps and didn’t see others. Do you think it’s an appropriate time now (6 weeks of seeing him 1-2 times week) to have that chat & how should I word it? Should I bring it up in person or over text?